s**y Young Wife - Am I Into Myself?

Question

I am 44 and my wife is 29. At time's I have allot of stress and because of the stress I don't give my Wife the attention she deserves. Is my Wife insecure because she didn't have good relationships with men in the past or is it because I don't say nice things to her like I should. Do women need things that men do not? And what can I do to show my Wife I feel good about her? She seems to feel very insecure about our marriage and feels that I am not into her anymore.

Answer 1

A man should always take the extra step to make their wife feel beautiful and loved. My husband suddenly stopped doing that after we got married and it slowly started to make me resent him. Men have the needs to feel important. Women need to feel feminine and s**y. You will be surprised how much more she will be into you if you showed her a little more affection.  

Answer 2

That's what you get for marrying someone that much younger.

Answer 3

At 44 you should already know what your wife needs, yes she needs you to make her feel good, and say nice things to her. You cant be so set in your ways that you forget about her, she is not only your wife and other half she is a reflection of you, so if she is insecure about the relationship and the marriage, then its a bad look on you because it means you are not doing something right. get off of your self and appreciate that woman, trust me if you don't somebody else will. If she is insecure and you realize that all it will take it the right man to come along and say "whats wrong?" Sharks can smell blood, come down off your high horse, your not the only one in the marriage.

Answer 4

The difference in age could be the problem as your reaching a place in life that your more mature and think differently. Don't blame stress on not being attentive to your wife. I understand that your under pressure to make life good for her but she also is part of your life and you need to pay  close attention to her too. What is some of the things you did when dating or when you were first married that you don't do now? Try to pick up on some of them again.

Tell her she looks good in a certain outfit, that you like her hair, that you like the way she makes a good home for you, etc: things like that!

Sometimes women like to JUST cuddle and talk, maybe plan a vacation. Wish you the best as its great that you are concerned enough to ask the question. She is lucky so let her know it!  

Answer 5

If you recognize that you are acting this way towards your wife why don't you give her the attention she needs then?

Answer 6

First, no man can cure a woman’s insecurities. When a woman is insecure it has to deal with how she perceives herself when she looks in the mirror, unfortunately the only one that can tackle her problem, fix it and move beyond it is she.  However you can help her along for example if you call her from work instead of just saying hello try this “Hello sexy” or “Hello s**y what are you wearing” that will help boost her ego which will help her deal with her issues. Make her feel s**y and desirable and that in turn will help her address her problems of why she feels insecure in the relationship.

Hope this helps and best of luck

Answer 7

if you're that confused then you shouldn't have gotten married...

Answer 8

Get off the computer and talk to her. Take her out. Or have s*x with her. Or pay her a compliment. Good God man, the answer is obvious.

Answer 9

wow. you have to let a girl she is important. you need to be the man the man that gives her a the attention that she deserves. and if you dont your just gonna be another guy to add to her list. if you know all of this and she is young and s**y and your WIFE how could you not give her a attention. girls need it and when they dont get it they look else where. i dont mean cheat but they will do small little things to get noticed by others and get just a little attention.

Answer 10

I already answered your question. It's not her it's you. You should value her more and appreciate her as a woman and most importantly as your wife and best friend. She is pretty young and if you don't start treating her better maybe she will leave you and go with someone else who will give her the attention, value her and aprreciate her for what she can offer and for who she is. If you don't start doing something and making her feel secure then she will be with you and be happy.

Answer 11

words of affirmation is always good for us women, we need to hear the words "I love you, or u mean the world 2 me", i know i love it when my husband says it to me, the words are very very important, also the actions too, u need to always back it up w/ the actions.A woman loves it when her man is showing her affection, spending Q time w/her, and is filling her with the words of affirmation, so try and see, GL 2 u hun!

Answer 12

You are 44 and don't know that woman need more than men. Yes, I would say you are into yourself. Stress can be hard on a person, but it is not a good enough reason to be neglectful to the woman you love.  Make sure you take time every evening to spend time with her. Let her know that she is the one thing that can help reduce the stress you are under, and I hope you really feel this way.

Answer 13

Relax and don't worry about it.  Her boyfriend will tell her all of the things she needs to hear.  You don't have to trouble yourself at all.  By the way.......it isn't the bad relationships in her past that are causing her trouble. It's the bad relationship she's in right now???

Answer 14

I think women sometimes do need things that men do not. But, in your situation, it sounds like you get plenty of attention from her, not to mention benefits. How could you be insecure?

You already stated that you dont give her the attention she deserves so why is it hard to understand that she may feel insecure. Is that some sort of unattractive quality to you, that she is vulnerable?

I hope you have money.. and she is gettting something out of you.