Sexual addiction question?

Question

I think about s*x a lot in a daily basis and I watch an un-average amount of pornography. I even think about cheating on my fiance with other women and even start sending secret messages to ex's and other girls I know might have s*x with me. Now granted me and my fiance argue a lot and that is no excuse for these things. I am worried that my sexual mind is something I need help on. How do I help myself?

Answer 1

I cannot help you but Recovery Connection may be able to help you  

Answer 2

You need to get some counseling to help you clarify what you want.  Good luck.

Answer 3

yea i agree with possibly seeing a shrink, and the chick at the top that said get a life needs to get laid.

Answer 4

Why don't you try to have s*x with your fiance, instead of cheating on her with other women and your ex girlfriends, maybe you want to act out what you saw in the porno's so why don't you try it with you fiance, unless you are not sexual attracted to her anymore then you need to speak up.

Answer 5

talk about it with your fiance, maybe. you could try seeing a shrink too. or, you could try quitting the p**n watching cold turkey. if you don't cheat, you should be able to break the habit within 21 days.

you might want to at least try talking with your fiance and for the love of god, don't cheat on her. things will just get terrible if you do.

just tell her what you're feeling [but you might not wanna tell her about contacting your exs and stuff] and try and see if she's got any input on the situation.

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Answer 6

  Ask some deeper questions (not that this is a fix)

Is it the physical need for s*x? Is it a need for different women?

More important are you trying to fill something else up with s*x. Some void.

I mean i know guys love s*x (we do to ya know) but is there something that you could really put your thumb on to say why your doing this .

If you really have no control then it's not fair to marry anyone right now. You need to figure out why your doing what your doing and how to control it before you bring in someone.. then children. That would not be cool and very selfish on your part.

If you can talk to someone that would be good. usually there is something underlying there. We all have thoughts of the hot guy having coffee next to us (me ;-) and think about s*x but your pining for it ! So your doing a dance around the fire right now.

Good luck

Answer 7

first off dont let your fiance see this question lol ;)

2nd, watching p**n increases the amount you think about s*x, even when not watching it, trust me ;)

3rd, just think.  You and your fiancee will obviously be married soon.  You are about to get ALOT of s*x!  

So this is basically like any other addiction such as alcoholism.  Just keep your mind off it, and the longer its been since you indulged in it, the less youll think about it.  Eventually itll go away altogether!

Good luck man hope ya have a good s*x life

Answer 8

dude just ask your self is random s*x worth losing your fiance? The moment you relive yourself after you have s*x with another woman its gonna dawn on you that you made a big mistake and by then it will be too late

don't be stupid make love to your fiance take some of those sexual frustrations and use them on making your relationship with your woman even stronger don't be a fool like most other men and ruin their life over random s*x its not worth it

Answer 9

get a life.

Answer 10

stop cheating... thats evil to do.about overcoming it first of all stop watching pornigraphy.that makes it worse.then getting religion to help u,.