She cheated and wants forgiveness, I don't think i can forgive her!

Question

I'm engadged and I thought my fiance was the best in the world. Until yesterday. My 13 yr. old daughter and I were at the video store. We bumped into my fiance, making out with a guy. I quickly ran out with my daughter.

She knows I saw her and has tried everything in the book "Oh HE kissed ME!" or "Come on Toby you know me! I would never cheat!" And then finally she broke down and yelled "FINE! I've been cheating on you! I'm sorry!" Then she whispered "And I'm having his baby." It took my breath away and I yelled "We're through!" and hung up.

She keeps on calling me over and over but I won't pick up, I know she wants me to forgive her, but I can't. My first wife cheated on me and that's why I'm sensitive to this!

Please help! My daughter became so attatched to her since her mom(my ex-wife)left her when she was a baby.

HELP!

Answer 1

wow she sounds like a real keeper!!! i would dump her fast and not look back. first of all you say she tried to deny it..and now you find out she is having his baby!! not good at all-find someone who will love and respect you!

and think about what penny lane said- that is so true!! what was your fiancee planning on doing?? pretending YOU got her prego?? acting like the baby was yours.. she is a LIAR and a CHEAT- not a good person to be a wife or mother!!

Answer 2

Forgive her for yourself, not her, and have no further contact with her. She's a tramp, not worthy of love or trust, having another man's baby Move on, you deserve better. I would o some self-reflection on the kind of women you look for, because it doesn't appear that they are good for you at all!

Answer 3

She's going to do it again...Move on!

Sorry to hear that though

Answer 4

I don't think you should forgive her. She doesn't deserve you. Even if you do forgive her, she is having this other guys BABY, so he'll never be totally out of her life. You know what the saying is... Once a Cheater always a Cheater.

Your daughter is probably very hurt right now, but she will make it through. Just be there for her and let her know that she is the most important person in your life.

Answer 5

Why should you forgive her?  She's having another man's baby while she's supposed to be with you.  Dump her and seek professional counseling for you and your daughter.

Answer 6

It's a good thing you found out now and not after you married her. She doesn't deserve you. You should sit down with your daughter and explain the situation to her. If you do decide to forgive her make sure you really do, because if she's having someone else's child this will always come up in arguments and it would not be fair for the child. Also, the father will probably be involved in your lives.

Answer 7

TRY TAKIN MARRIGE COUNCILING N C HOW THAT GOES AFTER  a FEW MONTHS OR SO THEN U AND HER SIT DOWN N TALK ABOUT THE SITUATION N THEN C HOW IT GOES 4ROM THER

                                             MUCH LOVE,

                                                           PIMP JUICE  

Answer 8

OMG leave that B***h alone...ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!! Especially the fact that she is having that other guys baby that is going to be D-R-A-M-A..kick her to the curb and leave her there. Go find someone else there are many other fish in the sea.You have a wonderful daughter that obviously loves you, you honestly dont need a woman in your life to make you happy!! your daughter will always be there for you no matter what, "BLOOD IS THICKER THEN WATER" Im sorry but a girl like that deserves nothing but misery. Good luck hun!!! :)

Answer 9

<<calling me over and over but I won't pick up>>

What are you? In high school? Pick up the phone. Tell her that no reconciliation is possible. Get your ring back.  End of story.

My guy was cheated on by not one wife, but 2.  Examine the 'type' of woman you select to date.  He figured it out.   His three now teenaged children handled it fine once he explained the situation.  That's what they tell me anyway.

Answer 10

once a cheater always a cheater. the fact that she denied it at first means shes not really sorry. i'm sorry that your daughter got attached to her but in the long run it saves her some heart ache. she'll be ok and its not like your daughter cant talk to her.

Answer 11

She cheated once, she'll do it again.  Better now then later.

Good Luck

Answer 12

You shouldn't forgive her!  What....was she going to marry you and then tell you that she was pregnant with YOUR baby!?  Or was she just going to marry you and then divorce you and take everything and try to make you pay child support!?  OMG....the nerve of some people!  Get out of this and don't ever look back, and as far as your daughter goes, keep her as far away as you can, you don't want that kind of influence around your kid!  I'm sorry this had to happen to you (again) and wish you the best of luck!

Answer 13

Some things are forgivable and some aren't.  Cheating with another man and trying to pass off his baby as yours is in the "unforgiveable" category.    There is nothing else to do now but ignore her calls and move on with your life.  Your 13 year old will be crushed, but not as much as she would be if you married and got left again, which is most likely how this would play out.

And you, my dear, have got to learn to pick better women.  

Answer 14

why dont u find out ur fiances, or ex-fiances story, or u could always tell her ur through like u did, but let ur daughter see her now and then

Answer 15

Oh my gosh...Im so very sorry you and your daughter are going through this...gees... Anyways.. the best thing you can do is communicate with your daughter... and answer the phone the next time she calls.  And very calmly listen to her side of the story. When she is done you no matter what HAVE to say.  "I do not and will not ever forgive you, we are no longer together.  Do not call me anymore." And hang up.  I wish you the very best of luck... Hang in there, things will work out for you...  

Answer 16

Run. Run far, and run fast. You do not deserve that kind of disrespect!!

It's unfortunate that your daughter has an attachment to her, but you can't let that be a deciding factor. Besides, I think your daughter deserves a positive role model, don't you?

Answer 17

There's tendency that she will do that again.

The decision is yours. Your daughter deserves better.

Answer 18

Don't be a s*****k. She is about to get married to you and she is cheating on you having another man's baby? She will eventually leave you or break your heart later. Why put it off? You do not have to stay with her because you think your daugther needs her. She is not a good role model to be around your daugther at all. She should just go away and stay away. Explain to your daugther that it is not her fault and that live will be fine.  

Answer 19

Fake.