Should I Have Kid When I'm A Teen?

Question

I Am 14 Teen Year Old Girl And I Want To Have A Baby.

People Say I Don't Know The Responsabilty's But I Do,Becuse I Raised My 3 Year Old Sister For 6 Years While My Mom Was At The Bar Drinking And My Step Dad Out With His Friends Getting High.

At That Time I Didn't Go To School I Stayed Home Taking Care Of My Sis And Because Of That I Had To Take Another Year Of School.

But I Would Have To Still Money To Buy Food For Me And My Sis And Had To Walk 3 Miles Just To Go To A Store, My Parents Were Never Home Ever.

All Of that Led Me To Wanting To Take Care Of Another Kid. If Anyone Has Ideas About Why I Shouldn't Have Kid Please Tell Me.

Answer 1

Oh gees, well, to begin with, immature pregnancy can really injure you, and is risky for you and your kid. It isn't worth putting your's and another humans life in danger.

You also need to consider your future child's happiness. If you bring it into an unstable environment, know you will have a hard time raising it, and won't have the time to give it proper attention and love, are you  willing to risk it? It's like hurting someone that doesn't have to be hurt. Don't have a child because you just want a kid, think of the future human being you would be bringin into the world.

Just don't do it. You aren't physically or emotionally mature enough for this yet, to be brutally honest.

Besides, you're 14. You have your entire life ahead of you to have a family. Don't risk ruining your plans for the future on one selfish whim.

Answer 2

This is a big problem:

You raised your three year old sister for six years...

There ya have it.

Answer 3

If you are in those same conditions, than no because another child shouldn't have to suffer like that. I like you should try to bring up a child the best you can, which means having a father for it.

Answer 4

It's natural for a teenager your age to have that motherly feeling when you see kids on the street to go "oh she's so cute! I want one! " But we're not meant to be mothers! After all, we're practically kids ourselves. It is very difficult to raise a kid stay on top of school and keep a social life. They might be cute in photos but they can be tough little things. You'll be very stressed out. They will turn your life upside down. With raising a kid there comes a lot of money and time and effort and you won't be able to get your own start on life. Teen preagnancy and birth may lead to a lot of health complications for a baby. 80% of teen mothers must rely on welfare because of not enough money. Teen mothers are likely to drop out of school and only 1/3 of them will actually graduate from highschool. Also, teen preagnancy is closely interlinked with alcohol and substance abuse. I suggest you watch the show Baby Borrowers on NBC. It gives a glimpse as to what being a mother would really be like: babies aren't cute all the time that's just the cold hard truth. Wait until you're married to have kids it'll just make your life a lot easier.

Answer 5

No. Wait until you're at least 20 to have a baby. You need time to be a teenager and have fun, to finish school, and to go through the process of growing up. Just because you took care of your little sister doesn't mean you can deal well with pregnancy and taking care of a newborn. Please, please wait.

Answer 6

I felt the same way at 13. I dont know why part of me wanted to be able to take care of something and make a difference it seemed to be i just wanted to be n control of something. If i were you I wouldnt hve a baby wait untill your like 18.

I am 18 and i was pregnant and delievered 3 and half months early and i had complications and so did the baby. The baby died and i might not be able to have kids ever and this is when i was 18 not 14 so if your only 14 it might kill you.

I know the feeling though, it would probably be best if you waited at least 4 years

Answer 7

Haha, you stupid. You THINK you know responsibilty. Do you want to ruin a mans life so you can have a baby?

Stupid!!!!!!

Answer 8

definatley wait until youre older....if you want to take care of kids, you could babysit, or work at a daycare best answer plz?

Answer 9

No. It doesn't get more simple than that.

And, I didn't read past the first sentence, because the over use of capital letters made your paragraph way too hard to read.

Answer 10

*cough, cough* TROLL*cough*

Answer 11

You have to ask yourself several questions. Wanting a child is a natural thing for a female of any age. But are you really ready for it?

Can you support this child? Will you have help? Is there a bf in the picture who wants one as well?

If the child gets sick can you afford the doctors bills? Do you want to finish school and go to college which is harder to do with a baby.

I can list 100 reasons why you shouldn't have a child but in the end its your choice. At 14 your body is not ready for this and could have serious complications and you could not have any more children. You could die in child birth. The baby may not be healthy would you be able to deal with a special needs baby and be able to support it? You can't take back a baby.

Honestly I would say wait. There is no harm in waiting until you're older. Until you finished school and have a good job. Bringing a child into this world is a gift and a huge responsibility. You need to be able to take care of all its needs and provide for it and give it the best you can. Can you really do this at 14?

When they are 14 and want to have a child what will you say how would you feel?

Go to the store look at how much everything you would need would cost. Do the math can you afford a baby?

Just think about it seriously before you do something you can't return. Babies don't come with receipts.

