s*x in The City a lie? Are single, professional women over 30 really unhappy?

Question

I read an article written by a female therapist who claims that happy 'Freemales' (single, happy, professional females) is a myth. In her practice she's counseled hundreds of these women and she finds that they're secretly miserable, desperate to find a man, and only fake their happiness in public.

Please read the article before responding.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1024317/Forget-tosh-freemales--single-women-say-happy-lying.html

Answer 1

And just how hot and attractive would these 30-ish women be if she admitted she was depserate,miserable and unhappy?

Aren't men more attracted to successful independant women???

Ay ay ay, we can't win either way!

Answer 2

I don't know too much about what those women are doing in their own lives. But "s*x and the City" is written by, and for, g*y men.

Answer 3

huh? I don't know, possibly, possibly not. I do think "s*x & the City" is a bit of an escape for many professional women, because nothing like that could happen w/out unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. Just life.

Answer 4

I do not need to read any article to know that many women ARE unhappy, as well as happy as-can-be.  I think women, more so than men, grow up starry-eyed, expecting Sir Lancelot (or in men's case some Hollywood bombshell) to sweep them off their feet.  This sets them up for disappointment, and when reality sets in, like a less than fairy tale marriage, they're unhappy.  These ladies are always comparing themselves to the few unrealistic role models they view on the silver screen and TV.

On the other hand, I think we men have had enough disappointment growing up, that any pretense of a fantasy has long since dissipated.  No mother ever told her son that he would grow up to meet a woman who would do all the things read about in fairy tales.  Thank God for that.

Answer 5

I think, to some extent, woman are sold a great big lie about how great and wonderful it is to be on your own and living for yourself, and how happy material possessions and financial success can make you. When the reality doesn't live up to the fantasy or the expectations placed on a woman to "have it all" (career family, money wealth success children) they might feel empty

Answer 6

As a single, professional woman over 30, I have to disagree.  I'm very happy with the way my life is going.  I do have a bf, but in all honesty, the ability to claim I have a bf doesn't make me any happier than I was before I met him.

Answer 7

I don't think that this only applies to women. There are a lot of single, professional men who are just as unhappy. Human beings need a significant other. It's just a fact of life. Not to say that all single people are miserable, but I believe the thought of having a partner is always in the back of their mind.

Answer 8

Most people are miserable, even if they have a man, kids and the whole nine yards.  A big problem with a lot of people today is that they always want more.  They buy a house, they want a bigger one.  They get a new job, they want more money.  They have a car, not the perfect one.  And it never ever ends.  I don't think this problem is limited to only females, I think it's a human problem, probably bigger in America than most places.

Answer 9

So I don't exist???

Answer 10

We all have expectations and the media makes us want to have unrealistic ones. So everyone in a way is unhappy.

But unhappiness come from withing. So my advice is to ditch the television and use the time to live and appreciate live. That put things more in perspective.

That show is written by g*y male writers BTW. So it wouldn't surprise me to be untruth as its based on observation and not on living.

Answer 11

1) I'm not 30 yet.  2) I admit that sometimes I get lonely and wish I had someone to listen to.

Now, my 2 confessions noted, I must say that I'm quite happily single. I don't really like relationships. I'm not even the biggest fan of close friendships. I listen to people talk about their significant others and think, oh thank God, I don't have to deal with this c**p. I like my solitary little life. I can take up the whole bed. I can sleep late. I don't have to share my space with another soul other than the cat and dog (and even they get put-out when I'm just not in the mood). I think what makes women unhappy is the pressure to be happy and the pressure to get married. People ask me when I'm going to find myself  husband. I laugh at them. What do I need with a husband? I'm my own electrician, plumber, drywall contractor, landscaper... all I need is someone to do the dishes, and really that's no basis for marriage, is it?

But a lot of women just get bogged down in archetypes.

Answer 12

Read the entire article, and she sounds convincing. As much as I believe that single, professional women/men over 30 are happy once they know/have the means to handle the 'loneliness and desperation' that this article talks about, I also understand (from this article) that they can be secretly unhappy. There is no sure way to know unless they admit it. Again, it differs from person to person, what they need/want, and what their attitude/outlook is.

Answer 13

No, it's a TV show, aka fiction.

Answer 14

The women on s*x and the City are considerably unhappier than their real-life counterparts. Women like the ones described in this article are, and have always been, a minority.