Should I Go To A Different School?

Question

Okay, I'm in year ten [English] I don't know what grade it is but I'm fourteen so you could guess, I suppose. Um.. I was thinking whether I should move schools. I mean, no one there seems to click with me. I'm the sort of person who likes to hear other peoples opinions on things and what other people are thinking on political subjects and having intellectual conversations. Most of my friends all they want to talk about is boys, smoking, and having s*x, and somethings tiffs that they have with other girls. I mean, I have been going with this for quite a while. The only person who has read the same book as me is a little bit dumb and she didn't get the book at all. but that properly the most intellectual conversation I have had with a person at my school. It's so frustrating, because I wear gothic clothes. and I sometimes where lace coats to school. but people just think I'm weird because I like to look intelligent and sophisticated. Should I move school? I'm worried that it will be worse there. Or should I stay put at where I am and when I go to a place like college I may find someone.. ? What do you think I should do?

Answer 1

Well you have a few options.   First your current school do they have any groups or extra curricular activities that you could join and maybe meet other students who share the same interests as you?     Second I don't know what kind of school you are in or where you are.    I went to a public school and a private school.   Honestly you have the same junk wherever you go.   Your friends are going to want to talk about what every other teenage is talking about but it doesn't mean you have to.   Keep yourself out of trouble, they may get into it.    So changing schools might be moot point.   third College will be a wonderful place for you.   You will really get a chance to express yourself and your thoughts and there are many people there that will share in that, debate it, and even agree with it.      

Changing schools is a big decision but its up to you.    Here is what I discovered (I had a similar situation I in theatre)  Be nice and listen to what anyone has to say, you will strike up friendships with people you would never even think you could and some of those will be life long.   Look into things that might interest you, there will be others.    I was in theatre so everyone knew my name but no one knew me, until I did something about it.   I never was popular but a lot of people did click with me when we discovered we had things in common.   Look past the surface.

Good luck

(just be kind to everyone you meet, I didn't learn that till my graduation year.   Guess what 4 years later people are still striking up conversations with me online and we havent seen each other in years, I'll be honest some I don't remember.   I thought everyone hated me in highschool turns out I was mistaken.)

Answer 2

To be honest i don't see the point in moving schools because you only have 1 year left or even less. Try having conversations with people you know you might be able to get on with and have a serious intellectual discussion. Keep your head down and ignore people that think you are weird because they are not worth your time or energy. Good Luck!

Answer 3

For me ncisrock's reply rocks..!!

It could just be that you are actually more intellectual than them.  Don't be a snob though as their intelligence in things like relationships might be better than yours.  

We all learn from each other.  Really intelligent people realise that early and guess what - more people like them than don't because they don't seem stuck up and they always have some thing interesting to say

Answer 4

ur very similar to me, im same age, similar problems (until recently) exept the gothic thing and trying to look smart. I got a couple of ideas to help you. try tone down the gothic look, one of my m8s is emo, but at school he duznt look it. He has black hair and stuff. I suggest you just wear a black coat instead of gothic coats and sorta just tone down the look. No eyeliner (its a bit OTT for boys and girls (as in making them like you) in high school). Try not to look as intelligent.

People sometimes call me a swat, but they dont think of me as one because i dont act or look like one. Never tuck in your shirt or do your top button up. Loosen ur tie, make the triangle thingy a bit bigger.

Right that sorts the look...erm, try taking up a new hobby at school, such as electric guitar. i dotn know why, but people tend to like you more if you can do something they can't. Also, dont feel you have to be dumb, or pretend to be something ur not. Be who you are, but spend more time socialising, and change the way you act slightly- make yourself look more confident- people dont bite..well..i dont anyway..Be more assertive, and still be smart and intellecutal. I find its much easier to talk online with people similar to you if u wanna have conversations. And try to fit in more with ur mates. Engage and enthuse in thier conversations a little more, you may think you're not as different as you think.

Anyway there u go, that shud help..i hope

Answer 5

If you want to move school, I suggest that you should research schools in your area with strong academic performane, you will fit in more then, but if you like it where you are, stay.

Answer 6

sounds to me that you are going through the same situation as everyone else, I really don't want to go back to school either because it is high school, and I really don't like anyone there. I think you should just stay put because you have gone this far, and you might as well graduate from the school you have been in for awhile. Oh and don't forget it is only temporary and you'll b out of school soon.

Answer 7

What are your grades like? If they are good then stay put...if not then speak to your parents about moving...but you may find the same problems elsewhere...I was a bit like you and it got a lot better at college.

Answer 8

if you want to have an intellectual conversation with someone when your in year 10 you would have to go to a private school. almost all girls have thoughts about guys at your age and almost nothing else. so yea going to a public school would really be no different at all considering the age you are at. I have a little of the same problem but people are younger here but still stupid v_v so honestly i think going to a new school would be totally pointless....

Answer 9

you can move school but it will take time and you might miss alot of year 10. you can move to a more posh school.  

Answer 10

only 1 year left its upto u

Answer 11

you can change schools but it's no guarantee that you will like another school better, so i would'nt recommend it.......if you really hate your current school ( and i mean really despise it) than you should switch schools........=)

hope i helped!

Answer 12

I wouldn't move now, because when you think about it you only have 2 terms left and then you can move to college. Also, other school's might of done coursework you haven't and vice versa.

It's your choice but i wouldn't move.

Good luck, and I hope it'll be better for you, whatever you do.

Answer 13

Well, hey.. u seem sensible =] I'd like to think i am too =]

I've felt like that before and my honest answer is, do what you want =]

It might be that u don't fit in with anyone at another school either =/

Once u go to college or uni and work there will be more mature people =]

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