s*x & self image question . . 10 points BEST answer.

Question

Do you think that when you're with a person [dating] you should be telling him/her your insecurity's about your body when being intimate?

I know that all of you are going to say you shouldn't be having s*x unless you are completely comfortable and I know that but I was just wondering..

I'm kinda self confident about my tummy and love handles.

I'm a pretty skinny girl just a little bit insecure about my tummy area..

Anyways I was just wondering about your thoughts on this.

=)

10 points to the best answer?

Answer 1

I don't know. it really depends-if it makes you feel better to tell him then do it. If it scares you maybe acutally talking about it or taking small steps in doing it may help.

Answer 2

uhm i know a girl that doesn't like her stomach so when she's having s*x she keeps her shirt on.

No, i think guys like confident girls and if your like having s*x and your like thinking or saying that your so fat then your not going to enjoy it and he's gunna know.  

Answer 3

I wouldn't talk about it over and over.  Perhaps voice your thoughts once or twice, letting him know how you feel, so perhaps he can offer you advice or comfort.  But don't dwell on it...no one likes to hear someone trashing on themselves every day :)

Answer 4

It's always nice to be reassured by someone who's seen you naked that your insecurities aren't as bad as you think they are. I gained a lot of self confidence in my body AFTER I started having s*x.

Answer 5

I really wouldn't worry about it. You should be proud of your body because only you have what you have. You shouldn't have to feel like you have to tell your partner your insecurities when you are being intimate. Your guy should love your body no matter what if he really has feelings for you, and you should feel like the best girl alive if you both really care for each other. If you really feel that something bothers you on your body then you can talk to him about it, and I'm sure he will still accept you for who you are. =)

Answer 6

I have always been skinny, but weight that I did put on always seemed to pool around my luv handles and tummy, I know how you feel. First, try working out a little to shape up that tummy, I wouldnt recommend losing weight or anything, just tone it up if it bug you. There is no bigger turn off than a girl that is insecure or unconfident int he sac. Dont let anyone know it bugs you. If you are not happey with the way you look, you can still hide that fact and put on the confinedce act, once you realize that no one else notices these small things, you wont either. Some people only notice small imperfections because we point them out. Dont go stripping or anything, keep it classy. But you are beautifull the way you are. Be confident and love what you have before you have kids and dont have it anymore...

Answer 7

i dont think you NEED to tell your bf about your insecurities, but if there is one person that you should be able to tell, it is the one you love.

Answer 8

if youre skinny then i highly doubt you have a tummy haha. and youre probably just thinking about it too much, but if you really do feel that way, then you should tell the person youre dating only if they mention s*x. not like randomly ha. you dont wanna scare them.

Answer 9

its ok to talk to your boy about it. just talk in a private setting. um one  way to get your self confidence up is tell your self ' i am pretty ' everyday while looking is the mirror, soon you will belive it and im sure its true