Shared custody... Is this the right thing to do?

Question

My daughter wants to go live with her Grandmother. We are moving to another town and shes going to have to switch schools, etc.

Weather she lives with me or her Grandmother she will have to move to a new school.

I think overall she will be happier at her Grandmothers house. Her Grandmother is for the situation.

I have 3 other children that would be staying at home with me.

Since this is what my daughter wants and we are okay with it as a group (My daughter, her Grandmother, father & I). Do you think it would be the right choice?

She is 9.5 years old and spends 95% of the time off from school at her Grandmothers house already.

Answer 1

She need to be raised by you not her grandmother.

Answer 2

How far away are you moving? You're still her mother and she's still your responsibility.

Having said that, I think since all are in agreement it would be okay. I would be nervous about something happening to her.

Why does she spend 95% of her time at her grandmother's house? Why doesn't she want to live with you?

I have a 12 year old daughter who would be devastated and miss me if we had to live apart, so it is hard for me to identify with the situation. I'd want to see and hug my daughter every day and be very lonely if I didn't get to. I have a husband and two sons also, but would be unable to live without my daughter until she's grown and chooses to go, if she ever does.

Anyway, if all parties are in agreement and she really wants to stay there, maybe it's for the best. You might have to give your mother guardianship so she can enroll her in school and sign permissions, etc.

Good luck.