Should I LET my parents influence My LOVE LIFE?? ?

Question

ok so ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for ova 3 months, everything is great with "us". we talk, we see each other etc etc

anyway we were at my house yesterday and no-one was home, so we started to "fool" around with each other. through out the morning. anyway my mother works from home. we didnt realise she was at home untill we heard her and the children she looks after. so we freaked out and got our clothes together because we were still naked lol. but i didn't realize that my mother could see my boyfriend putting his pants on through my fish tank, anyway so lata in the afternoon me and mum had a talk (well she screamed and i cryd lol) , but i didnt tell her everything that has happened between us (sexually). and now she is making me feel like a totally s**t, and that im worthless, dirty, etc etc....

she is also making a huge deal out our relationship, saying all this stuff about "remember who your family is not just ur boyfriend" , and stuff like "well his just using u", "do you really know a person in 3 months", "do you really want to have s*x with this person" . blah blah....

i dont really know wat to do in this situation, like my mother had me thinking to save our family and relationship to just break up with my boyfriend and that would save everything

i feel like i cant tell her everythng / anything cause she will judge me, but should i express my feelings to her in a letter? explaining everythng

or should i just battle it out and talk to her face to face?

or should i do sum thing else im really confused at the moment, could anybody plz give me any type of advise PLZ.......

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

I think your mother has a somehow abusive behaviour, her comments about the family smell of "control-freak".

But hey, fooling around at home was probably not the smart choice huh?  Maybe she got shocked and over-reacted about that!

Anyway, your life belongs to you so insist on maintaining your relationship. For a while at least, only do things she would approve of (like things she used to do when she was young and dating).  This way she cannot criticize you.  In the end, she will relax, knowing that her daughter is a responsable and well behaved young lady.

Answer 3

tell her in a letter, and do it when your going to be gone a while, or she is gone for a while, that way it can sink in and she can think about it before you can talk to her. 1-lets her calm down, 2-she can pick her words carefully

Answer 4

How old are you? No one has the right to call you a s**t, but she is probably worried about you.

Answer 5

Boys will be boys. They are curious about s*x, naked bodies etc. Girls will be girls, they too are curious about s*x and romantic love.

Together at this point there isn't much responsiblity. So your mum is concern about the responsibility and the problems that will follow if your actions and your thinking doesn't go responsible. So s*x is fun for you guys of course but what about the after affect? Think about the consequences before enjoyment not the other way round and your mum will be confident in your choice of actions in the future.

Answer 6

wow. well i think you should let your mom know. that you really like him.. i dont know how old u r.. guessing hi skool. but ya, if you dont feel confident speaking to ur mother face to face. and email, or a letter is good. But she shouldnt put it like.. your family or ur bf. thats not right... but.. ya just take my adive and i hop everything works out.