s*x unatural?

Question

I know its a natural thing for humans to do..but i dont look at it as natural..it just looks dirrty and wrong

when ever im watching a movie and they start doing it..i cover my eyes because i feel really uncomfortable and awkard..i mean i listen to music that talks about it and feel fine..but when seeing the actual act of it..it dosent seem right. Im 18 and i think im too old to feel this way...

I wanna have a happy and good s*x life but i dont know how im gonnaa do that if i cant get over this..whats wrong with me??How can i change how i feel

Answer 1

<<...it just looks dirrty and so right>>

There, i corrected your statement.

Answer 2

No it's not wrong. And only dirty if you have to sneak and do it. Your problem is that you are young. But with age and time you will see that there is nothing wrong with s*x.

Answer 3

It is a bit odd that you feel this way at 18, but if you grew up in a family where s*x was never talked about and seen as an ugly, dirty thing, you may just be projecting your parent's views.

I'd suggest you start really analyzing why you view s*x as dirty and wrong. Did your parents sleep in separate beds? Was there any abuse when you were younger? Do you fully understand the way the two bodies work together? Were you made to feel ashamed of your body or your s*x organs?

Masturbation is one of the best ways to get to know yourself as a healthy, confident sexual being. Put aside any guilt or shame you may associate with touching yourself, pick a time when you'll be relaxed and alone (like during a long hot bath), and begin to explore your mature body. It's your body, it's up to you to know every square inch of it, what makes it feel good, what brings you to o****m, etc.

I also suspect you'll feel different once you meet a guy (or girl) you like a lot.

Answer 4

anal s*x is dirty...what can we do?  God made the inlet too close to the exhaust for wommin

Answer 5

You must of been raised in a conservative environment. I  can tell you from personal experience that you won't feel that way for ever. One day you will meet a charming young man, fall in love and let him sweep you off your feet. And with him everything will look and feel magical and beautiful. Go out with friends, have fun, dance and your special someone just might be there waiting for you. Good luck sweetheart!

Answer 6

Your reaction to displayed s*x is entirely natural. Our cultural fascination with other people's s*x lives is not.

Not very long ago, the only way to see anyone else having s*x was to invade someone's privacy, and you should feel a bit voyeuristic watching them "doing it," even if it is a movie - no matter what your age.

While many of us have learned to adapt to graphic portrayals of private things in the media, many have not.

Kudos to you for having some shame.

As for the real thing, it will only be natural for you if you allow it to be. Just don't make it a priority as so many others do, and you will find a time and place to share intimate feelings with someone else who probably has butterflies too.

That someone should not be taking advantage of your desire to fit in with what anybody else thinks is normal.

Even in marriage, s*x will feel right for you when the mood and the moment are right - anything else will feel "animal."

Not everyone's time line for sexual maturity is the same, and it would be counterproductive to force the issue.

You are not dooming yourself to spinsterhood, or a permanent reputation as an "ice queen." You are just respecting yourself and your future.

Eventually, when you become comfortable enough with someone to share physical sensation without guilt, your intimacy will open the door to feelings you may not yet understand. These are very deep, natural feelings.

When that happens, a little nervousness is OK. Don't psych yourself out of a fully consummated relationship that meets all of your other criteria for happiness.

Just remember no matter what anyone else says or believes, even little ol' you deserves to feel really good some day, and you will wish the same for your partner. The awkwardness will disappear, the mixed sensations will resolve, and you will be set free to explore a whole new world.

Answer 7

It is natural but you cant help how you feel about it. Just give it time and you will become more comfortable with it.

Answer 8

i dont like s*x in movies

im a virgin

but i guess that...'s*x' its not the same as 'love'....

Answer 9

I used to feel that way too, but it doesn't seem that way once you  find someone you truly like/love.

Answer 10

Everyone is so different when it comes to s*x ~ maybe you're just a person who doesn't get visually stimulated.

