My ex fiance and split up because he had an addiction to crack cocaine and one day while I was in the hospital, he left our infant/toddler aged children alone in the house by themselves for around 13 hours, and our then 1 month old almost died from being overheated because he was left wrapped tight in a blanket in his carseat. He never returned after that, but did go to drug rehab. I have been trying to work with him on and off since that event took place, for my kids sake, despite my sincere desire to move on from him with my kids in order to spare them a lifestyle of that type. He got out of rehab not even a month ago and started keeping our children over his parent's house with him quite a bit during the week to help me out with childcare until he starts working. To make a long story short, he did it again, he left the other day and no one has heard from him until he called me today begging forgiveness and wanting to keep the children in his life, even though we've spent the last year and a half dealing with his drug addiction and unreliability. I still put my pain to the side when he says he wants his children in his life, because I feel that children are to have both of their parents if at all possible, but I feel at this point that rehab didn't work, (in-patient or out-patient), my and his family support has not helped, and our kids are only getting older and more aware of what goes on...I don't know if I should let him back in their lives this time so easily. I'm afraid that another instance of him leaving them alone to satisfy his weak cravings will come about and my babies will suffer from his lack of responsibility. I don't know where this drug problem came from, because we were together for years before this happened, and I don't want to come off as the mom who men complain about playing keep away with the kids, but do you think its in their best interest to be led by a weak minded father who knows and admits he can't be strong? I've been his strength all of these years, but our relationship is over. Am I wrong? What would you do?
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