She is so rude and never happy for me!?

Question

I have this friend who is really rude and not supportive of me at all. I got a really good scholarship to a high school, and she was mad! She said that if I accept the scholarship, she will spread rumors about me- really bad rumors. I know what you're going to say- stop being her friend. Well, the only problem is, she doesn't have many friends, and her mom is very strict about people not being her friend. She thinks they're bullying her, and then she tells our school. Our school has a big thing on bullying, and if there are any reports of bullying in or out of school, our principal will give them a detention (3 detentions= suspension, and my scholarship is gone.) This girl will spread rumors about people who "bully" her. She has cancer, so people always feel bad for her and take her side (even if the rumors she spreads aren't true). I hate this kind of drama and I really don't want to be friends with someone like her! What should I do?

Answer 1

Go to your principal first and speak to him/her about the whole situation. Let him know you have no intentions of talking to her and you wont bully her, but you have known her to use that to get back at people she gets mad at.

Then talk to the girl and tell her why you dont want to be her friend, and let her know you have already spoken to the principal about her rumor spreading and your concern about your scholarship. You might even request this be done in the counselor's office so there are witnesses.

Your "friend" is using her illness to be mean to people and get her way. She may not even realize she is doing it. Ask her if she would rather have a few good friends, or just have the people she knows pity her, but really rather not be around her. If you can get her to see this, you may save the friendship, If not you have laid the groundwork to free yourself.

Answer 2

Along with cancer shes a bit of a stinker too. Sounds like she used her illness to gain control over friends and family. Tell her that if she wants to be your friend she will except whatever happens. Tell her that two can play the rumor game. If she insists on spreading nasty rumors first you will have a talk with her mom. if that doesn't work you'll start one on her. Funny thing about those type of bullies they are usually blowing smoke up your ***.

Answer 3

She is not your friend and thats that. You don't need people like that in your life.  

Answer 4

shes prolly doing this because shes insucure about herself and doesnt no wat else to do, just talk to her and if she still mean tell your principal or a teacher they'll understand.