Shame On Myself For Not Being Determined Enough?

Question

I was involved in a relationship with this woman who constantly goes out to seek attention from other men and one of them happened to be my best friend. We went to Japan for a vacation and she took time to see other men, leaving me all alone in some instances during that trip. I was totally heart broken and disappointed despite me constantly telling her not to do so. There were several instances we ended up in heated arguments. To save herself from it all, she set me up with a trap for me to fall into involving the police. Then, I decided that I should end this relationship. But she came back to me telling me that she's sorry and she will change for the better. I took her words and we continued. However, things never change for the better. This went back and forth so many times and I would give in from time to time again. I feel so shameful and useless that I am not determined enough to let her go. I hope to find the strength to let this relationship and person go and start anew.

Answer 1

it sounds like a poisonous relationship. You don't attempt to make trouble for an innocent man/woman if your truley in love with them. Move on while you still have a life to move on with.

Answer 2

Find some-one else ASAP!   Stop seeing this gal. Don't even talk to her. RUN!!! She's using you, and she will mess up your life.  Find a s**t for now, just get away FAST. Try computer dating.  Go out alone, it's better than the problems she's going to cause you. If all else fails get a second job. That will keep you too busy to get out at all.

Answer 3

re: I hope to find the strength to let this relationship and person go and start anew.

....Start 'anew' by improving your self esteem and self respect!

google self esteem training

Answer 4

no yaar, u shudnt be ashamed of urself.. u realy care for her n want her to b with u always, thats y u r stil holding on.. but plz find sme time to think abt ur relationship... think abt wat would happen if this continues.. u ll hav to bear more pain .. dats al that's gona happen. so, relax a bit..  mingle wid odr gals.. n if u end upon one strong enough, move on with her.. thats btr for ur life.

Answer 5

Oh dear, your happines matters alot. dont hang on someone who keep on hurting you.  I can say she is heartless.  forget about her.

Answer 6

well heres watcha do  kick her *** to the curbb you deserve som one better shes also not worth it maybe shes hot but she doesnot have a good personality and also other crushes;;

Answer 7

Just break up with her this moment. Destroy all her correspondance and everything that reminds you of her. Don't ever talk to her again or fall for her tricks.

It is easier to move on once you have actually broken up. Find a bunch of activities to fill your time, and treat yourself to your favorite foods to congratulate yourself on making the best decision of your life and dumping her.