s*x Question .. Ladies only!!!?

Question

Okay...i dont know if this is just me or what...I am 21 and Ive had a few sexual partners in my lifetime. My current boyfriend, who I now live with and have been with for a while...well...we have s*x lol. Heres the question- Every one of my sexual experiences (not just with him, but my whole life) have not been pleasurable. When a guy goes into me, I just feel pressure...No pleasure. Is this how its supposed to be??? I always just lay there, and now my boyfriend feels bad because he thinks hes doing something wrong, but I tell him thats its not just him, its been this way my whole life. Is there something wrong with me???

Answer 1

There is no need for you to go to the doctor. You just need to have your boyfriend finger you or go down on you until you find something you like. This is completely normal! So don't worry. Try having him find your g-spot, or you find your own g-spot! you can look up how to find it on the internet. it is really simple. when you find it, it will be like heaven! ha ha like you will know what you were missing out on the past few years! As for your boyfriend, don't just lay there!!! Breathe heavily and at least act like you are into it in order to please him! This will actually help get your blood pumping in the right areas in order for you to get a better sensation!! Look it up on the internet like I said. you will be surprised on how many things there are on it! I hope I can help!

Answer 2

You are not supposed to feel just pressure. What you seem to be experiencing doesn't sound normal it should be a pleasurable experience for you and your boyfriend. I would try and get to the bottom of why you are feeling this way. Has someone put you down in the past? If you have a female GP in your surgery I would try and talk to her and at least get a refferal to someone that can help you  

Answer 3

okay so i am 14 and u may think i wont be able to answer your question but trust me i'm pretty qualified. anyway it may be that you need to try different positions because that can help. it also helps to make him happy before you have s*x and during. if he is unhappy chances are he wont perform at him peak level. you can also try a little foreplay to help you get in the mood instead of just throwing him down and doing it. if all else fails ask a professional for tips and suggestions.

Answer 4

Your may need clitoral stimulation.  Some woman can not o****m from p***s/v****a stimulation only.  He may need to use his fingers on you, or you on yourself.  If you've never masturbated, now the fime to try it out and see if it works for you.  If it doesn, you may have to give your boyfriend a lesson  on how to please you.  You also may not be aroused enough before he enters you.  And if you aren't lubricated enough, that could be part of the problem too.

Answer 5

You and your guy just need to figure out what feels good for you.  Don't expect that you'll feel instant pleasure after penetration.  You and him need to find positions where you rub each other in the right places so that the both of you are happy.  I suggest that you get on top - it gives you control and you can figure out how to make s*x more pleasurable from here.

Keep in mind that most women don't achieve o****m through penetration alone.  Maybe your guy can stimulate you orally/manually before s*x? This might help a bit, set the stage, if you will.... :)  Oh, and don't be afraid to actively participate, relax and have fun...!  It will help get you more in the mood.  :)

Answer 6

I think there are a couple reasons you might feel uncomfortable during s*x.  You are young and you've only had a few sexual partners. So, I suggest trying a couple things different. Try using lubrication. I know you said you feel pressure, but it might be from the friction between you and your partner. Try "yours and mine" from KY.  I would also suggest different positions. I think girl on top gives you more control so you know what hurts and what is okay for you. From there, you'll figure out if it’s an issue with what you’re doing or if it's your body. You should see an OB/Gyn doctor if nothing changes.

Also, reassure your boyfriend that it is not him. Men have sensitive egos.  

Answer 7

go to the doctor because it might be a health problem/. s*x is suposed to be pleasurable. now go answer my questions

Answer 8

This happens to alot of women acutally. It might be because you have had sexual partners in the past that you are not as tight down there which will cause less pleasure if the man is smaller or something. Try new positions such as doggy. This gets a man closer to the g-spot and it is the most pleasurable position for most women.

Answer 9

Try stimulating yourself (C**t) while he is in you. It may help.

Answer 10

Some girls simply cannot get sexual pleasure from penetration alone, it's totally normal. Have a LOT of foreplay (oral s*x is fun!) and try out new positions.  

Answer 11

You may have a tilted uterus and/or the position is putting too much pressure on your bladder.  When possible, try using the bathroom first to empty your bladder.  The other answers are correct in that you should try different positions.  Try getting on top, that should alleviate any pressure to your body, but if it still feels uncomfortable then you should ask an OB/Gyn to take a look and make sure everything is where it should be.