s*x after giving birth?

Question

i gave birth 2 months ago and had s*x 3 times since then and it hurts like heck. the first two times i actually cried. my husband doesn't understand that it hurts he is always trying to get more. Help me is there anything i can do? ?

Answer 1

It is going to take some time. don't do it doggy style that is the worst. try spooning it wont hurt you. Tell your husband that's the only way he will get it.  

Answer 2

hmm....this kind of happened to me...but its been 4 months since i gave birth and im fine now. if it doesnt go away then see ur obgyn

Answer 3

you shouldnt have started until a full 2 months after, that is generally the rule... so i think the best thig for now is to stop for while, give it some time. id ask a doctor as well  

Answer 4

This is a subject most of us are too shy to talk about even with girlfriends - which makes is really sad and a danger to our well-being and health in the long run. I love how this beautiful community here on Yahoo is so open and honest with each other and the answers I have seen on many subjects - so supportive and clear.

You have only JUST birthed - so your hormones are all over the place, you will be tired, stressed, emotional, fearful and jubilant - all in the space of 5 mins. Your partner is proud, angry,fearful, missing your attentions and feeling left out,,,In other words- you are a normal parents of a 2 month old.

I have had 2 children, birthing them naturally. With the first one, I was so devastated, shocked and horrified at my experience and unprepared for the hormonal and bodily changes, that I was really uninterested in s*x or being even close to my partner for months afterwards - even though I did have s*x at that 6 week mark - to please my husband. and yes - it hurt and I cried too.  However, with the birth of my daughter, I was in a much better space, prepared and ready and was ready to go within a week. I was relaxed and in control of my emotions, hormones and took the time to nurture and honour my space.

I'd suggest anyone interested to go to http://www.reclaimsexafterbirth.com as there are free articles and lots of free info specially in this area. In no way does it demonize men nor pass judgments - there is a spot for asking questions too.

Everyone’s experiences make them an expert in their own right - so what is right for one couple may not be appropriate for another. Most couples wait for the magical 6 week mark and are dreadfully disappointed when that incredible pre birth s*x doesn’t happen ( and for some sometimes for months or years it just doesn’t come back to normal!!). The physical facts are that within six weeks of birthing, your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy weight and size. Breastfeeding assists in stimulating the hormones released around this function..This is the reason that you are meant to have a six week check up and then are medically are ‘fit’ to commence intimate relations. Your v****a will change shape – even if you had a C section – but especially ( obviously) if you birthed naturally. This does not have to mean for the worse – as many women report a heightened sensuality after birthing – so it CAN be so much better afterwards.

Lubricant is a definite must - if you want to think about it - its like you are losing your virginity again...You have said that s*x hurts - Ignored and unaddressed are the emotional and psychological changes that have occurred - as pain is very often a manifestation of these changes ( in addition ot the physical ones like stitches and healing going on)

It all depends I guess, on your birth experience and the damage ( physically and mentally) that you have endured and the meanings you place upon those experiences in relation to s*x. My advice is to keep an open and honest communication link with your partner and take things slowly – with little pressure – and connect again with yourself as a sensual being, before attempting to touch another.