Sexual Pleasure after Natural Birth vs. C Section?

Question

I am undecided about whether to go for natural birth or C section. A male colleague voluntarily advised me that I should have a C section as after his wife had a natural birth, it ruined their sexual pleasure during intercourse. Currently, in my opinion the sexual pleasure that my husband and I have during intercourse is ok (could be better) but I am worried that if there is ANY permanent "stretching" from natural birth, that this could have a serious impact on 'him in particular'.

I don't mean to sound shallow as I know that there is so much more to lovemaking than just the physical pleasure. Of course there is also the impact of natural vs. C section on the baby and I will seriously weigh up these pros and cons independantly in arriving at a decision.

Answer 1

I've never heard of such a thing. His wife probably just doesn't want to have s*x with him because she's exhausted from taking care of a new baby.

Anyway, c-sections should be for emergencies only. I would doubt the integrity of a Dr. who lets you make the decision to have one.

Answer 2

I am a very small person. I am 5'2" and 120 pounds. It has always hurt to have s*x for I am very small down there also. I was so scared that I would be "loose as a goose" after she was born. I had a small tear, a vulvar laceration. My husband says I am just as small down there post-baby as pre-baby. Do not be scared. Also, you can do exercises.

http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyres...

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I will admit though, I felt so disgusted afterwards and always thought "HOLY SHI_ I JUST PUSHED THAT OUT OF ME." That made me not want s*x. I still do not have my s*x drive back but that is a different story. And for the tears, my daughter was 7/3. I had a friend who had a baby who was 5/13 and she ripped every way imaginable. And you can always ask for the husband stitch.

Answer 3

I would never have an elective C-section.  Probably what ruined your friends s*x life is that after a child is born and breastfed, it raises the woman's endorphine level and she no longer needs s*x for that natural high.  I would discuss this with your doctor first.  My grandmother had 4 kids, all natural, and she boasts about her wonderful s*x life  ( I know, that is a little gross, but that is how my family is, we talk about everything).  And if something does change, honey there are so many things out there to help!  So many fun toys that you and hubby can discover and use together to enhance your s*x life.  Don't worry about that!  There is so much out there to help people in that situation!  And you no longer have to blush buying it!

Answer 4

C-Section

SC

Answer 5

I could not understand why ELECTIVE c SECTION is not preffered ?

1. It is 99% safer as comparable to normal procedure which is symptom based.

2. If you can avoid pain- avoid.

3. s*x does matter a lot and it effects.

Get c Section done !

Answer 6

I had a very difficult delivery with my 1st son and a c-section with my daughter 4 weeks ago, though I do not think the stretching from my  natural birth had an impact on my s*x life, however, I am realizing now that my desire for s*x after giving birth is alot greater with my c section than with my vaginal delivery.

Answer 7

I had a c-section, so I don't have a clue as to what it's like to give birth vaginally......

I can tell you though that we were able to start having s*x again a lot sooner, and my s*x drive never went away like it did for most of my friends who delivered vaginally.

Word of advice though...... most doctors won't just perform an elective c-section.... it usually has to be for a medical reason.  I was personally thrilled with the fact that I ended up having one because I was absolutely terrified of "giving birth".... not so much because of the sexual pleasure stuff... but I was afraid of the 4th degree tears that sometimes mean you have no control over your bowel movements for the rest of your life (yes I know that's EXTREMELY rare.... but I tend to find the worst possible scenario and then stress about it..... stupid me!!)

Answer 8

Don't worry, drink Cambodian Breast Milk and it will be all better.

Answer 9

Believe me, I have had two kids.  There is no difference in sexual pleasure.  Maybe his wife just is less interested or more tired, that does happen after kids.  Everything goes back to normal after birth.  Actually there is more recovery time after a c-section.  What do guys know, if you really want the right answer, talk to his wife.

Answer 10

I think you mean vaginal birth I had a natural birth(no drugs), and all was fine,

we didnt have any problems because of stretching..

however the new baby will impact your time and energy that you need for s*x... we havent had much time in the last year I have to say.. but dont ever go for a c-section if it isnt absolutly neccesary. a natural birth is epowering if you know that you did it yourself. is also better for the baby cause the passage through the birthcanal squeezes the fluids out of the lungs =)

good luck and congrats!!

Answer 11

there is a v****a for one main reason - CHILD BIRTH

c section is only if there is complications why would you want that MAJOR SURGERY, just to get your baby out when there is already a way out.

now for sexual pleasure, there is always a chance that stuff stays stretched out when working with a crappy doctor.

My wife went natural for both of our kids and the doc did a good job (he even said and an extra stitch for your husband on the last one lol) she has had no loss in pleasure during intercourse.

go natural it will make you feel better as a mom in the long run

Answer 12

if you go natural, you can voice your concerns to your docter, and he can use a "husbands stitch", an extra stitch or 2 to make sure things "tighten" back up.

Answer 13

I don't have a choice but to have a C-section..

I imagine it will be less damaging to my s*x drive and girly parts, but the recovery time is going to be lame and sexless :P

I don't have a choice though, so it could just be wishful thinking..