Shady guy? what to do?

Question

i have liked this guy for a little over a year now, and there were times when i was sure he liked me too. but lately he has been really confusing in the way he acts. like, he seems to lie a lot about really unimportant things. for example, he told me he makes $50 an hour working as a bartender. but he's 16, so i was like "oh really? wow, i thought u had to be 18" i didnt catch his reply... another time he told me he'd visit me at work (restaurant), but didnt show up. later that day when we saw eachother, he said "where were you?" and i was like "where were you??" he said he came in and asked my manager if i was there and could he talk to me, but the manager said "no! she's working." he said the manager had blond hair, (and there is only one guy with blond hair who works at the restaurant) so i asked this manager later about it and he didnt remember anyone coming in and asking for me and was like "what? i dont care who you talk to, you can talk to anyone you want!"

Convincing myself to forget about him and move on isn’t an option either -- ive tried so many times (b/c it got to the point where I had to turn down other guys b/c I wanted to stay open for him) and for whatever reason, it just didn’t work this time as it always had w/ other guys. i was planning on just getting this all over with and asking him to homecoming or something, but it seems that now things b/w us are starting to fizzle down, and im afraid he doesnt like me anymore

btw, he is a black belt in tkd, and is actually one of my instructors. i am absolutely positive he'd never use it against me, but i dont want to be naive either and end up getting myself into a bad situation. he has also told me that many of his friends are in gangs (he isnt), but he seems to know a lot about shady subjects related to that, but then again, he could be lying about that too.... If u have any ideas, please tell! ♥ And THANKS so much for reading it all, I know its long, sorry!

Answer 1

Hon, what in the world are you thinking?  This guy lies to you every time he turns around, he isn't trustworthy at all, and you are afraid of him.  Is that not reason enough to let him go????  What will it take to convince you that he is bad for you or for anyone?  This guy is a real loser and if you go after him you will be a loser too because he isn't ever going to let you be a winner.  No way, no how.  Now get your head together and really look at him honestly and ask yourself this question.  "Do I want to stay with him and possibly live with that all my life?"  You would never know where he was, what he is doing, or if that next phone call will be from someone telling you he's dead or been arrested.  He sound like the type that will eventually end up in prison for a long time.  You know you can do better and you know you deserve better that that.  Think about it and I think you will see what I mean.  He needs professional help.  Stay away!

Answer 2

It's possible he told you the truth about making $50 an hour working as a bartender.  But to make that kind of money he would have to be dealing illegal drugs and not just alcohol.

He might be involved in some kind of organized criminal activity.  And that would explain the money he has, his lying to you, and his extensive knowledge of shady subjects.

If you can't get rid of him by saying 'no' to him.  Then I suggest that you stop going to your Tae Kwon Do school and avoid any contact with him.