Sexism and s***s. Why do women not stick up for each other?

Question

I've noticed on Yahoo!Answers that some women are very quick to judge each other -Ive particularly noticed the word 's**t' being tossed around quite a bit. For instance - a young girl asking for help after falling pregnant had many 'answers' calling her a s**t.

Another question that asked what everyone thinks of people who don't wear underwear was met with answers that said it was nasty not to wear underwear - especially if you are a woman - that makes you a s**t.

There is a certain double standard when it comes to men and woman - a man who sleeps around is referred to as a 'stud' but a woman is a 's**t'. Its quite sexist. But what makes me so sad is that more often than not it is WOMEN who are the ones who seem to be reinforcing this sexist attitude.

Was just wondering what everyones thoughts on this might be.

Answer 1

Jim Baw makes a fantastic point. I couldn't have said it better myself.

Answer 2

If it looks like a s**t, or acts like a s**t, it's probably a s**t. If one wishes to not be called a s**t, one should not be a s**t.

Answer 3

This PC thing of not calling a s**t a s**t gets up my nose. Just seems you can't criticise a woman no matter how obnoxious or damaging her behaviour is. Looks like a case of women gaining more rights and ditching any responsibilities they have. Being unfaithful is bad for men and for women.

Answer 4

As nasty as competitive as women can be towards men, they are even more so with each other.

It's an old and simple concept ( though a flawed one ) ,the lower she can knock another down , the higher and mightier she must be .

By the way , girls don't "fall pregnant " that is a result of failing to use birth control properly and deserves criticism.

Answer 5

Froglet, this category has an unusually high percentage of sexist and anti-women regulars...even the women.

To answer your question, many young and immature women do feel the need to put others down to feel Superior and there is definitely no change in the old double standards.

Also, there is a certain amount of bravado to be found on a web forum. People have much bigger mouths and attitudes than they would in real life because they will never be held accountable.

I guess if you want quick and anonymous advice on the Internet you have to take the good with the bad, but I really hope people aren't this rude in real life.

Answer 6

It's disgraceful when people call others names for their personal sexual choices. What most people, on and off YA, need is a giant dose of "minding their own f*cking business."

Answer 7

First off... its NOT sexist that a man is called a STUD for sleeping around and a woman is called a "sIut".

The reason its NOT sexist is because ANY woman can be a sIut but NOT every man can be a "stud". Get it?

When women stop acting like access to a woman's v****a is such a BIG deal... then men will stop getting so much credit for gaining that access.

Savvy?

EDIT: "Thedonut" My answer explains why your answer is INCORRECT.

Answer 8

I agree women are ok with way to much that happens in their lives and willing to condemn other women far to often.

Answer 9

There is a double standard but more often than not I think it is men reinforcing it. They are all too quick to call a woman a w***e while doing the same or worse behavior. However, they don't seem to see themselves as whores. I personally do not share that double standard. I do not consider male s***s to be studs or desirable in any way.

Answer 10

I completly agree. I think that the reason is because women are weirdly competitive. For example whenever I've asked a "Does he like me question" most women will say things like "No and he never did." Whereas most guys would say (depending on the situation) "Yes I think he likes you." Women are just odd that way and I don't know why. That is why I like hanging out with guys more. It's sort of like the make-up thing. A lot of women wear make-up for other women. It's ridiculus.

Answer 11

I think Mike T makes a valid point...

It is much easier for a girl to get s*x if she wants it. She can come up to a guy in a bar, talk to him for a bit, and invite him back to her place. Chances are, the guy will follow - why wouldn't he? Easy s*x, minimal work. It's just one night afterall.

If a guy approached a girl, talked to her for 10 minutes, and tried to get her back to his place, he'd immediately be labeled as a "manwhore" and there'd be slim to no chance that the girl is going back to his place - she'd see him as a user and womanizer. Plus, it'd be a bit dangerous for a woman to go back to a guy that she just met's place. She runs the risk of being raped or having something else awful happen to her. A guy going to a girl he barely knows place still has minimal risk.

Guys need to put much more of an effort into getting s*x - it's just a fact of life. So if a guy can sleep around with multiple women, he has some form of charm, good looks, or something else that is impressive. If a woman does it, it isn't as much as a feat as mostly any single guy would take up an attractive girl for no strings attached s*x (even unattractive ones too!).

All that being said, if you're a girl, and you know the guy has been around the block a bit, do you still give him a shot? I think a lot of girls do - they think they can make him settle down or they simply are drawn to him for various reasons. I know that I had a bit of a reputation (unwarranted by the way - I only have had a couple one nighters along the way) of being a guy like that in college, and it never detered girls (even the ones who were "good" girls) from dating me. If anything it may have drawn them to me more.

When the roles are reversed, I know that if I run into a girl who has been around, I normally don't bother - I get too worried about STD's, etc. I also am more of a "dater" than a "one nighter." I'm just more comfortable with that. Of course, I also typically don't have a problem attracting women, so I have the freedom to be picky, and I normally am looking for a girl to settle down with rather than spend a night with. A lot of guys are not looking for anything close to that.

I think the big difference is guys who have been around are still seen as "date-able" but no one wants to be the guy who dates/cares about the girl who was/is like that - it's not a turn on.

So why do women judge? Perhaps jealousy? Maybe they wish they were able to be like that and not care what people think. I honestly don't know that there is an answer - women are far more critical of each other than guys are of them. Haha, my girlfriend always takes forever getting ready, and when I tell her that she doesn't need to do that - I think shes gorgeous as is, she typically says something like "i'm not just doing it for you - I can't let my friends see me looking all afright!"

Answer 12

I do not share that double standard either,I believe in free spirits and im glad they are around Im happy to stand up for any woman anytime

now if i know they are doing something that could hurt themselves physically  becuz i care about them i will let them know my feelings but overall if they are happy i want them to be happy

Answer 13

If I feel something is wrong or degrading theres no way I'll stick up for that person just because shes a woman.To me, that would really be sexist.