She wants me to be her man of honor??

Question

ok...so ive asked this question before...but the wedding is getting closer..and im getting cold feet so to say...what are my duties? what parties do i go to? where do i stand(she wants me behind her...dressed in pink)...who do i walk the isle with??

Answer 1

well, since it's usually a maid of honor, she would be responsible for throwing the bachelorette party, but since you're a guy, are you allowed to go to the bachelorette party? the bride may also want you to throw the bridal shower.

as for walking the aisle, i would gues the husband to be has a best MAN and i don't think they would want you and the best man to walk together, so you might just walk alone. why don't you talk to the bride or the other bridesmaids about this. they would have better answers for your questions than anyone on Y!Answers.

Answer 2

Okay - nothing wrong with being a man of honor.

Although you must be a GREAT friend to wear pink.

When my brother was a man of honor, he wore a tux, although he did wear a tie to match the BM dresses instead of black.

Ask the bride your questions.  She's the one in charge.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You have a p***s! You can't be her man of honor, that's a lady's job (maid). That's lady business.

Answer 5

talk to the bride...nobody knows better than her what SHE wants for HER wedding....as for where to stand..most have a "practice run" so you will know where to stand what's expected of you during the ceremony etc........

not too sure about the pink.......if you are a guy;....wow..you must really LOVE your friend

Answer 6

Hi Scotchua, I have performed many weddings and have seen many different wedding parties. The correct title for your position would be "Person of Honor". You would typically stand where the Maid of Honor would stand. It is no longer about what s*x you are, it is about being important enough to the bride that she just couldn't imagine getting married without you by her side to share in this most special of days. I have seen this done many times and it always turns out to be very special because the couple has the people that matter the most to them, not who tradition dictates. Good luck and have fun with it.

Answer 7

I'm getting married next week and I am having a male and a female as my bridesmaids. My partner is having his brother and best mate as groomsmen.

In our order of service books we have called them Brides Attendants and Grooms Attendants so that everyone else doesn't get stuck up on who has a p***s and who doesn't. No one in the bridal party cares either way.

Both my attendants will walk down the aisle together (linked arms) and go to the left. He is wearing a suit the same at the other boys except he stands on my side during the ceremony, and sits on my side during the reception. He has been involved during the planning process, he's been to dress fittings with me, been the only bloke at a hen's party, helped organise bits and pieces.



To be honest it's been wonderful as I have been able to get another male's point of view along the way as well as getting feedback from my family and female friends. Perhaps you could wear the same suits at the groomsmen however with a different flower or a tie in the same material as the bridesmaids.

Whatever happens please talk to your Friend and let her know your concerns, ask her what she expects from you, that way you know where you stand. Otherwise other female friends may be able to offer you advice. Good Luck

Answer 8

wait a min MAN or honor or maid of honor? If you are a dude and she is trying to make you wear pink run away fast..

Answer 9

My brother did this for me.  I didn't have him plan any parties or anything for me.  I just wanted him to stand up there next to me in support.  He did fluff my dress.  We did a backwards wedding, my husband had a best woman.  It was actually cool.  My brother walked down the aisle alone and then when leaving the alter, he walked back down with the best woman.

My brother wore a tux ( Our colors where navy, so his tie and vest was navy, in your case it would be pink).  And his best woman wore a dress (in Navy).  

I don't have any pictures of how they stood.

Answer 10

k go see the movie maid of honour.. good movie. anyway,  a man of honour wears a suit instead of a dress, they are to stand right beside the bride.

Answer 11

You'll do exactly what the maid of honor would have done during the ceremony - you'll walk in after the bridesmaids (before the flower girl and bride), stand at the altar next to the bride while the ceremony is conducted, and process out following the bride when the ceremony ends. During the exchange of rings, the bride may need you to hold the bouquet, or to hold on to the groom's ring until she's ready to put it on his finger. If the groom has a best man, you may walk beside him when you process out of the church, but I don't think anyone will insist you hold his arm. You will practice all of this at the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding, so don't worry - someone will tell you exactly where to stand and when to walk.

The best thing to do is ask the bride if she has any other expectations. If you're uncomfortable with any of the arrangements, you should let her know - I'm sure she realizes this is a non-traditional arrangement, and there are bound to be questions and gray areas. If you feel awkward about your outfit or your responsibilities, you should be honest and see if there's a compromise.

Don't get cold feet - just think about how great it will be to stand next to your dear friend on her wedding day!

Answer 12

well man of honors are getting more and more popular, your duties are going to be a little different than if you were a female but you would need to plan the bacheloret party with the bride maids, you do not have to attend but ask the bride first to make sure.  you can go to the bachelor party.  and as for the pink thing its not bad.  its not like you will be dressed in pink head to toe.  

but in reality just talk to her and ask her what she expects from you