s*x after childbirth....how many of you cheated??

Question

I was just wondering how many of you ladies cheated on the 6 week rule? I gave birth a little over 3 weeks ago and my husband and I "cheated" last night! I had a check up at 13 days post-partum and my OB/GYN said everything was healed and he prescribed me birth control pills and told me to come back in 4 weeks.

Well, I didn't exactly make it those 4 weeks! lol

So, how many others "cheated" on the 6 week rule?

BTW: I gave birth vaginally and I did have some tearing, but it's all healed and I'm not bleeding anymore.

Answer 1

Ha Ha - love this! ( picturing you whispering this to everyone like a naughty little girl...)

Everyone’s experiences make them an expert in their own right - so what is right for one couple may not be appropriate for another. Most couples wait for the magical 6 week mark  and are dreadfully disappointed when that incredible pre birth s*x doesn’t happen ( and this can be for a bunch of reasons).  The physical facts are that within six weeks of birthing, your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy weight and size. Breastfeeding assists in stimulating the hormones released around this function.   This is the reason that you are meant to have a six week check up and then are medically are ‘fit’ to commence intimate relations.  Ignored and unaddressed are the emotional and psychological changes that have occurred.

I have had 2 children, birthing them naturally with minimal tearing - no stitches with either. With the first one, I was so devastated, shocked and horrified at my experience and unprepared for the hormonal and bodily changes, that I was really uninterested for months afterwards - even though I did have s*x at  that 6 week mark - to please my husband. However, with the birth of my daughter, I was in a much better space, prepared and ready and was ready to go within a week. ( yea ha - we did wait another week - so I'made it' to 2 weeks....)

It all depends I guess, on your birth experience and the damage ( physically and mentally) that you have endured and the meanings you place upon those experiences in relation to  s*x. My advice for anyone who is wondering about when is the 'right time' is to keep an open and honest communication link with your partner and take things slowly – with little pressure – and connect again with yourself as a sensual being, before attempting to touch another.

Answer 2

I wanted to cheat but my bf wanted nothing to do with a unhealed v****a! :(

Answer 3

Lol, I was the opposite - just didn't want to do it at all! If you feel OK & you want to I think it's ok to go ahead & have s*x. Good for you for being in the mood lol. My boy is 10 mths old & it's still rare for me to really want to! Or more like mentally I want to but this stupid body doesn't seem to work anymore! Can't believe it is betraying me like this...

Answer 4

Same here...4 weeks in! =)

Answer 5

We did after baby #2... I say it was around 3 or 4 weeks PP...

After baby #1 though, I wanted NOTHING to do with s*x.  I had a 3rd degree tear and lots of stitches.  My vajayjay wanted nothing near it but some cool water and Tucks pads for WEEEEEEKS!

Answer 6

We waited four weeks, but I had a c-section. I think it would have hurt so much worse if I only waited four weeks after a vaginal delivery. But four weeks...so I guess we "cheated" too.

Answer 7

I broke the rule too! 3 weeks after the first- I didn't tear with that one.  4 weeks after the second-small tear...I really think it's just when you feel ready.

Answer 8

I'm guilty too.  With my first I had to have an episiotomy (sp?) and had a TON of stitches but I cheated at 4 weeks PP too.

With my second I tore a tiny bit and had 5 stitches but also cheated at 4 weeks.

I think as long as you feel up to it and are not bleeding or too sore then its fine to 'cheat' Ha ha

Answer 9

I waited until my bleeding stopped and 4 weeks after I delivered my son vaginally with tearing and stitches.  I wouldn't have done it any earlier however.  They only told me to wait a month on s*x, excercise, taking baths.

Answer 10

i would have......but i bled for 6 weeks

Answer 11

lol, I cheated too! with my first it was five weeks pp. With my second it was 1.5 weeks ( I gave birth vaginally, but no tears and everything was fine)

Answer 12

1 yes ONE week.  vaginal birth no tearing, was still bleeding.  then again at two weeks & so forth. u get the idea. i felt ok to so i did. Not exactly smart tho. I didnt get an infection but i still think i should have waited a lil longer. but my libido was up there for some reason. Now my baby is 6 wks and i feel like i rarely have a s*x drive. wierd huh.

Answer 13

i tore pretty bad so we waited the full 6 weeks and it still hurt really bad the first time we had s*x again.  he's 6 months old now and it can still be tender some times.

Answer 14

In England we have not such rule. It's more like  a guideline. You just do it when you feel ready. With my son I had stitches and had s*x at 5 weeks and my daughter - no stitches - 4 weeks. Have fun.

Answer 15

I was terrified!!  I prolonged the 6 weeks to about 10 weeks!!!  Congrats on your new baby!

Answer 16

i gave birth vaginally and did not tear and my doctor said i could have s*x when i felt ready to. I did at 2 weeks post partum and everything is and was fine!

Answer 17

cheated at 4 weeks...but hey...if it feels right..go for it!

-Chez

Answer 18

yep it took us three weeks....

Answer 19

4 weeks :-)

Answer 20

I had a c section and I cheated after 2 weeks....then we waited like 2 more though because it hurt.