Should I adopt a kid?

Question

Should I adopt a child or have one? There are so many orphans in the world and I'm pretty scared about having a baby of my own... What should I do?

Answer 1

no one can tell you what to do. i mean it would be great if you can love someone that is not yours and raise this person to be lovely and sweet. but its your own decidion to which you want to do. take care

Answer 2

if you feel in your heart that you should adopt then do so.

this might be a good option for since you're afraid of having your own. but this all depends on you. whatever you feel is right. and i do agree adopting is a good option to seriously consider.

to help you with the desicion here are some sites about adopting:

http://www.adoption.com/

http://www.adopt.org/

http://www.childrenshopeint.org/child_ad...

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good luck!

Answer 3

what ever' best for you hon good luck!

Answer 4

You could do it both ways. A lot of people do

Answer 5

I say why not? When I was younger, I use to believe that you could never really love an adopted child as much as a child you bore, but that truly isn't the case. This summer I worked at a daycare, and I fell in love with one little girl who had no parents, no relatives, no nothing.  She was the sweetest lil thing and she was only 22 months old. She could barely speak and loved to held. Oh, how I loved her dearly, but I was to young to adopt. I am only 15 and it broke my heart when the job ended. Sometimes I still visit the daycare, but I try to do it only once or twice every 2-3 months. I miss her so much. But anyway, my point is, adoption is a wonderful thing and gives children with out anything, something. So therefore I say adopt. And.... you can have a kid later if you choose. It's the best of both worlds. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I did both, and I can tell you that having them yourself is a whole lot easier than the adoption process.

If you can have your own children that may eliminate you from some adoption lists because they often only want couples with fertility problems.

If you're afraid about having one, though, it may be good not to adopt one either.  You're apparently not ready to be a mother.

Answer 7

I was adopted and would say if child birth is not impossible then have your own because there is always a niggling feeling of the child that they will want to find their birth parents and that can be very hurtful for you. I am 5ft tall and had a son at 11lbs - with many complications but he was healthy and well and there is no feeling in the world like holding your own child after having just given birth to him. Get an epidural and get on with it or you'll regret it for the rest of your life. There are risks in everything we do in life but if we dont take chances then what quality of life can we really have?

Answer 8

both;  have one and get over the fear and then adopt the 2nd one

Answer 9

it all depends on what you want to do....if you're afraid of having your own, then wait on that and adopt one. it's really a personal decision....do what you think is best....i think you could adopt, seeing as how many kids there are out there that need adoption, but that's my  opinion....

Answer 10

That's a personal decision you have to make for yourself and your partner. If you are able to have children I say go for it... if you want more than one in your lifetime you can do both. There are lots of children around the world, and there are lots of people around the world waiting to adopt them. It's up to you. Good Luck!

Answer 11

your the only one that can make this decission...what is right for one isn't always right for another...I've always said I don't want to have kids of my own because there are so many kids that need a good home...but more I think about it...I'd love to have one of my own that has my red hair (a family trait) and is like my husband...but ultimatly I know I will adopt atleast one!

Answer 12

NO

Answer 13

Yes adopt a kid.

Answer 14

This is a very, very personal choice. One that needs to be made with your partner, if you have one. No one can decide if adoption is right for you or not, except for you.

I suggest you check out the Dave Thomas Foundaion and request their information on adoption. It can help you decide if you really want to adopt or not.

Oh, and you can do both. I have a son, and we're trying to concieve another child, and we plan on adoption in the future.

Answer 15

I, personally, think you should adopt.  I was adopted at 2 months of age and love my family.  My brother was about 2 years old when my parents adopted me.  Before they got married, they decided to have one and adopt one.  Well, 4 years after they adopted me, my sister came along!  She was born on my 4th birthday!  

There are so many children out there without parents and it sounds like you'd be a great parent to one of those needy children!

Of course, just because you adopt a child doesn't mean can't also give birth to one, too!

Good luck!  and Bless you!

Answer 16

If you have to ask us, then no, you shouldn't adopt.

Answer 17

Having a child is the most wonderful and powerful experience in the world. You do not give any reasons as to what scares you about having one of your own, either way it would still be your own. I believe that adoptive parents are very special people cause they take a total little stranger and give them the world. Just think it through cause having a child takes a responsible and loving parent 24/7 for as long as you live, not just till they turn 18.

Answer 18

Only you  can really make that decision. You should know that you can have adopted and biological children.   Maybe you can adopt first, then in a few years you might not be as scared to have a biological child, then you’d have two great kids.

Answer 19

Do what you feel is best in your heart. The love will be there either way.