Should I Be Honest With Her?

Question

I'm sixteen years of age and I've been with my girlfriend for nearly three years now. As pretty as she is, she's always had a slight mustache and she knows about it. However, it's really starting to bug me abit. I really love her and I know that everythings not about looks and she has a nice personality but it does irritate me sometimes. I'm really conscious about myself and I get embarrassed because of it. I know that people will say that it's what's on the inside that counts and I appreciate that but I feel that it's holding the relationship back. Should I just be honest with her and say that it bothers me? I really don't want to upset her because she means the world to me. Is there anything that can get rid of it?

Answer 1

Yes, Yes, and Yes -_-

Answer 2

There are ways for ladies to get rid of this problem, although it will always come back and need to be dealt with.

The problem is if you can gently suggest these methods to her without hurting her feelings. Maybe theres a third party that could help, like a mutual friend or maybe her mother (depending on how close you are with her).  

Answer 3

Try asking one of her friends to mention it. Maybe that will work.

Answer 4

There's many ways to get rid of it. As for telling her, that's a touchy situation. You can always "surprise" her with a facial treatment at a local salon or something. Then the professionals will (should) mention it to her and how to remove and maintain the growth. That way, you're not telling her so it won't hurt her feelings, and she'll be handled by a pro!

Answer 5

well you could tell her "honey (or watev u call her LOL) i was just wondering if you could shave the mustach off........your very pretty but i think it might be holding us back....(adn then at the end say sometin like i luv u or sometin

hope i helped =}

Answer 6

Honesty is the best thing for anything.  Nothing can get any more real than it..well just tell her that she doesn't really need her mustache so why not shave it off?  Tell her your true feeelings about she means everything..because that's being honest too.  

Answer 7

Nasty Nasty it really is such a sensitive subject but there is so much out there to get rid of the problem!! Buy her a voucher for her to be pampered somewhere & maybe just maybe mention doing something about the moustache it'll be really hard & she may not like it but to be honest I would hate it I thought I had something that noticeably shouldn't be there so honesty is the best policy! She'll appriecate it coming from you rather then something humilating her under different circustances  

Answer 8

get one of your or her friends to tell her to shave.  

Answer 9

i sort of have one myself, and i just use an eyebrow shaver on it.

i would tell her....

if it's holding the relationship back, then you need to be honest.

if she really loves you, she'll take it off.

Answer 10

Approach this delicately, but yes, approach her about it.  If you had a hairy mole on your cheek, wouldn't you want to know if your girlfriend was bothered by it?  She can shave or wax her moustache.  More women have moustaches than you think, honestly -- it's just that most of them get rid of the hair on a regular basis.  There is nothing hurtful about telling your girlfriend about this unless you do it in a hurtful way.

Answer 11

Just tell her honestly about it. She might get upset but it can't be helped.  

Answer 12

This is tricky. No matter how you say it to her she will be hurt that it was you who said it to her. Good luck.

Answer 13

Tell her can u plz get rid of it.

Answer 14

just be honest with her.

she should appriciate it just put it in a niceway.

Answer 15

Ooo, that is very tricky territory. Since she cares about you, it will probably be worse coming from you. But tell her what you just told all of us. That she's beautiful, and you love her, and you think it would make her feel even more confident if she bleached or waxed her upper lip. However, it is her face, and if she knows about it it's either something she is fine with, or has been thinking about changing for awhile. Everbody has hair all over their face, but with some hair colors, it's just more noticeable. Like I'm uber blonde, and my lip hair is platinum, and I'm self-conscience about it, because you can't really see it, but it's so light it shines. So if someone were to tell me I should fix it I would probably be very hurt or grateful depending on the person. Is it really that bad? Because if it is something that really bothers you, that in time you will blow out of proportion and get in a fight over, then find a way to tell her gently. If not, forget it. If I was you I would tell her as kindly and nicely as possible, emphasizing on the fact that it is really isn't anything, just something you noticed recently, and wanted to be open about your feelings. Let her know you think she's extraordinary, and that she is beautiful to you no matter what. Otherwise I advise letting it go. Best Luck!  

Answer 16

don't be blunt she'll probably start crying i know i would be suttle or mess around jokingly even in jokes people get self conscious and check it out maybe take care of it  

Answer 17

Ask her what she thinks of the mustache?  If she says to you she would like to find a method to remove it one day perhaps offer to pay for a trip to a beauty consultant who can recommend safe temporary or  permanent treatment that way she can make a wise and informative decision.  It is probably something she may wish to discuss with her Mother too.  Is it really then necessary to say it bothers you... turn the tables first cause after all it is about her self esteem and you need to respect her decision too.

Answer 18

This is tricky and if you feel very strongly about it and want to speak to her then you need to approach it extremely carefully and with sensitivity. If you don't feel so strongly, I would not mention it. If however you do, then you could perhaps suggest you both visit a spa and have a treatment together, you could then look at a treatment list and point out that she could have an upper lip wax. I would however, suggest that amongst other things like having a facial or having her naisl done. Whatever you do, mention it in a way that makes her think that you still like her and that the hair on her upper lip does not disgust you otherwise the poor girl will get a complex.

Answer 19

i didnt read your info i just read the question cause i dont care the situation you should always be honest with her.