I have been married for over 25 years. Over the last 10 -15 years, I have grown very unhappy with the marriage. We don't argue or fight. He is so different from me and we seem to have huge differences in our opinions on many things. It didn't really bother me at first. But now that our children are grown, he annoys me almost all the time. I have given up my entire life for the last 25 years doing all the things which he likes and wanted me to do. Which was staying at home taking care of him and the children, working only for him, etc... Now that I want to do something for me, it seems that he is non supportive.
I am no longer in love with him. I have tried to recapture the love to no avail. The sexual attraction is gone ( a long time ago). He doesn't seem to care about his grooming and/or appearance. I make simple suggestions to improve and he rejects them. About 5 months ago, I had a brief affair and I told my husband about it. He forgave me and we stayed together. The affair was not about love; it was just nice to have someone that seemed attracted to me and seemed to enjoy talking to me. He asked me then if I wanted to say and I said yes. Now I wonder if I should have left. I don't know if I should continue to stay in this marriage or just end it and try to enjoy some of my life.
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