She's got me in a deadlock and her guilt trip,any ideas on how to get loose or free?

Question

She's got me in a deadlock and her guilt trip,any ideas on how to get loose or free?

Answer 1

Do what ever you need to do to make yourself happy.  But try to consider her feelings whilst being honest.    Most importantly, learn from your mistakes.

Answer 2

Hum, not enough information for me to give any useful advice.

But I will say that usually when someone puts me on a guilt trip, they are usually blaming me for something that is really beyond my control (like how she feels, or the fact that she has no money left, etc.).  Once I realize that whatever she is feeling is not really my fault, nor is it my responsibility to fix it, then I no longer feel guilty.

If she is making you feel guilty over something that really IS your fault, then once you have apologized and tried your best to make everything right again, then she has no right to continue to make you feel bad about the past. Everyone is human, and everyone makes mistakes, and you cannot change the past anyway (feeling bad about it doesn't change the fact that what happened has happened, and you cannot change it now).  

Stop feeling guilty, and move on with your life.

Answer 3

How? are you guilty of something for her to be able to do that? If not then leave. NEVER tollerate 'mind games'.

Answer 4

Maybe you should ask yourself what a real friend would do?

If you were in a fix (on a guilt trip over something) what would you want.

Your girl friend to walk away and say its not my problem?

Maybe the relationship can't survive maybe you are 'wrong' for each other but you ought to help her through this difficulty.

Answer 5

Practice extending love only and let go of you feeling that there is a tug of war going on.  Hearts calling for love need a response of love.  Love yourself first and then whatever it is that you are talking about here will be resolved on a higher level in a way that is good for all concerned.  

Until this occurs, just gently proceed and stop hating or feeling wounded because someone else is.

I know you have a closer walk with who you truly are and that is a compassionate person.  For God has not given us the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

Now go forth and be that love that you are meant to be.

This has nothing to do with staying in or leaving a relationship and everything to do with seeing it rightly first inside of you before you take any action that affects another human being.

And - a strong word of advice here - make NO decisions one way or another as long as you are in emotion of any type and that means even feeling 'very calm' as you do something that visibly wounds another.  That's just a subtle form of revenge.

Good luck, my heart goes out to you in this.  

Thanks for the Q :)