She cheated on me ?

Question

its been 3 years.

the best 3 years of my life

the day i met her we both fell for each other.

i have been in love with her ever since.

4 days ago i found out she has been cheating on me.

she immediately freaked out and left.

for 2 days i never talked to her

now, she wants to communicate with me.

she keeps calling and showing up.

i keep blocking her out. as much as i love her i have no idea what to do.

i have no idea what is going to happen.

everyone tells me not to talk to her but my heart tells me to pick up or answer the door.

i am so lost. i feel so numb, i don't know what to do. i am so upset i cant even cry.

Answer 1

ya it i think it really matters if it was and affair or fling.

Affair= Defiantly loose the girl. you didnt want a girl who is capible of:

          a) decieving u for so long

          b) keeping more than one relationship going

          c) doing somthing wrong over and over again

Fling=Still maybe loose her or atleast take a short break. if u really really want to still afterward i suppose give her a 2nd chance but have a long talk of course before accepting her back. lay some ground rules and ask her if she is hiding anything else (a couple of times)

this is soo hard to find the right solution

now please everyone answer my question if u dont mind. i only have one answer and it was not the kind of reply that i was looking for.

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thanks and good luck man you sound like a good guy so if it doesnt work out between u 2 u should be able so find somone else no problem : )

Answer 2

you should talk to her..

that's all

Answer 3

Just talk to her, find out what she has to say and then make your decision. If you love her that much you will probably want to get back together.

Answer 4

best 3 years of ur life???? she cheated on u u need to end it with her and maybe down the road if u can look past this and make sure she is gonna be faithful to u take that chance but for now say good bye.  i hate cheaters

Answer 5

depends if it was an affair or a one time thing?

i would try to work it out but if she ***** up again then i would dump the s**t

i was in the situation and me and him are really happy together now, it was hard at first and we still dont completely trust each other but its getting much better [the only thing different is that we both cheated]

Answer 6

well if u feel like this u still rlly like her forgive her and start all over

i haven't been able to sleep either

can u help me

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Answer 7

see what she wants.

if she wana continue with you, make sure she doesn't cheat.

give her 1 last chance.

sort things out, directly.

if you're afraid of seeing her, just answer the call.

goodluck, dun be stresed.

hope it ends well.

"" just follow your heart ""

Answer 8

I'm sorry to you but you have to listen to her then leave her or not then plz tell me what happen

Answer 9

That's horrible I'm so sorry that happened to you. She'll probably want forgiveness and blame the cheating on your etc but I think you are doing best by not speaking to her. It's normal to feel terrible but you will get over it and really I don't recommend you continue it with her because if she's cheated on you then she doesn't love or respect you and will probably do it again.

Harriet

Answer 10

Nobody knows the answer to this but your self. If you are able to forgive her and give her another chance the will come within yourself when you are ready. Although do not sit and wait for something to happen because if you wait too long she might give up on you. So do the right thing and have a heart to heart talk to her and if you are meant to be tell her what the boundaries area as for next you will not be there for her.

Answer 11

:( Well you can go ahead and give her a second chance, just lay out your conditions. Second chances are ok. Third, fourth, fifth... those are the stupid ones.

"Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me"

Answer 12

Forgive her. everyone make mistake and there will be some good reason why she did that. get together talk as before. Man it's been 3 year, you can't leave her just like that.

Answer 13

once a cheater always a cheater dump the ***** there is plenty more fish in the sea (better fish)

Answer 14

DONT listen to what your friends tell you, if you are willing to try to make it work, then try. but listen to what her excuse is, and how many times it happened....once=fixable.....more than once=better off friends. Basically one time is a mistake but more than once is very intentional

Answer 15

It's time to dump the girl.  Once a cheater, you can never trust her again.  And who knows if she picked up any std from the dude she cheated with!  Find a decent girl who appreciates you.

Answer 16

Oh mate you must feel just lost.

I think you should talk to her about the cheating and see what she has to say for herself but remember a leopard never changes it spots!

Good luck my friend.

Answer 17

talk to her, find out why she did. get some closure! you'll feel better...  

Answer 18

Being cheated on is one of the most horrible feelings you can have. They say 'time heals all wounds'... it's hard to answer the phone once someone has hurt you so bad and you almost know that she is just going to justify it and maybe ask you back. Maybe answer the phone and tell her that you need time to think of your next move. Don't take her back right away and make sure that you take the time that is needed to heal your own heart:)

Answer 19

.. start writing a love song..

Answer 20

always let them explain..so let her in if she always comes and tries to talk to u then she really wants to be forgiven :))

Answer 21

you need to talk to her, she will want to explain or something but at least give her that, i would never forgive her nor take her back but let her speak, and it will be good in helping you eventually to move on cause you will know why she did it

Answer 22

u have do what feels right for you. we all can give you advice,but its your choice.This is a hurtful feeling! i'm going the same thing. Whats best for might not be best for me. Understand

Answer 23

so far you have done great by ignoring her for awhile. when she calls you next, answer the phone and hear her story and ask her questions.

Then you will know whether she deserves a second chance or not.

BE STRONG!!

Answer 24

Follow your heart

Answer 25

follow your heart man, don't listen to what they say do what is best for you.try a second chance see how it works, what your heart tells you, is the best

Answer 26

Try to compromise, if necessary.

Why do you take silly matter so seriously.

Action and reaction are equal and opposite.

You are dealing with a human being not a machine.

She will be having her own change of moods.

We need common sense, logic, observation and understanding to lead a problem free life.

Or you have to leave her alone and to her destiny.

There is no other go.

Better find another g/f.

Answer 27

seriously call her! Its driving you crazy, then obviously you need some communication with her. Yeah i will be honest, you do not deserve someone who cheats. But everything is up to you, no one else can decided that for you! just remember that. Do what your heart tells you to, just watch out for yourself make sure you are not getting your heart broken over and over. Who knows maybe you two could grow for this and things could be even better than before. Or it could be worse because all trust is gone. No matter what though, if you want to make it work, you have to TRY. Decided together what you two are going to do. Figure it out together. Ithink that would be best for you and for her too.  

Answer 28

Give her the chance to explain and give yourself the chance to get some closure. I do believe people who have cheated on a boyfriend or girlfriend can change if they want to but it sounds like your girlfriend has been doing it repeatedly and that just says she's at a point in her life where she can longer commit to one person.

No one deserves to be cheated on...it's always disrespectful and uncalled for and there are plenty of girls who are better for you and will appreciate you more.

Talk to her and get the closure you need, but to avoid anymore hurt...i suggest letting her go. I hope things work out for you.

Best of luck :)

Answer 29

U shuld first see wat she wants.

nd after she explains everything u decide wats best 4 u.

answer mah question

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Answer 30

I really don't want to tell you something you already know...move on and time will heal the wound.

BUT

I noticed the layout, the way you wrote your feelings.

Are you a poet or writer? Musician? If not...I have a feeling you will be.

Spend your time learning some basic chords on guitar or keyboard and write...I know its there!