Should I ask her to chip in for dates?

Question

So we're still in school, she doesnt have a job, and her family is not rich. Pretty much everyone in her family is chipping in to help her go to college. I worked before going to school and have money saved up, plus I have a part-time job that pays enough. Yet, I cant afford to go to elegant dinners or concerts/shows because of it. They do give her an allowance.

Answer 1

Peter N is right, college is not the time to be out looking for true love.  

By the way, when a woman doesn't like to work, that is a HUGE red flag!

Run while you still can!!!

Answer 2

So wait a minute, let me get this straight. You are dating a girl and you want to go dutch? Wow, I don't get this generation of youngins. I'm in my 30's but NEVER did I ask a woman to chip in on a date. A date doesn't have to be expensive or elegant to be a date. You go where you can afford to go - if she doesn't like it, then yes she can chip in to go some place nicer. Or you can find someone to date who doesn't mind living within your means.

Answer 3

Well I think she should offer to pitch in, but also tone down your dates...if neither of you can afford expensive dinners, dont go to an expensive place

Answer 4

Yes you should. Why can't she get a part-time job also? She needs to be aware and be more considerate of your finances. If she is not aware, then make her aware.

Answer 5

When you ask someone out, there is an understanding that you will pay.  If you ask her out but say can you chip in? does not sound good/nice. But if you ask if you could go dutch? that sounds a lot better.  

Answer 6

So why are you letting some chick use you for free dinners and concerts?

You are in college, what the h**l is wrong with you?  If you had a shred of game you would just be banging different chicks!  That's part of the college experience!  Hump em and Dump em!

Answer 7

well, why would you go to expensive place if you don't have enough money. Be frugall

Answer 8

yeah

Answer 9

Why do you have to have elegant dinners or expensive nights out?  Try the simple things in life right now, and when you both have good jobs, then splurge.  

Answer 10

If you ask her out, then you should pay.  Otherwise, it's like asking someone over for dinner and asking them to cook and entertain.  If you both decide you want to do something together, then each person should pay your own way.  Frankly, elegant dinners, etc., should be for special occasion  Your both in school, and those kind of activities are really non-essential (unlike rent, gas, food and textbooks).  Depending on where you live, there may be a ton of free activities that you can get involved in.  Plays and concerts on campus, local street fairs and festivals, city sponsored concerts, etc.  Especially if you live in or near a large city.  The priority is the two of you getting through school without a lot of debt.  You'll have plenty of time for the other stuff when you're better able (namely employed) to enjoy them.