Should I add my ex boyfriend to my facebook?

Question

I broke up with my ex 15 months ago......and we have not been in contact until the beginning of this summer when he started iming me a lot and trying to have convos with me. My new boyfriend and I ran into him someplace during the year and lets just say that after what my ex bf has done to me in the past relationship my new bf wants to kill him! Im serious i hope they never really meet!! So today I was on facebook and it showed that I had a friend invite from him......but i know if I add him he'll just want to get in on my business, mess with my boyfriend, and probably just cause problems. Plus Im repulsed by him so im just going to ignore it because im not ready to risk what makes me happy for him. Do you think Im doing the right thing? And why the h**l would he even want to be in contact with me when he apparently is a "player" now? Plus do you think my new bf would have a problem with it if i added him?

Answer 1

It was 15 months ago. Get over it and get on with life.

Answer 2

Don't add him and don't talk to him. Your boyfriend wouldn't have a problem, but you certainly do.

Answer 3

if you dont want to add him, dont! if he'll jus start problems then dont! if he jus started to contact you again..well..i honestly dont know that part.

good luck!

Answer 4

i wouldnt add him... sounds like t r o u b l e! think of it from his point of view... he could be a "player" or he could be mad that u guys broke up. he might hate ur new bf and want 2 get revenge... if u broke up and havent had contact for 15 months, i would just keep ignoring him. & didnt u say u were repulsed? that answers u question rite there. dont add him. ignore him. in my opinion, thats the rite thing 2 do.

Answer 5

Um..  If you want to go ahead.  If you don't trust him then don't.

Answer 6

I dont know

its just facebook

Answer 7

Dont add him.Been there done that.Its very hard to have your boyfriend on face book.It will cause trouble

Answer 8

Don't add him, if you do you are just asking for problems.

Answer 9

ya i think u should because then u can swear at him adn say alot of other mean things but if ur a boring person then i would suggest u dont

Answer 10

I wouldn't add him. Like you said, he'll probably just cause problems.

Answer 11

"after what my ex bf has done to me in the past relationship my new bf wants to kill him!"

Not a good thing to spill everything about past relationships, and this is not an endearing quality in a new boyfriend.

There is something you could do.  Let the ex boyfriend apologize.  It may be that he's truly sorry for everything.  Hard to say.  Let it end at the apology.  Tell him thanks for apologizing, and you forgive him, but you have to end it here.  Then block him from everything(Facebook, phone number, etc).

Answer 12

Yeh i think you should add him.

It doesnt mean you have to meet up with him or be close friends or anything, it just means you can occasionally chat to hima and see how he is getting on.

Accepting his add would be polite and if you dont he'll think your being impolite and i think that it doesn't make a difference to happiness, its not like your getting back with him or anything.