She is …« she is my love » but she change very quickly, and i don’t know how to solve this situation?

Question

I’m a man who respect the others especially women

I fall in love with a lady, she has 20 years old and she study in the university in my city

she was sending to me a lot of warm love poems by e-mail, and time by time i use to tell her i love you and when i talk to her also when we meet each other.

She like that, and she feel delight!! She told me how she felt

we know each other from 245 days, I send her some e-mail, to tell her how much i think about her and that I love her and i want to married her. I mean that in future after she complete the studies

She was happy to hear like that, but today she is change – she answer me in mail and she said : « I think that in your mind I'm so perfect girl - it's not me, you fall in love with perfectl imagination of me »

I know that you are so great person and wonderful man

but I realised that I treat you like great friend, and I'm not in love with you

then I choked, and after a while I think that she is only want to make sure if i really love her or not, I ask her to forgive me and that I’m her friend and i treat her more than friend

she said : « Don't be angry with me, but I think that you think too much about me, I really not deserve for this, and I would rather be happy to hear that you met another girl, so great, nice and beautiful- not waste your time for me »

I told her that I should not wrote that letter, just think that it’s not exist, I want to be your friend and more for ever

she said : « thank you, you are my real treasure »

I know that I let you down, and now you will a bit sad because of me

I told her that i know what you think about and how you feel

And i don’t want some one to take you from me,

She said : « don't worry, it's difficoult for me to fall in love with somebody- i don' know why »

I don’t know how I will could wait for long time when she will complete the study and then maybe i will have the right to talk about married ?

She send me e-mail last week, but I don’t know what to tell her about this mistake that I did

I only talk about married

Hello dear « xy »

Your mail give me real pleasure and relief.

First of course the song - I love this song!!

And I'm so happy that you are not angry with me, and I don't feel like I has disappointed you, because you understand all my feelings and intentions.

You are so amazing person - I can tell you everything I feel, and don't afraid of your reaction.

Thank you!!

Take care !!

I have 25 years old, we have sign of lion, both of us :P

Answer 1

In my opinion, it sounds like there has been miscommunication.  Two way dialog requires listening and requesting feedback.  Ask open ended questions.  It sounds like you don't know her well enough.  She thinks that you like the idea of her not who she actually is because you haven't made the effort to know her.  Not everyone thinks like you do.  Being both Leos you will both need extra reassurance, attention and to share the spotlight.  I don't know if two Leos are compatible signs perhaps you could check in the horoscope section or at Astrologyzone.com (highly recommended by me).          

Good luck with everything.      

Slow it down you move too fast, got to make the moment last...

Simon and Garfunkel

Build your relationships slowly but solidly.  Be friends first and always.  If she says she's not in love, she's not, and then taking about marriage doesn't make sense.  Falling in love is friendship, mutual trust, open communication, chemistry and respect.  I wish for you to find love.

Answer 2

You are being too caring, and it is hard when you love someone. The thing is that if you love her more than she loves you its uneven and it will never work, you have to be evenly yoked in your hearts. Dont come on to her too soon, back off a little and if she really likes you she will come to you, you know the old saying if you love someone, set them free and if they love you they will come back. Dont let your heart be hurt, you only have one and when it gets hurt its not good so take care of your heart and be strong in yourself. You are special, and there will always be other women, she isnt the only one.