Should I apoligize?

Question

Yesterday my son came home with an 89% on his test. He is in all AP classes and I haven't seen him get a B in all his years of high school. (he is now a senior). I yelled at him, hit him, made him skip dinner, and made him sleep on the floor. He is usually the top of his class but now he thinks he can come home with an 89%? An 89% is no where near top of the class. I am afraid of what will happen to him. An 89% will sure bring down his grades. My son has been acting a bit down now and I am starting to wonder if i was a little to harsh. Do I need to apoligize?

Answer 1

You did so much wrong that I don't even know where to begin. Wait, yes I do. You treated him like he was being punished in a prison camp.  YES YOU NEED TO APOLIGIZE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

You over reacted.He may have hit  a subject that he has a harder time of understanding.Tell him you are sorry for over reacting but you expect him to get his grades up and you are willing to help.

Tell him you will get him a tutor and tell him even if he makes all C's, you would still love him, but you want him to do well for himself when he  becomes an adult and he NEEDS a good education and he will need good grades to achieve that.

Answer 3

Are you for real?  What is wrong with you?

Wiping out his self esteem will definitely not help.

Try just talking to him and help rather than hurt next time.

You need to apologize to him.

Answer 4

An 89!?!?!??!?!?! Thats good!!!! Its way better than what SOME people get! No offense, but you seem like a freak. That is creepy. You are senselessly idiotic and need to hit YOURSELF. Not your son!!

Answer 5

Are you serious? Of course you should apologize! Did you even ask why he got that grade, or talk to him about it? You made him sleep on the floor and didn't let him eat after you hit him do you realize you treated him like a dog and not a person? He is a senior in high school and a B is not going to kill him if he has never had one. You are right you should be worrying about what is going to happen to him after what you just did to him. You were out of control and way out of line and if I knew you I would call the police to be honest. I am in utter shock that you don't see the wrong that you did and the possible emotional harm you may have caused your son. I hope you don't have any other children. And yes I know I will get thumbs down but come on this guy just treated his son like a dog!

Answer 6

Just ask me how much I go to see my father (we live a few miles apart). Hope you have a son when you get older.

Answer 7

You are the worst father in history. Yes you defiantly need to apologize. You should help him with his work and encourage him to try to do better just because he isn't getting great grades doesn't mean you should punish him big time. If his grades keep slipping then maybe you should hire a Tudor.

Answer 8

you might be a father, but you dont sound like a very good one, you dont act like that over one test score.  your son is a senior in hs  if thats  the worst grade hes ever made you need to get over yourself and be thankful hes not hanging out with the stoners at lunch instead of making something of himself, you sound like an anal b*****d if you ask me. if my husband ever acted like that over a single grade toward either of our kids hed have some major problems headed  his way.  what do you do when he REALLY does something wrong? beat him and lock him in the basement for a week?

i hope this  is just an attention seeking thing on your part, because otherwise, youre warped.

Answer 9

I think you should beat him until he gets a 100%. Don't forget to lock him in his room and only feed him dry toast and water. Definitely no need to apologize or to ask serious questions on YA.

Answer 10

umm wow

  89% is nt a bad grade

you should apoligize!!

take him out somewhere fun for what you did.

Answer 11

jeez, that was really harsh. and yes you should apoligize

you probably pushed him too hard. i cant believe you hit your son for bringing home one "bad" grade

Answer 12

Yes! Sometimes kids mess up or just don't try as hard as they could.

Sincerly apoligize and let him know how much you love him, how proud you are of him for all of his hard work. Take him out to dinner or something fun for just the two of you.

Good Luck!

------EDIT------

my 11 year old out of all her classes got one B+ in Language Arts, everything else was an A or A+. I am not at all bothered by that. In fact, there is more to life than stressing your kid out over a B. An 89% is one point away from an A.

Be the man and apoligize!

Answer 13

You don't seem worthy to have such a great kid. You were way too hard on him. Hitting him? He should have hit you back! Skip dinner? Because of an 89? You are freakin nuts! And sleep on the floor? He's not a dog. You are.

You need to go apologize to him and BEG him for forgiveness.

Answer 14

If this is true then you should have your child taken away, because your actions were an F-. If this really is serious lucky  for him he is almost old enough to get away from your sorry ***.

Answer 15

I hate to say this but, if you keep this up you may not have a son to apologize to in the near future. It is kids like these

that are always falling short of your "too" high expectations

that usually end up making drastic decisions to look elsewhere for approval, and you wouldn't believe the suicide rate of all the A student's that just couldn't get it perfect for mom & dad!!!