Answer 12

No way. simple. Your in the stage 'i want a baby!' Trust me, you wont want on when the baby comes. My cousin is a teen mom & she is super stressed out. Big Truth: Your body isnt ready for kids at 14 years old! its still growing. You still have that innocence that comes with being 14 (not to mention a virgin). Bringing a baby into the world with no way of supporting it, is sad. Take time to grow up and have fun. Wait until you are emotionally and financially stable(meaning having a job-a good one!) enough to have a baby. This completely normal (:

Good Luck!

Answer 13

Watch Baby Borrowers. That will show you many reasons why teens shouldn't be parents.

You need to take this time to be a teenager. I got married when I was 19 and I feel like I missed out on a lot of going out and fun that my friends experienced. I didn't have any children then either. I had my first child at 23 and my second at 28 and I get very stressed out. One of them needs me all the time.

It's not about whether you are responsible enough or not. Do you want to give your child a better life than you had?

If so, finish high school, go to college, get married, and then have kids. By then you will have had plenty of time to get to know yourself and find a person to share your life and children with. You will also have a good job and be able to easily support your child.

Many of my classmates in high school had kids before we graduated and now their parents are taking care of their kids. They thought that they could handle it, but it didn't turn out well.

Answer 14

if you already had to raise your sister and had to struggle through that why would you want to raise another one at your age?

Answer 15

Well, the first reason why you should not have a child is based on the bible ... child bearing is only for married people because s*x is only for married people. So you should not be having s*x anyways ... although this world promotes s*x otherwise. And especially since you did not have a mother figure and a father figure who weren't really any good anyways ... why would you want to bring a child into this world with a man whom you at 14 are not even old enough for marriage? Besides ... when you have a child and are not married to the man, chances are most men or BOYS will not really be in the child's life. Then you are going to have too much drama ... like trying to get a man to pay child support of having a too young of a boy who does not have a job pay child support or even be a father... since I dont know who you are thinking about trying to get you pregnant if you decide you want to. The bible only permits s*x between married people of course then come children between married people for less stress and more stability. You wont have to worry about whether there will be a father in the baby's life or not. You will know that the man is committed to you and your child and so your baby will be recieving love equally from mommy and daddy. Or otherwise, your child is going to turn out living a hard life the way you lived. Before you have a baby ... you too need to think .. if you had a daughter who was only 14 and yes, even though she may be responsible ... is too young for a real job, is still in school of course (you are worried she will have to drop out of school and not get her diploma unless she gets it sometime in the future if she even has the time in between trying to raise a child), and knowing that your daughter if not married ... will now be a baby mama who there is no gauranteed father figure to take care of the baby ... WOULD you ALLOW YOUR DAUGHTER to have a baby too? There are so many things to think about ... it is not just about being responsible at 14. You are being selfish by wanting to have a baby at this age .. and you want to asl me why I feel you are being selfish? Well, it is because all you are thinking about is about yourself ... that you just want to have a baby because you think you are responsible. But that is NOT a reason to have a child or bring a baby into this world. You will not be able to provide for this baby the way your parents were not able to provide for you ... you never know, your baby will probably grow up regreting you as a mother the same way you regret your parents for not giving you the best life. There is a BIG difference between being responsible enough to have a baby and being READY to have a baby. You are ready when you dont have to STEAL to feed yourself and the baby ... you are ready when you have found a man who has ALREADY committed himself to you thru marriage ... you are ready when you know financially that you will be able to feed your baby and cloth him/ her and take care of all her basic needs ... you are ready when you can take care of yourself without doing illegal things to survive. You are ready when you know in your heart that you will be able to give your baby the life that you never had ... that is your baby having a loving family environment ... solid and secure ... trust me ... its not worth it ... YOu will regret it when you get older if you do not wait when you are READY. Think about that future baby's future ... not yourself. Please wait ... I too thought I wanted a baby when I was young ... about your age and I waited til I got married and now have 2 beautiful children. I am 25, married when I was 18 and have a wonderful life! I could never ask for more ... but it was because I waited ... I love my life and I have a WONDERFUL husband to share it with ... wait til you have that wonderful husband ... take your time too to find him that is .. its not just about s*x ... it is a lifetime commitment.

