She won't leave me alone!?

Question

My mother always reads over my shoulder while i talk on msn.

She always asks who someone is, or if i really like some person, or if i'm actually friends with someone.

She tries to be my best friend a lot to.

She'll give her opinion on something that i know she wouldn't give that opinion on, or she'll lend me money, and she always calls me bud.

Its annoying. She gets herself into my personal life and then screws things up.

How can i get her to stop doing this without being rude?

Answer 1

Your Mom is just being a Mom!  You are lucky you have a mother who cares about your life.  Sit down and have a chat with her about privacy.  

You don't say how old you are, but parents are told to keep a close eye on their kids while they are on the internet.  Reassure her that you know what to look for and how to keep yourself safe.  As a possible compromise, promise to ask her if you have the slightest doubt about who's contacting you on the internet.  

Remind her that she has done a good job of raising you and now that you are older, you would like a little more privacy in all areas of your life.  Tell her you don't need her to be your friend, you have lots of those, but you really need her to be your mother, you only have one of those!  

My son is 19.  He doesn't allow me to look over his shoulder when he is on the internet.  If I get too close and start to read the screen he closes the window that is open or actually turns the monitor off!  He has assured me he is well informed and knows how to protect himself.  Since he has shown me that that is the case in other areas of his life, I trust and believe he can handle it himself.  He knows that both his dad and I are always there if he needs us.

I wish you luck and lots of privacy!

Answer 2

My mom was the same way when I was younger. Now, I'm 21 and she hasnt really changed. I'm married, and I have my own house and she is constantly giving her own opinion. The point I am trying to get at is, it might be annoying now. But you will appreciate her input later. And you will always find yourself asking her for advice, take advantage of it now, cause she wont be around forever!

Answer 3

well dont be rude cuz she would b sad shes just trying to be close to u. just tell her politely that u want more space

Answer 4

tell ur mother how u feel shell stop

Answer 5

You need to tell her how you feel.

Don't be a brat about it though. Just nicely let her know you need some space.