She's still taking drugs while she's pregnant! What do I do?

Question

My gf who i told you about is 3 months pregnant and I called the cops and everything but they said there was nothing they could do because at the time she didn't have any drugs on her and they said they had to wait till the baby was born for them to do a drug test. I also told her that we should go to the physician to get the baby checked out, but she said she didn't feel like going now or ever and she said she didn't need a doctor for the baby. She keeps saying the baby's fine, but I know it's not. Please she does drugs almost every day! I told the police and wanted her to go to the doctor but neither is working. We both don't have much family all she has is a sister and she lives all the in Idaho where she goes to college. What do I do? We're both 25. Should I lock her up in the basement or something? I know it sounds horrible, but it's the only thing I can think of to protect my child.

Answer 1

Oh I feel for you I really do! I used to be on heroin 5years ago untill I found out I was pregnant.. I gave up and got help as soon as I could. I dont understand why anyone wouldn't. She has a baby growing inside her and she cant stop?? It just shows how much the drugs have messed her up cos no1 in their right mind would carry on using. dont think theres much u can do tho. I know it sounds silly but just try and be there  for her, support her cos it must be hard... Well it is hard, I know! Buy baby books & Mags and leave them around so she looks at them when no1s around. Then hopefully she'll realise what shes doing. Maybe buy a pack of vests, just to hit home that she IS having a real baby cos its hard to imagine when its inside you..Good luck with everything, you need it! Hope you, your gf & your unborn baby are healthy and happy 1 day!

Answer 2

wow. this is crazy. she is 3 months and still has not gone to the doctor?

What "drugs is she doing" and if it is meth herroin or coke it is an adiction and she needs to be sent to rehab!

Wow Thats crazt she also need to getr to the doctor even if she was not doing drugs she needs to go for prenatal care. that bull ****. i dont know what to tell you. but just bring it to her attention that if she does not stop the baby is going to go through pain when it is born, (the same pain she will go through when she quits if she ever does) good uck

Answer 3

Protect YOUR child? Your child? How did this become about you?

There is NOTHING you can do.  She is dumber than words and there is not a thing you can do about a woman who just doesn't get it.  Sadly, it will hurt the child.  Your best hope is that the baby tests positive at birth so that s/he is removed from your friend's care.

Answer 4

go search birth defects caused by drug use and show her that that is how the baBY is going to end up if she doesnt stop what she is doing now honestly i would say leave her but still support your child then go and fight for custody of the baby and they most definately will give u custody because she is doing drugs and especially if she is unstable they will never allow her to care for a child so plz keep us updated on what happens next i just had my first back in nov and i couldnt imagine why someboddy would want to do that to a child tell her i said she is a heartless b***h  no offense to you but im sorry i cant stand ppl like her gd luck if u need some1 to talk to email me [e-mail]

Answer 5

You can wait until you know she is in possession and then call the police.

Answer 6

well if this is true i feel for you and the child

this woman is a worthless mother..2 be

your child will be bron addicted to drugs more than likely which can be harmful even deadly...becuz trying to get the baby of drugs once he or she is born can actually kill them

this woman needs help...she needs a prenatal doctor...

and she needs someone to tell her that this is dangerous to her child...

i dont know wut to do...if I were you I would have this child in full custody to you....

Plz for the baby sakes

Answer 7

Oh dear God, I am praying for you and family especially your unborn child. If your g/f is not going to the doctor to recieve pre-natal care then there is not much that anyone can do. However when she goes into labor and go into the hospital you can the tell the attending physician and nurses what has been going on with her and her drug abuse and they will call in family services immediatley. One other option that may help is if your g/f is getting government assistance you can contact your local DHS office and let them know what is happening. I will be praying for your child.

Answer 8

it is alegal to take drugs anyway y get involved with a women like that

Answer 9

tell her this slowly---- [If you love me and the baby You'll stop cause your only hurting the baby.] hope this helps :)

Answer 10

If its anything besides Marijuana, that's very bad. If its just Marijuana, the baby might be ok. I read about a scientific study done on women who smoked cannabis, while pregnant. They were, mostly, Rastafarian mothers. The babies exhibited no deficiencies in growth or cognitive development as they grew older. In fact, Victorians and the ancient hebrews used cannabis for medicinal purposes concerning pregnancy and child birth. On the other hand, if she's smoking or drinking, you should do an intervention. If she's doing something really hard, like Heroin or Crack, you need to either do an intervention or try getting the law involved again. Sit her down, and show her some statistics and facts on what hard drugs can do to a child during fetal development.  I have to say, though, If its just Marijuana, Id still encourage not to use during pregnancy. Since were talking about the someone's future life, Id  do an intervention for that just to play it safe, but I wouldn't get the law involved. From what I sense, though, its something a lot stronger than cannabis.

I added some websites to my source box on how hard drugs effect a fetus. Good Luck. You should use whatever means necessary to make sure that baby matures into a healthy person.

Answer 11

She doesnt have a doc? She needs prenatal care so she can know when the baby is due, and how well it is developing. Even if the baby is fine, there are complications and risks during a pregnancy  that for her own safety she needs an OB doc. IF she does drugs that often she will likely give birth prematurely and the baby (if it survives) will be in for a lifetime of struggles. Tell her you you cant watch here kill your baby and possibly herself. Put your foot down that if she wants you as a boyfriend, she WILL go to the doc. Make her an appointment somewhere and tell her you are going to the movies. Take her to the doc instead. If she still refuses to go,  then tell her goodbye. Hopefully she will want you bad enough to feel pressured to go.

Answer 12

i think u should lock her uplol if thats da only choice

Answer 13

there really isnt much you can do...i know its your child but no one can make her quit, and saying that she doesnt need to see a doctor is just telling you she doesnt care about being pg..

Answer 14

Tell her it is likely she will have a baby with a birth defect or a complicated pregnancy or a miscarriage

Answer 15

She sounds like a horrible person...what I would do is nag nag nag...if shes still under her parents tell them...tell the cops to watch her and call them when she has some on her or is still high...that should work and she'll get put on probation...also you can try taking her to court...not to mention, TAKE HER TO COURT AND GET CUSTODY OF THE BABY WHEN THE BABY IS BORN....she really sounds like a horrible person and I can't imagine someone intentiallly hurting a baby...good luck:)

Answer 16

this is a bad situation ]: im sorry

but i she alrady starting using drugs while

pregnant you babyy is going to come out with birth effects.. tell her : if you love me and our baby you have inside go to the doctor if you dnt get out of my house because itll hurt me more when i hear the baby is dead i dnt need a drug smoker baby killer in my house.. .make her feel bad [=

good luck and Godbless

Answer 17

You cannot imprison her, but I don't see why your state's child protective services couldn't be somehow involved. She'll never trust you again until she's clean since you've called authorities.

Another question--how do you know she uses everyday? Where is she using?

You need to go again to the police, just compose yourself and go down to the station, have a meeting with someone. Oftentimes when they're out in the field and answering calls, they are mostly concerned with immediate danger. They might give you some tips so that she can get caught, which is the only way you might get some intervention going here at this point, at least until baby is born. You don't want her to damage the fetus; who knows what kind of damage she's already done?

Who knows, maybe you could benefit one another; you might know some detail about her supplier that will help the police too.

This is the other side of what happens when the unborn have no rights. Kind of makes you wonder why we call ourselves a civil society, doesn't it?