She said this to me, what does it mean?

Question

''i love u but there's something in my head thats stopping me from doing anything about it, if that makes sense x''

both 23, she's been really close to me, but totally backed off and acted cold the past couple of days. i've asked her what it is thats stopping her, she says she doesn't know.

Answer 1

Sounds like she really doesnt want to hurt you so she distant herself from you. After the details it sounds like she wants to take a break from the relationship. Give her time to breathe! The best thing you can do, is wait....................

Answer 2

shes just confused

im like that too

my heart says i love you

but my brain says no frikkin way

probably peer pressure maybe?

if she truly doesnt know

then she doesnt know

just deal with it.

Answer 3

either she has been hurt in a previous relationship or she doesn't trust you... or she has others that she is in love with too...

best to just back off, and let her make her decisions... be there, be a friend and don't push her into anything or she will scoot... :D

Answer 4

It means she likes sombody else.

Answer 5

Shes just not ready for a relationship yet. The fact that she says she loves you, is promising for when she is ready though. Hang in there, but don't put ANY pressure on her. She'll let you know when the time is right for her.

Answer 6

i think it means shes scared or unsure....be carefiul of what you do and say

Answer 7

It could be that she has been hurt in the past.

Have you told her how you feel about her, if you love her, perhaps shes afraid to let herself go in case you back off.

Its a big thing to tell someone you love them like she has told you, so just be patient dont push her too hard if you love her now is the time to let her know it. But tell her you will be patient and wait until she feels happy. good luck x

Answer 8

She's afraid of herself, maybe she thought that better not go on with you.Give her time to think.

just don't do anything stupid and respect her choise.

Answer 9

I think she means that she would like to be with you as more than a friend, but something is holding her back?

She might be scared to take it any further in case she ruins your friendship or something?

xx

Answer 10

I get the feeling she was sexually abused in the past.  That would **** her up pretty bad, and she might not even realize it.

Answer 11

She does know what it is that is stopping her. She is either scared, been hurt before, afraid of commitment, knows something about you, is bi-sexual, or maybe she is jut playing games...my goodness it could be a whole lot of things. She DOES know what is stopping her and I think she should be mature enough to sit down and calmly discuss this with you. You can't form a solid relationship with " I don't know's". Just my opinion. Maybe since you have known each other since you were ten it is better to just be friends. Doesn't sound like she knows what she wants.  

Answer 12

convince her that you are the ONE coz she's not quite sure

Answer 13

well maybe she does not trust u in that way :S

Answer 14

Interesting, I have a friend that did that someone else... Same age... I don't think is fair. She shouldn't play with your heart even if she isn't certain of what she wants.  

Answer 15

She likes you but is not ready to commit.

Answer 16

It may be that she isn't used to being lovey dovey or expressing herself intimately enough. It can create many awkward situations although she likes you she may be afraid of your reaction, she may not think of herself as "normal" because she feels she can't show her love in the way that you may want to be loved. There are many reasons why, she may have a friend that likes you too, and that may be getting in the way. She might also have someone threatening to hurt her or you if she doesn't stay away, family members/friends might be saying negative things about you despite her feelings and she isn't sure if she should take a chance on it if things go bad people may critisize her for trying to love someone. Another reason could be that loving you may be interupting daily activities like thinking of you so much that she can't work, study, etc. or from worry about what might happen to break the relationship can also cause problems and make her wonder if she should persue you or let herself get hurt and potentially her future suffers from it.

Answer 17

It could be a couple things but don't jump to conclusions!  She might be scared (things like body image and peers tend to alter perceptions of relationships sometimes) or it could be that she has a relationship with someone else.  You might just need to give her some time to thing about things between you.

Hope I helped some :)

Answer 18

Maybe she is just scared and there some things that she needs to work out. When you find the right person your soul mate than your heart will tell you. She has to be willing to follow her heart. Give her a few days than try asking what is in her  head that is stopping her.