Should I See My Dad????

Question

When I was born, my dad left my mother and I to live in Oregon. He had a son with my mom's friend before he had me with my mother. My mother and my father were never married and they have never seen eachother since. I have never seen my half brother either. I don't know if I want to see him because I am affraid it would be too awkward since he probably has another family. Should I see him???

Answer 1

If you think you can forgive what he did to you and your mom, just go ahead and see him. But if you can't, I recommend you not to, cos I think you'll do something terrible that can ruin your relationship with him. However, you ought to follow what your heart tell you (not really work, I think). Anyway, he's still your father (at least), and the best way is to tell him what you think, what you went through since he left you and your mother. There may be something miraculous, who knows?

Overcome yourself and decide by your own mind. Maybe consult your mom first for sure. Hope it can help you.

Answer 2

does your dad want to see you or you just curious ?Was your mom aware of that before having you cause if so well it's not your problem and maybe you should but wait has he been paying child support or mailing you birthday cards or being a part of your life as of calling you to see how you are doing or anything like that if not then maybe not cause he didnt have any concerns about your needs  if he has been absent and now wants to see you no dont cause he didnt care about your needs and was supporting another child while anbother child needed things too fathers like that need to be punished well I hope that you can come up with an answer I hope that it doesnt get you too confused .

Answer 3

NO. you  shouldn't.

all  u  will  get  is  disappointment .

curiosity  kills  the  cat so  stop  thinking about  him  and live life.  

Answer 4

Its up too you, but if he hasn't tried to contact you before it could be awkward

Answer 5

No, I would not see your dad.  He doesn't sound like a good father to me, having a baby with your mom's friend, then having a baby with you mom while un-married, then moving away when you were born.  That tells me he doesn't really want to be a father.  I would stop thinking about him and try to live your life the happy way.  Don't worry about him or your step-brother.  

Answer 6

Well....all I can tell you, is do what your heart tells you!  But I would say yes, why not?  What do you have to lose?  In reality, nothing...you would gain something instead.  From my experience, I would say go for it.

Something similar happened to me.  My dad lived with me and my mom until I was about 3 years old, then he decided to move on.  My parents were never married.  He had 3 kids from his first wife, but I never got to meet them.  Then he had the other woman, and had 2 more kids.  I never saw my dad again until I was about 12 years old, and that was for a few hours.  I never looked for him, because I always thought he was the grown up, and he should be the one to look for me.  A few years past, and I was anxious to look for him....Could not find him or get ahold of his family.  A few months after that, I found out that in the time I was looking for him, he had past away.  It hurt me, because if I wouldn't of been so stubborn, I could have spent some time with him before he died.  Now I got to meet one of my older brothers, and the two younger ones.  I also started communicating with one of my other brothers from the first wife.  I gained alot more family!!!!!  Give it a try!

Answer 7

i think you should

come one. why not?

if not youll spend your whole life wondering what it would have been like meeting him. so go for it:)

what have u got to loose?