s*x addict.?

Question

I'm fifteen, going on sixteen. I've had s*x 7 times, with four different guys. they were boyfriends, and that sounds pretty d**n horrible and gross. I haven't had s*x in a little over a month, because I'm trying to renew my abstince, obviously it's extremely tough to do.

I just don't know to say no, and I want the best serious advice.

I think i'm half way scared out of it, because last time i thought i was pregnant, and I was stressing up a snow storm.But any other ideas to renew abstince, and call me what you want.

But i'm attempting to turn over a new leaf. That's some type of d**n credit.

Answer 1

First of all, make it a point to never be in a position where you HAVE to say no. Whether that means dating guys who also want to stay pure until marriage and want to honor you by respecting your abstinence, or just not putting youself in situations that would tempt either you or the guy you're with. Don't be in secluded places alone with him. If a guy is pressuring you, just say NO. Don't be nice, be FIRM. A guy won't give up if you say one thing but he thinks your actions are saying anything else. It sounds cliched andcorny, but is nonetheless true: abstinence is the best birth control. If you find yourself having trouble, find some like-minded girls (not guys) who can hold you accountable and encourage you.

Good luck! ^_^ <3

-- a regular (?) 17 year old guy

Answer 2

1. I wouldnt call that a s*x addict, but you did mention that you can't say no

2. There's no shame in it, and I don't know why anyone would call you names.

3. If you really want to be abstinant, perhaps stop dating?

Answer 3

that's nothing... by the time I was 15, I'd had s*x 50+ times..... it got oring after a while....

Answer 4

Well first I am going to say congrats on deciding to turn over a new leaf. You certainly don't want to end up a pregnant teen mom. You should try hanging out with your female friends more often and doing things like going to the mall or movies or whatever you can think of. Even having a sleep over or watching movies at your house or their together. The more you hang with your friends the less you are around boys alone and you won't be constantly thinking about them. You might want to take a break from dating.

Answer 5

Well my dear you still have a long way to go. The fact that you are still in your teen's proves that you have a whole lot to learn about life. Remember you have your whole life ahead of you. You definatelly dont want to end up like one of those women who had a babby early in life & then didnt know what to do with it. It  would not be good for the babby & definately not good for you dear. So take things slowly & dont rush into having s*x every time you think of it. Forget what has hapened in the past & look towards a bright future.

Answer 6

look seriously. i'm 18 and i didn't even lose my virginity until i was almost 18 years old and it was to my fiance. one thing you need to think about is whoever you have s*x with will always be on that "list" and you have to live with it. another thing is these days guys have gotten even more loose, they find any girl at all to have s*x with and most times they don't use protection, that's about an 85% percent chance of them getting an std and giving it to you and some of them aren't curable meaning they never ever go away and once again you'll have to live with it. then we have the teen pregnancy thing, i think that if you are responsible enough to have s*x you're responsible enough to deal with the consequences, that means that you will always have a chance at becoming pregnant whenever you have s*x, whether you take birth control or not. if you don't want or can't handle a child the only way to truely prevent this is by not having s*x. and your birth control, the pill.. you have to take it everyday at the exact same time or it is 45% less effective in preventing pregnancy. my best advice to you is whenever you are faced with the choice of having s*x think of all the bad things that could happen.

Answer 7

There are a few things that bother me with this question... firstly, you assume that this community is going to judge you a w***e.  I know I don't speak for everyone, but I think it is pretty safe to say we are answering because we want to help, not hurt.  If someone where writing mean things that person should be reported and comments removed.  

Secondly, I sense a lot of shame from you regarding these sexual encounters.  Where is that coming from?  Are you religious?  Are mom and dad?  friends?  Who told you s*x was bad and gross?  It's not bad or gross.  It's a normal part of life and it is particularly normal for a teenager to be experimenting with s*x.  Seven does not seem to be a large number of times.  Four different boyfriends doesn't even sound too far out of the normal range.  However, having s*x is making you feel bad, not good (well, good for a few minutes, but bad over all) and THAT is the problem.  

That problem is one that MANY teens and adults struggle with.