God Bless Your Son & You.

And, no, apologies don't hurt.

Answer 16

this has got to be a joke.  if not then, what kind of mother are you?   you should be the one sleeping on the floor.  most parents would jump of joy if their kid got an 89 or even if they were just getting by in all AP classes,  not only should you apologize but you should reward him.

Answer 17

Yes.That was harsh.This is a joke,Right? I mean SERIOUSLY.At least he passed.Sleep on the floor? Is this your dog?.He could of failed and you probably would have been proud right? Sir,Is it opposite day in your ''world''?

Answer 18

That was not harsh.  That was abuse.  Apologize and don't ever do it again.  Your child is NOT his grades.  Learn to accept him.  Stop living through him.

Answer 19

It's one fricken test its not going to do a whole lot of damage to his grade

plus it was a B so

wtf is your problem

if it was an F i could almost ALMOST see you why you would hit him but come on

and i am sure he didnt want to come home with a B

you should have been more understanding

Saying Hunny i know you didnt  do as well as you usally do but just try harder next time.

Instead of punishing him FOR A B

some mothers out there would die for their kid to get a B but you punish yours

You my dear are in the wrong not your son

Answer 20

What you did is so very extreme. He is still in the top classes and still getting great grades. You should be praising him and encouraging him to continue. Beating him will make him rebel and then you have some trouble heading your way.

APOLOGISE now and don't hit him again.

Answer 21

I don't think this is a sincere question, but if it is, I want to caution you.  I grew up in honors/AP classes and there were a few kids with parents who put an extreme amount of pressure on them.  You know what happened when they got to college?  They tanked big time.  The first time they got a breath of freedom they stopped studying and starting enjoying life around them.  

Do you want your son to drop out of college in his first semester?  I saw it happen to three separate people who had overbearing, high-pressure parents.  That's where you're headed.

Answer 22

This has got to be a joke or you need to seriously re-think your parenting strategies. I think you have some serious issues that you need to deal with. Next time i would think about taking them out another way then on your son. Like are you completely loony? An 89 is way better then what a lot of kids get. A lot of parents would jump for joy with an 89. I think you need to take a step back and realize how mental your getting about this grade thing. An 89 will not bring his mark down that much. And i am really wondering about you when your asking that he's acting a bit down and you are wondering if you were harsh. Well yes you were way to harsh. And do you seriously not understand why he's been acting down. I think you need to be the one sleeping on the floor and i think you shouldn't be eating dinner for a week with those actions you did. Maybe instead of punishing him maybe reward him. That will encourage him too do good all the time. And if you are at all concerned about your son (which i really don't think you are) why don't you sit down with him and go over the test. Try to understand why he "didn't do well". I would definitely apologize or else he'll do worse next time. If you punish him like that alls he will think is well since my mum doesn't appreciate an 89 and thats the best i can do then there's no use in trying. I no from experience. So why don't you try to start loving your son instead of treating him like an animal. But then again i wouldn't even treat my cat like that. Good Luck with everything. And if you still have issues maybe see a therapist for yourself. I think you would benefit.

Answer 23

Yes you need to apologize.  Don't worry about letting him "off the hook;"  he isn't on one and he never was.

It is you who is on the hook and you will be very lucky indeed if he accepts your apology and lets YOU off the hook.

Answer 24

You're a troll, it's easy to tell. And one 89% will not bring down his grades.

Answer 25

yes you should apologize. an 89 is still good, especially in an AP class.

Answer 26

Yes, he still did great.

Answer 27

i get 60's in school and i try really hard and my parents try to support me, but they do feel like i can do better

so yea, and reward him to

Answer 28

And what were YOUR grades in high school?

Stop trying to relive your wasted youth through your son.  Not fair.

And take a parenting class, please!!!!

Answer 29

I hope you intend on helping him pay for therapy during later years.

Answer 30

Harsh? No, more like abusive. Way to s***w up your son.

Answer 31

Harsh isn't the word for it. You were way over the top. Why don't you look at some of the good things. So he gets an 89 on one test, he could have failed it. So he didn't get a 100, he could have gotten hooked on drugs. You say he has been a bit down, is that because of you??????????? Yelling, making him sleep on the floor, skipping dinner. I am afrain of what will happen to him too, wspecially if you keep treating him like this. You need to step back and see what you really have, the next thing you should is appologize to him, over, and over, and over.

You went way off the deep end, but he will forgive you, if you show that you love him and the 89 was OK.pp