s*x offender?

Question

is there anything my husband cant do to my daughter..hes a convicted felon on the s*x offender registry and hes already served his time in prison..this is my daughter from a previous marriage....is he still allowed to spank her and be left alone with her or how does that work

HE IS NOT A CHILD MOLESTER!!!!

Answer 1

your daughters wellbeing and saftey comes first. end of story.

if you have a child you shouldn't even be dating a criminal. think of her over you. that's how it should be.

Answer 2

not to be mean or seem closeminded, but this question is  little odd.  you better be careful for her and for yourself around him.  if you are not in a position to tell him yourself that he is not allowed to spank her and can't tell him he can't be alone with her then you don't have enough authority in the relationship.  it's your kid not his.  i don't know what he did but with s*x offenders it is usually about control so i wouldn't ok spankings or give him any leverage over her.

Answer 3

You should not be married to a s*x offender.  Your daughter is your first priority ... he can't be left alone with her, and there is no way in h*ll he is in any position to 'spank' her.  You will lose custody of her to the State if you allow anything to happen to your daughter(like spanking or other corporal punishments), even if it is by leaving her in his care and you don't "know" about whatever 'happens'  It's a sad truth but you have made some choices that are really going to make your life tough for a while.  Try to get things going in a positive direction.  Move back with your parent(s) and get a divorce, start your own life and when you get going along nicely, you might just meet a man who will be fine to marry ... once your daughter is grown and on her own  :)

Answer 4

RED FLAG! just because he has served his time in jail it doesn't mean he rehabilitated.  A little time in jail doesn't change a s*x offender in to a non s*x offender.  Why do you think he has to be registered as a s*x offender?????  the answer is because he could offend again.  My consern is your daughter who will one day grow up and he could just do something to her.  Why take the chance? Are you that desparate?  Look for another guy that doesn't have a history...especially like the one that your husband has now.  Just the fact that he was in jail for sexually offending someone gives me the creeps!  

And NOOOOOOOOO he shouldn't put his hands on her to discipline her!  Thats your job not his!!!!!!!  If something happens to your little one because you chose a man with this kind of history, you will regret it for the rest of your life!  I don't even know the guy and I mistrust him already.  Your daughter is worth more than what your giving her.  And if you can't see the danger and blinded with love, then protect your daugher by not leaveing her with him alone!!!!! PLEASE

Answer 5

i would never leave her alone with him. EVER! would you want to run the risk of anything ever happening to your daughter?

Answer 6

You need to check with your state. Every state had it's own rules. If he is on parole and probation, and a stipulation of it is not to be around children - his probation officer can issue a VOP.

To be on the safe side, ask your husband for his paperwork, it should be on there - what he can and cannot do. At this point, until you get the info - I wouldn't let him touch her or be alone with her. This is for his protection.

Good luck

Answer 7

I would suggest that he find out for sure from someone who knows the laws in your state/county. In the meantime, he should play it on the safe side and never be left alone with her. Or spank her, bathe her, etc, etc, anything that could be misconstrued as being wrong or suspicious by anyone.

Answer 8

A s*x offender?  If it was me, I wouldn't even allow him in the same home as my daughter, much less leave her alone with him.  I don't agree with spanking children either - whether or not it's done by a s*x offender.

Answer 9

Not to be rude but why the h**l do you have a s*x offender living with you...Your daughter safety and well being should come first no matter what......

Even if he's not a CHILD MOLESTER.its just the thought of having a s*x offender living with you with you daughter there...

It would be a cold day in h**l before I let a s*x offender live with me with my daughter's  there....

Answer 10

He will always he under suspicion, but he can raise her like any other father, but if her biological father pushes the issue, you will have major problems.

I hope none of his conditions for release forbade him from being in a home with children or anything like that.

As long as he remains registered, does nothing to harm your daughter, and you do not have legal issues from any other family members against him for being in the home, you should be ok.

Answer 11

sorry, but are you crazy.....you shouldn't even take that chance, he is a s*x offender, he raped someone,.... he should be 6,000,000,00 miles away from her.....first of all why would you marry a s*x offender. where are  your parents???.....was you desperate to have a husband??? leave him asap....don't do that to your daughter, and you better not leave her alone with him.. he could be ploting on your daughter now.....you never know what goes on in his head..........and how do you know he's not a child molester.......

and you must have some concerns cause your asking this question....do the right  thing for your little girl...take this from a girl that was molested.....when i was a little girl.....i have severe depression problems cause of what happened to me.....

Answer 12

I dont know what is like in your state but in ours a registered s*x offender it not even allowed to be around children under the age of 18 unless they are his.You might want to check on this and why would you want to leave a registered s*x offender alone with your daughter to begin with?

It also constitutes what your opinion of a child molestor is. I believe any adult male who has s*x with someone under the age of 16 should be considered a "child molestor" he went to prison for some reason.

Answer 13

Think about what he's done in the past and think should u leave your child home with him. He may not be as child molester but you really have to ask yourself Can i trust this guy? Does my child feel safe? Am i doing the right thing? Think about your child.

Answer 14

No matter if he has served his time or not he was in there for a reason. He should not be left alone by himself with your daughter under no circumstances. Does it really matter that you trust him. He done it once he'll do it again. What's the most perfect opportunity then when they are left alone. You don't want you daughter to be scarred for life. Now if it was me i wouldn't allow anyone other her grandparents to lay hand on my daughter. I wouldn't let him spank her. I'd say he can discipline her without any physical contact.

Answer 15

im sorry but i wouldnt even put my child in that kind of situation!!

Answer 16

I don't mean to be rude, but if he is not a child molester, why is he on the s*x offender registry?  I totally get that he has served his time, but you need to put your daughters safety first.  Unless you are willing to risk losing your daughter to CPS, I strongly suggest that you not leave your daughter alone with your husband any time in the near future. This is for his protection as well as hers. You need to get some family counseling. Good luck.

Answer 17

why did you marry a s*x offender?

Answer 18

if the crime was against a child he cant even be in the same house as her if not i dont think it matters

Answer 19

It depends on if he is still on probation and if there are any conditions to his release or other restrictions under your local law.  Typically, these restrictions don't apply to family relationships.  Contact your local court or attorney general's office to make sure.

Also, just a side note, and I am not accusing your husband of anything here, but depending on what his prior conviction was, it is important to understand that most cases of child s*x abuse are committed by family members.  You mention that he is not a child molester, so that leads me to believe that his conviction was involving another adult, in which case, you probably have nothing to really worry about.  Just wanted to point that out, though.

EDIT:

Reading some of these other posts, I need to mention that not all s*x offenders are child molesters.  Many are from crimes as simple as urinating in public because it is considered "indecent exposure" and can result in a s*x offender label.  Many others are "statutory rape" type cases where an 18 year old has consensual s*x with an under age teen.   Also, the recidivism rate of most s*x offenders is actually lower than that of other crimes.  The only exception is the preferential child molester, and fortunately these are in the minority.