She wants to wait, regarding a relationship, help?

Question

Well guys, ive been hanging out with this girl for a while now. I've had the mindset that i have this in the bag, whenever i wanna ask her out. My friends have even been asking her about it, she then says she would say yes if i did in fact ask her out. We've spent some good time with each other, and we both enjoyed our time with each other. She would even txt me in the mornings with maybe "morning :)" I knew for sure that it was time to go for it. I did, and.. shot down.. partially i guess. She wants to wait, i told her why i wanted to be with her, and i told her that i as well didnt want to rush things. i said that we have all the time in the world. then she said yes, like you said, we do have all the time in the world, and then she said thats why we should wait. Should i take this as a sign to bail out now, or should i keep talking to her casually. girls, interpret this if you would. she made it evident to me that she was ready and i guess she wants to wait. Maybe she had bad experience with ex's and doesnt want us to break like her ex's did. I asked her out tonight, and failed sorta.. when should i talk to her again, and what should my approach be like, i want this girl and i dont want to scare her away

Answer 1

Well that's lame that she tells your friends that she will say yes and then she says no. If i were you i would continue talking to her and hanging out but leave other opportunities open in case she decides not to go out with you. I think it is a possibility that she could be saying that to see if you will stick around or just move on so i would continue acting the same way as you always do. And if you think about it, you're young so do as much as you can we don't have all the time in the world. Time flies! But anyway... about your next approach, i think that in a few weeks (or whenever you feel the time is right) have a serious conversation about your feelings for her and how much you want to be with her and hopefully she will come around. If she declines again i don't know if it is really worth it because you can only play hard to get so much, you know?

Answer 2

In a girls view, you shouldn't give up. I believe she wants to get to know you better so she doesn't get into a relationship without knowing enough that you won't hurt her. All girls are afraid of getting hurt whether they know it or not. Don't bug her with questions like "why?" "when is this gonna happen?" "how long do I have to wait?" or she might give up on you. Take it slow, maybe ask her out on a date. Just see what happens.

best of luck :)

Answer 3

Obviously anytime a girl says something like that you weigh your options. I mean normally girls say that sort of thing if they might have their eye on another guy as well. Like if the "#1" guy doesn't ask her out and talk to her she'll come to you as "#2" option. I believe you have to break her will, if you don't mind talking to other girls....do it. If you have interest in another girl she'll realize that she isn't your everything (no girl should ever be in the courting stage). Make her think....hmmm this guy is a great guy and I let him go with another girl....make her make a decision and don't be a complete jerk about it. You know what you want and you aren't a man who waits to let her make a decision. Seize the opportunity to move on and put the pressure on her....her true feelings will come out!

Answer 4

This is what one would describe as a x teaser.

just walk away

Answer 5

QUIT ASKING FOR A DATE!!!

Make it clear you want to spend time with her, to get to know her, and let her get to know you better, but it's not a date!!

It takes all the pressure off, you're just two friends spending time together.

If there's any interest, it will blossom naturally, you're not wasting any time, you'd be doing exactly the same things, (with much more pressure and obstacles), if you were "dating".

Luck