You could try some 'story' sites like Literotica where you can explore some different types of sexuality and ideas about s*x without the visuals.

If you find that a bit too hard core, there are some nice romance/sensual story sites just for women which are not hard core, but are still a little titillating.

Not everyone in the world finds the sight of people making whoopee an absolute thrill, and chances are you may have seen some bad acting, amateurish rubbish or Hollywood schmaltz that would make ANYone feel like switching off, instead of on!

Plus, it's absolutely not compulsory to feel or respond any particular way to any particular stimulus.

Wait until you find the thing that is right for you ... although chances are, if you've been raised to find s*x 'dirty' or have that message from somewhere in your life, you might have some extra hurdles to get over.

A loving partner, plenty of time and patience and genuine feelings are a great cure for those issues, and maybe you need to have all that to feel all that ~ only you can know.

But it doesn't hurt to look around (safely) to find out just what it is you are looking FOR!

Best wishes :-)

Answer 11

You just need more exposure now or later in life.Get practical,try from oral s*x and don't watch porno.

Answer 12

You want to do it, but don't want to see it in any form. All this means is that you aren't a voyeur. There is no reason to be freaking out about this.

Answer 13

their are some people who never enjoy s*x. mostly because in their past lives they were molested or something like that.

some it has to do with religious beliefs.

for me it is an important part of my life.

you may have to drink a little alcohal when your of age to start the juices flowing. like they say candies dandy but liquer is quicker.

it lower inabitions.

it may also depend on how you feel about your body. try walking around naked whenever you can.

   good luck hope you can be the s**y kitten you deserve to be

Answer 14

Psychotherapy will undoubtably get you through this. Initiate sessions soon !

Answer 15

There's nothing wrong with you, yes s*x is a wonderful natural thing but it's nothing like what you see on TV which is just acting and/or p**n.

When you meet someone that you love you will want to be that intimate with them so don't worry about it. The thought of being that intimate with someone other than hubby is disgusting...unless it's Johnny Depp ;-)

Answer 16

Watching other people have s*x is seldom a comfortable experience.  You will probably feel all right when it comes to doing it in real life, provided it isn't in front of an audience.  s*x is supposed to be a private matter.

Answer 17

It's dirty, but it feels oh-so-right.

Anyway...

When you meet someone you really love, it'll be entirely different.

Answer 18

Having a good and happy s*x life does not mean opening yourself up to being promiscious.  Set your standard - whatever that is - and stick to it.  If you feel uncomfortable doing sexual things on the first date, DON'T DO IT.  Let your date know if he tries to make a move that you feel uncomfortable, and anybody who truly loves you will back down.

Now, nothing is wrong with you and you're certainly not "too old" for sexual privacy.  Some people get excited by PDA and blatantly sexual images; some people get uncomfortable or confused.  Just embrace your differences and find yourself somebody who will respect your sexuality and not try to force you into something you don't like.  

You're not alone, also.  Remember that there are girls much older than you who still haven't had s*x, and not everybody has open s*x.  Some even still save their virginity for their husband or wife, believe it or not.

Answer 19

s*x on television is usually portrayed in an ackward and unrealistic way; it's perfectly normal to feel wierd watching it as it occurs in movies and on tv.

You should only start worrying if you feel dirty when *you* try to have s*x.

Perhaps you should try imagining yourself having s*x with someone you're interested in, and see if that makes you feel dirty. It shouldn't; most people feel aroused when they fantasize about that sort of thing.

Answer 20

For some people it's the most important part of their life for others it's repulsive. Others can take it or leave it. . For me, it's unsanitary and revolting but then again I'm asexual and don't care since it won't be a part of my life anyway.

It all depends on the person. Different strokes for different folks.  If it doesn't seem right when you watch it then don't watch it. No one forced you to, I assume. There isn't anything wrong with you. Just be happy and accept yourself as you are. If you really want to have s*x you will know when the time is right with the right person and it won't be a problem.