She asked me to be meaner?!?!?

Question

I was voted captain of my volleyball team last week. I believe the reason I was voted in is because I'm supportive of everyone, I encourage, I try to bring humor to every hard situation, and I have good leadership skills.

Today my coach asked to speak to me alone. She then lectured me and the co-captain on how we aren't being harsh enough with the other players. She told us that we needed to stop acting like mistakes weren't a big deal and start pointing them out. (We usually tell girls it's ok to make mistakes and to try and fix it next time.)

She flat out told me that I need to stop trying to be everyone's best friend and be more strict. I'm not a mean person. It's just not my personality. How can I go about fulfilling my coaches orders without becoming a completely different person from who my teammates thought they voted for?

Answer 1

Just tell your coach you can't be that sort of person, and to choose someone else.

Answer 2

you don't necessarily have to be meaner. If someone makes a mistake that's fine, you learn from them after all.

Your team mates will also be looking up to you, and as a captain it comes with responsibilities whether we like it or not. If a mistake happens, instead of trying to perk them up and saying nice try - next time. Still encourage them but with more of a tone - Come on guys, wake up! We can do this, now come on! (or what ever lol)

Also get the team to open up and get them talking how they think they can improve their game also.

Answer 3

if they are asking you to be someone your not. then tell them you cant do that even it it means not playing on the team. if it is something that important to you, thats what you would do