s*x change girlfriend?

Question

I have been seeing a wonderful woman for about 4 months now and i have fall in love with her. she recently told me that when she was very young she had srs (sexual reassignment surgery) and i have been just confused ever since. she looks more like a woman than most girls i ever seen and nothing you would be able to tell. she was a model before and is just a great person but i am just having thoughts because i really do love her but it i keep thinking that i would really like to have children someday and just thinking about the reality of the situation.

I dont want to hear anyone say is gross or anything because she is real woman and has all same parts and i know looks more like many girls that you see everyday. i am just so confused about what i should do. ?

Answer 1

Talk to her about your concerns, your feelings, your dilemma regarding the children issue. Try to educate yourself about her situation. Why did she had to go through the surgery? Was she born intersexed, or she was a boy who had srs?  

Answer 2

she's probably really tired of ppl dredging up ancient history that she would rather forget. she's been honest with you. you love her. continue do to so, and move on.

Answer 3

Well there are options such as adoption or going into foster care maybe.

However if they are not something you are willing to consider then you need to tell this woman you have no real future together even though you think she is wonderful its just natural children are part of your plan.

You can either cut things off if there is definitely no future or you can continue and enjoy the time you are together and maybe see if things change on how you feel with the children issue.

Answer 4

I agree with others: there are so many kids who need loving homes, adoption is a win-win situation. You are a lucky man to find a loving relationship. Don't let it slip through your fingers! It sounds like you have a chance at having an awesome family.

And no, you are not g*y! There will always be some who think so, but they're just ignorant! Many of us know better: woman + man =/= g*y! Duh.

(clarify: =/= meaning "does not equal")

Answer 5

If you like her, then date her and see how it works out. If you can't have kids, you can always adopt.

Ignore Suza W, she's an idiot, and white with a nice***, is also an idiot

Answer 6

Wow, I can't believe some of the narrow minded answers here. But it only shows their mentality.

She is obviously a woman. Probably someone who was born with some kind of intersex condition no doubt, but most likely doesn't realize it. Many transsexuals don't realize they are actually intersexed.

I understand your dilemma. Like the another answerer said, you can consider adoption.

Kids grow up quickly and move on...but your lover is with you until the end of time.

Answer 7

if the operation ocurred when she was an infant , she may have been born with both male and female s*x equipment . this intersex condition is not commen but not as uncommen as most people think . just accept her . if you cant , let her find a more open minded lover .  

Answer 8

First, Suza W should never answer questions on LGBT again. That is the most insensitive thing I have ever read.

You love her, right? Well, you've only known her as a woman. The fact that she was previously a he shouldnt change your love. You have only been dating for four months, so dont think about children and the future so much. If you guys stay together and it works out, then you can look into it later. There are ways you can have children other than the conventional way.

Congratulations on finding a wonderful woman who makes you happy. You should do nothing, at this point. Just let the relationship grow and give it a chance.

Answer 9

personally i think that you should stay with her if you really care about her because that is all that matters is that you care about the person you should stay with her. hope this helps

Answer 10

You love her so you should stay with her. If you want to have kids adopt.

Answer 11

I know it may be hard for the fact u can't have children if u were to decide to have kids with her u could adopt. theirs many children without loving homes and I'm sure u could provide a loving home for some lil boy or gurl.  

Answer 12

so your both g*y.

I myself talked to a guy who got a s*x change, but he even admited the parts are not female and plus they could never have kids. They don't have the inside and the outside parts are not right as a female. Just admit your g*y.

um thanks for the thumb down?

Anyway posting this here you will get people claiming thats a women and go ahead and so on....very smart not to post this where mostly straights go.

If you want I still have the e-mail and he....who feels she expalins everything and how its not anything female. But he is striaght because he likes females even though he got surgery to look like one.

Also wear safety male on male s*x they tend to get aids more likley then g*y females.

Edit: Am not being rude just honest. But if you do date her....sure....anyway if you do date her and things don't work out please get tested and if you date a female let her know because a lot of females do date bi guys but never stay long with them. So just be fair...thats all. And if you have any family tell your mother and father or grandparents and see how they feel about this.