Answer 16

lol did u raise the 3 year old 3 years before they were born?

u answered ur question remember how hard it was? dont do that just wait til u have money

Answer 17

think of it as this...

you will never have the teen or college girl experience..

instead you will be home taking care of a child..

you will be woken every 2 hours to feed it, change it, take care of it.

then it will grow to a child and will need new clothes every few weeks because it is growing so much

soon it will want more than barbies or toy trucks

it will want EXPENSIVE things.

then how do you know your child wont be doing things behind your back? every parent says "i'm not oblivious" yet how many of your friends drink/smoke/sneak out and the parents don't have a clue? kids are sneaky

what if they get arrested? what if they turn out to be someone you're constantly bailing out of jail?

what if they mental problems?? what if you have to pay for their irresponsible body the rest of your life because they are into drugs?

also do you want YOUR child to go through what you're going through?

always having to help taking care of the family and money because you had a child so young and you're not financially stable enough yet so they have to struggle as well?

then think of college, thats a huge payment on the PARENT.

don't forget about that wedding and how many THOUSANDS of dollars that will cost

and by the time that happens, you'd only be 35 my dear.

think of all the things you will leave behind.

yes you take care of your sister, but don't you want to just live and have afun with NO responsibilities a few years?

trust me hun, high school is TOO young to have a baby

even COLLEGE is too young.

live life, you're still a baby!

trust me, kids are so much more than they sound.

Answer 18

just dont do it.

it is way to much responsibilty for a teenager.

teens are supposed to be having fun.

live it up with no responsibilities before you get a job and start driving.

wait until you are an age that you know that you are ready and financially stable.

Answer 19

First of all you can't raise someone who's three, for six years. Second of all please learn to type without using a capital letter at the start of ever gosh darn word, it becomes annoying and often hard to read for certain people. Third, I think that you might just be looking for attention asking this and please save Y!A for someone who really needs it.

Answer 20

If you still take care of your sis, then having a kid might make things difficult. Having children at this age can be hard on the body, which probably still isn't fully developed. Before you make any decisions, you should take on an education again, so you're able to get a job to support the family. To help decide what's right for your life and body, talk to a doctor or medical counselor. If all else fails, pray to God that he lead your life in a healthy direction.

Answer 21

No, no, no, no, no. You may think you know what it takes to raise a kid but you are still a kid yourself. This is the most idiotic question. Parenting is f*cking hard, alot harder than taking care of a sibling. You are still a CHILD, you should not be having a CHILD. Geez, you can't even drive yet, can you?! And you raised your 3 year old sister for 6 years? Go to school, get an education, and then tell me what is wrong with this picture.

Answer 22

no please don't do that...

it will run your life no matte what your body may not even be fit for giving birth or caring the baby....

every teenage girl will want a baby h**l id like a baby but ...no don't you ever not till you find the right guy and your married what would you tell you child "yeah your only here because i wanted a kid" i didn't love your father. horrible... please don't do it...

Answer 23

Children don't need children.

Taking care of your 3 year old sister for six years gives you no reason to want to have a child.

You're 14 you're still a child don't you want to have freedom as a child and not have to worry about taking care of another child.14 year olds shouldn't even be having s*x.You don't know what it takes to be a parent.

You have your whole future to have a child why do you want to spend your childhood raising a baby.

Answer 24

You shouldn't have a kid because you deserve to be a kid yourself. There are so many other things to look forward to as a teenager besides raising children.

Let's look at this another way. You say you've been raising your sister for six years, had to steal money for food and it's been really difficult at times. I'm sure you've done the very best with what you had to work with, but wouldn't you rather take the time to grow up, get an education and have a child when it can all be so much easier and more enjoyable? Yes, you would. You and your future children deserve a better life.

I think that you are suffering from what is called "empty nest syndrome" something that moms' suffer from when their kid's grow up and leave home. It can leave a gaping hole in your heart and many women have a hard time filling all the time in the day because they aren't caring for kids any more. I bet if you think about it, this is probably what's happening. Your life is in transition and what you are comfortable with is caring for another person. Instead, you should take this time to care for yourself.

Answer 25

Im basically 14, and I thought having a child might be fun. But then I thought about it and realized that I wanted to enjoy my life as a teen. The time to have a child will come at the right time. But right now, you should enjoy being a teen.

Go to school, become educated, have a career, and be happy.

If you really love kids though, try babysitting, or volunteer at a day-care or nursery.

Then you could be around kids, but you could still be a teen.

Answer 26

NO YOU SHOULDNT HAVE A KID RIGHT NOW! yes, you seem like you really do know the responsabilty of having a child, and im not saying that your dont but i really dont think that you should have a child at this point. You are still a kid yourself and since you've beene taknig care of your sis, now that she's a little more grown up, i think that you should use this time to actually enjoy the time when you yourself is still a kid. Youth is not eternity and you should enjoy it while it last. You can have a kid when your older nd have had enough of your youth years. Besides, waiting for something that you really want will just make it even happier when you finally get it. =)

Answer 27

NO

dont have a kid at age 14 thas just rediculous

3 year olds are A LOT easier to take care of then babies.

At age 14 you are not old enough and certainly not nearly responsible enough to even be considering a baby.

How would you earn income for this child?

Where would this child live?

How would you go to the reamaining years of school?

At age 14 you can't legally drop out

Do you really think that you could provide a suitable lifestyle for your child?