She is « she is my love » she change very quikly, but i don’t know how to solve this situation ?

Question

I’m a man who respect the others especially women

I fall in love with a lady, she has 20 years old and she study in the university

We were sending love poeme to each other by e-mail, and day by day i use to tell her i love you and when i talk to her also

She like that, and she feel delight !! she told me how she felt

After 245 days and i’m know her i send her some letter, to tell her how much i think about her and taht i love her and i want to marreid her. I mean that in future after she complete the studies

She was happy to hear like that, but today she is change –she said : « I think that in your mind I'm so perfect girl - it's not me, you fall in love with perfectl imagination of me »

I know that you are so great person and wonderful man

but I realised that I treat you like great friend, and I'm not in love with you

then i choked, and after a while i think that she is only want to be sure if i really love her or not, i ask her to forgive me and that i’m her friend and better more than friend

she said : « Don't be angry with me, but I think that you think too much

about me, I really not deserve for this, and I would rather be happy to hear that you met

another girl, so great, nice and beautiful- not waste your time for me »

i told her that i should not wrote that letter, just think that it’s not existe, i want to be your friend and more for ever

she said : « thank you, you are my real treasure »

I know that I let you down, and now you will a bit sad because of me

I told her that i know what you think about and hwo you feel

And i don’t want some one to take ou from me,

She said : « don't worry, it's difficoult for me to fall in love with somebody- i don' know why »

I don’t know how to could i wait or long time when she will compltete the study and then maybe i will have teh right to talk about married ?

I HAVE 25 YEARS OLD

And sorry for my engish it’s my 3rd language,

Answer 1

it sounds like you've never actually met her in real life, only online.   what was a fun, romantic thing is starting to turn more real to her.  she used to think that you were a fun guy to flirt with, but now she realizes that you want more.  20 is young to think about settling down with a guy she's never met - back off a little with getting married and being together forever, and send her nice notes again.  go back to being her friend.  when she's ready, she'll come back.

Answer 2

All you can do is back off from the "in love" and "marriage" talk.

It's possible that she's realized she's not in love with you; it's possible that she's in love with someone else; it's possible that you've scared her off by coming on too strong; it's possible that she's confused and may change her mind toward you later.

Whichever of these is going on, backing off a bit is the best thing for you to do.

You may eventually have to move on (or your own feelings may change). But whether that's the case or not, you can't force a person to feel feelings they don't feel.

Trying just drives them further away.

Give her some space. Try to distract yourself with other things. Then see how it goes in the future.

Whatever happens, you'll survive. If it's over, then you'll get over it with time.

Answer 3

I think your friend is having a hard time explaining how she came to what she feels today, but the key phrase is that she has said she is not in love with you.

It is very painful emotionally, when this happens, but it happens to many people.  You will get over it, its just a difficult process.  Love hurts.

I hope it passes quickly for you.

Answer 4

your love sounds great. real love is letting one go off if they wish. you love her and she knows it. just keep going don't take it too much to your brain so that it affects your life. one day she'll understand and she'll come to you if not you just keep going for it's love. and if you feel this hurts you you rather look for someone else who is in need of your love.

hi5 for your love. good luck.