She find me bit too Serious ?

Question

My Fiancee complains that i am bit too serious..

* She feels bad that i do not agree to everything that she says

* Whenever I try to explain something to her she feel that i am scolding and trying to dominate her

* She says i am bit too much planned

* She feels that i have a habit of analyzing everything

* She feels that i think a lot

How should i handle the issue ??

I am 34 she is 27 and we are getting married in Nov 08

we live in different cities and communicating over phone only ..

Answer 1

Whay are you two even getting married?  You sound thoroughly incompatible.  If she has problems with even your most basic personality traits (your serious nature, the way you like to plan everything, etc.) you're probably not going to have a happy marriage.  Maybe it's not too late for you to call off the wedding and get back out there to find someone who loves you for who you are?

Answer 2

You write:  we live in different cities and communicating over phone only ..

There is your problem, right there.  You and your fiancee need to be spending some time together.  

From the comments you've made above, this does not sound like a good match.  A fiancee should be happy with you, not critical.  If you spend time with her and she continues to be critical . . . well, then you need to reconsider and cancel the wedding.

You are fine . . . just the way you are.  Maybe you just need to find a different fiancee?

Answer 3

thats a bad relationship, you should laugh a couple of times for absolutely no reason.then she'll start laughing, and then she'll think you have a little bit of humor

Answer 4

This does not sound like the beginning of a good marriage. If she doesn't like how you are, then why is she marrying you? People who go into a marriage trying to change the other person are pretty much doomed. I suggest counseling, and maybe postponing the wedding until you both figure out if you love the person you are with, not the person you are imagining in your heads.

Answer 5

If she doesn't want an analytical man, she needs to find the opposite. There are personality tests and she and you must be opposite. They say opposites attract and it is true, but she needs to learn to appreciate you are analytical and you must come to appreciate that she will be the opposite of you too. She thinks you are too planned because she is spontaneous. She feels you think too much and perhaps are slow to speak because she speaks quickly. Some times too quickly.

You aren't going to agree on everything and she needs to be able to accept positive criticism. Make sure you are being positive and accepting of her too.

Find a personality test to show her the differences in you. Let her know it is a good thing that you are different as you will find happy mediums, but you will have to both compromise.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Long distance relationships are hard to really take seriously.....I know I could never do one and some people don't have the same feelings as the other.....don't take life so serious you only live once so stop worrying about the little things and live today like it is your last.

Answer 7

Compromise.

Answer 8

Well, you can try to compromise with her and be a bit more spontaneous, however, she will need to start accepting you the way you are and understand that complaining isn't going to make you change overnight.  You cannot change who you are just to please her or you will just be unhappy.  Try to compromise.