Should I agree to move to Mexico?

Question

I'm from the U.S, but my husband is from Mexico City. We have a daughter that is almost 4. He is talking about wanting to move back to Mexico City within the next year and I am unsure and would like some opinions. He isn't sure we'll adjust to the lifestyle (he's been here almost 10 years now) and neither am I, but he would like to spend some time with his family (mother is getting older), start a business and let our daughter experience the culture there. He is willing to visit again before deciding and says we can give it a year and if I hate it, we can come back. I've visited 3 times, each time for about 2 weeks. We would be renting a house from his sister that owns 2 properties, he would find work locally and I would teach English. I speak very fluent Spanish, so that is not a problem. My biggest concerns are leaving family (only close to sister) and getting stuck there. I also want to come back later to go to law school which he is supportive of. We would need to sell our home.

Answer 1

well luv this is a  decision for you,you dont sound convinced about it are you sure your not just doing it for your husband,having holidays there are alright but once you live abroad it might be different,i would have a good think and rearly talk it over with your hubby,you could give it a try and if your not happy there you can always come back home,yor giving up your house so make sure you have somewere to come back to,if you do go you will probably get home sick after a while but it is a new start and you can keep in touch with family and friends,but still have good talk about it and a good think before you make the decision

all the best hope you make you right choice

Answer 2

Sounds weird, you are planning to give it a try for a year, but you are selling the house already. I think you are moving to Mexico and you just want people to support you here and give you good comments on your decision. Well, I'll give you one, for a year or two it could be a great experience, I have lived in Canada and in the Netherlands (and Im from Mexico) and I always say "what the h**l? lets do this", so yeah, I think It will be a great experience, I have heard from Germans, Dutch, some Canadians too, that they would enjoy going to Mexico or latin america because life is just more relaxed and you gotta take the advantage of this.   Would you mind giving me the location of your new house in Mexico? I got relatives scattered all over the city (which is quite big) and they can tell me if where you are living there are enough facilities (schools, parks, museums, transportation) to make life easier. You dont need to give me details, just the neighborhood and the "delegacion", the municipality within the city and I could give you more details.

The city it self is wonderful, you got tens of thousands things to do, I heard once that you could eat out every day of your life and you wouldnt try all places.

Your daughter will be fully bilingual and that would be awesome bc a third language could come for her, after some years of studying I speak english and spanish fluently and Im going for "german".

About leaving your family behind, dont worry, mexicos city aiport has the best connections to the US, its the largest AP in latinamerican, you can go back anytime.

Hope this helps!

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Answer 3

Wow that's a big change....my husband is also from Mexico city and I lived there for a year and have gone back since we left but with our daughter....the only thing I have a problem with is how unsafe that city is....especially with taking your child there....your lucky to speak Spanish...I would say do it for your husband but to keep in mind your safety...

As to working there....getting a visa might not be as easy as you think as the Mexican system is so different and there procedures can take so long....working without one would probably be easier....anyways good luck

Answer 4

Gee... that just sounds so wonderful.. NOW... what are the REAL reasons?  Sorry, but I don't buy the "Woderful Life" secenario.

Answer 5

I would go. If you dont like it, you could always move back. Theres really nothing to lose. I wouldn't sell the house though. You could rent it out and make extra money while you're gone. or you could move back in if Mexico isn't your thing.

Answer 6

Moving to another country is an opportunity of a lifetime which most people do not GET. you have only things to gain from such a move, it makes you stronger. you can always move back if you dont like it, but i think you will like it!! imagine if you end up liking it more than your husband haha.......and besides mexico is so close to the US, you can come back 2-3 times a year...cant you find a job at the airport since you know spanish??

cant you figure out any type of distance learning colleges to finish your degrees? yes you can easily find a job teaching english..

and trust me i think you will love it..in latin america and in europe things are more laid back ,,beaches,,drinks,,holidays,,culture,,..... i just moved to greece about 2 years ago and i love it.(i was gone for 9 years)..all my family is in the US, i do miss it but i plan to visit soon..

Your priority is your husband and your daugther..follow your heart...

as far as selling the house, i am not really sure thats a good idea, because you might not like it and decide to move back after a couple of months, so to be on the safe side iwould rent it...if possible...

BTW, i  have never visited mexico but i would love to live there...its much more cheaper than greece..and i love spanish language...

Answer 7

One more thing..you said you would teach english.  it is not easy.  For you to work in Mexico, you must get a work visa.  you cannot get a work visa unless you first have a job offer.  The employer must state that he is hiring you because he cannot find a Mexican for the job..then must sposer you for your work visa.l  youmust have a degree in education from an accredited university in the states, you must provide all kinds of proof of your education, transcripts, etc.  it is a complicated process.   If you can find a job with one of the private english schols it is easier. Your income would drop dramatically.  if you could arrange to go for a year , but not sell your house it would be better.  this could be a financial pit for you.  Be careful.

Answer 8

Sounds like for every reason you should you find a reason not to.

If your so unsure about something so major it sounds like you really need to do somemore thinking.

Make a pro's and con's list. That seems to help.

Answer 9

sure

Answer 10

just make sure your daughter goes to a bilingual kindergarten. or an english one. cause when you come back, she;d be behind and she will be confused about which letters make which sounds

Answer 11

If you are both unsure, then I would give it more serious thought. It's a big financial undertaking and you don't want to end up in a situation where it's not financially possible to move back if you decide. And don't forget - visiting is one thing, living there is another. It's a whole other world there. Be certain you are aware of all of the differences - laws, health care, etc.

Personally, I'd just consider visiting more often. Your husband has been here 10 years and is obviously comfortable with life in the US. There are plenty of ways to expose your daughter to the culture.

Answer 12

Why not? Try it, you can always move back! I think it's a great opportunity for your daughter to really experience that side of her heritage, not just vacation there a couple of weeks a year.  Besides, it's a short flight to the states!

Answer 13

you shouldnt move  in you dont feel comfortable

People struggle and others risk there lives to get to the U.S.A

looking for a better life .

Answer 14

I really don't have an answer for you but find yours a bit strange. Why strange? Because many come to the US to be able to have a better life in MX but they never leave.  My mother was suppose to only be here for 3 months and it's been over 3 decades. I have an ex coworker who was only going to work until she built a home there. The home is built and furnished yet she has no plans in leaving.

The good thing is your daughter is still young so if it does not work out then you can always come back.  IF you do plan on going there to live I would make sure to teach your daughter english so that if you do come back to go to law school she does not struggle with the language.

GOOD LUCK in your decision.