So, if your problem is that your actions and your morals don't fit together you need to take a close look at both and see how you can make them mesh together.  Is it tough not to have s*x because your body wants sexual stimulation?  At 16 years old there are so many hormones pumping through your body it could make your head spin.  This is completely normal.  Perhaps you could explore your own body.  It is also completely normal to touch yourself and you should never feel any shame or embarressment about doing so.  

OR is it tough not to have s*x because you like the intimacy that you get from being with someone else?  If this is the case there are many different ways to experience intimacy.

Shame, guilt, remorse are all emotions that actually CAN lead to sexual addiction.  No, I don't think you are a s*x addict, but being frightened that you are one makes me think that this fear is real enough to be addressed.

Remember that your body is sacred. It is the only one you get, so share it responsibly (that means with condoms) with people that you really truely love and want to share it with.  When you have s*x again it should be because you both REALLY truely want to have s*x.  And there should be no regret the next day.  Take time to develop your relationship and abstain until you are ready.  Take control of  your hormones and your actions.  Reconsile your body and your head. :)  I really hope this helps.

Answer 8

Haha you aren't a s*x addict Hun!  Don't worry, 7 times with 4 guys is really nothing at all.  It's good that you're trying to stick by what you believe in now...maybe write a list of reason why you wanna be abstinent and look at that whenever you're  having a hard time.  You said you don't know how to say no?  Just do it.  It's not that hard, and guys will be brats either way.  If you give in they'll call you a s**t behind your back, and if you don't give in they'll be mad for a little while because they didn't get any.

Answer 9

15 ?

Jeez i was a virgin till i was 21, why you in such a hurry to catch a disease or get pregnant ?

You really want to get a reputation as being sl*t ? boys will sleep with ANYTHING so dont kid yourself you are special.

You are far too young to be messing up your body and your emotions by having s*x.

Be a strong celibate woman and stick to your resolutions, all the boys will want to sleep with you because you dont give out. One day you will meet someone that respects your decision and will know that you are worth waiting for.

Let the boys sleep with easy girls, they wont have any respect for them but you will be different.

Good luck and be strong.

Answer 10

s*x hormones are high for both girls and boys at 15 y/o, so of course you will have urges and desires to have s*x. This may be why you had a hard time saying no. Don't mistake these urges and bodily desires to be what you really want to do.

Yes, Jesus does want you do be pure, so don't believe those people who say that anything goes. I'm glad that you became afraid that you might become pregnant but in fact were not. The only 100% effective BC is to stay abstinent until you want a baby.

Condoms are only 86% effective at preventing pregnancy and that is if they are used exactly as directed. Sperm can live in your fallopian tubes for 2 days and it takes time for the egg to travel out of you. If you have s*x during that time there is a 14% chance of getting pregnant even if he is using a condom.

A pregnancy at this time in your life, before you are able to provide a good 2 parent home for your baby, could ruin your life and your baby's.

You have had some good advice along with some bad answers you got. If you hang around with other girls who are waiting untill they get married to have s*x that can help you a lot to keep the wise decision you've made to become abstinent again.

There are people who love you and want the best for you. Don't dissapoint them. Also, there are boys who will want to be your b/f and will not leave you if you are firm enough about saying you don't want to have s*x. If a boy does leave you because of that, it only means that he was never interested in YOU in the first place. He was only interested in having s*x.

The most effective BC if you do have s*x is for you to take BC pills and for you to insist the guy uses a condom exactly as directed. The other way is for you to use a diaphragm and spermicidal jelly in addition to the guy using a condom.

If the guy is positive for HIV ( and how do you KNOW that he isn't,  it only takes one time) then you will always have a 14% chance of catching that because condoms are the only thing that can help you not catch HIV. And you know that if you catch HIV, it is always fatal.

If a guy (or girl) catches HIV it can take up to a year for the body to build up enough antibodies to show positive on an HIV test. The only way to be sure a guy does not have HIV is to have him take a blood test, have no s*x for a year, and then have him tested again after that year. If he is still negative for HIV then you can be pretty sure that he doesn't have it and that you won't catch it.

By the way; NO you are not a s*x addict. Luv you hon.

Answer 11

I am happy you are trying to start over

thats what Jesus wants