Should I ask my mum to give me away along with my dad?

Question

I'm getting married in about a month and my dad asked if my mum could give me away along with him. Initially I said no, as me and my mum don't get along very well and over the course of my life she's said some pretty mean things to me. I get along much better with my dad, with all his quirks.

However, I'm now feeling guilty for having said no and having denied her this honour. Part of me wants to keep things real and have this ceremony reflect the reality that I'm not close with my mum, but part of me feels like I'm doing something bad.

What do you think I should do?

Answer 1

ok...I see your point of view on your mom and you...... but I would ask you to now change your mind  and say "yes"....only to please..and as a favor to your Dad...and who knows ..maybe after this walk down the line with them together...maybe things will be more pleasant then on.

good luck!!!

Answer 2

I think you should not have her give you away. Too risky given that she already threatened to ruin it. Do not feel bad about it. The bad relationship you have with her has been a long-going thing, and that will not change (as you point out).

Answer 3

I think, given the history that you and your mother have, that you are totally within your right to say "no" to her giving you away.  It is after all your day and you should have it the way you want it.  Don't settle for things you don't want just to make other people happy - it is your day and they should be respecting your wishes

Answer 4

Did your mother ask your father to ask you?  Or is this something that your father came up with on his own as a way to try to bring you both closer together?  Is your mother playing a part at all in your wedding?  More details would be helpful.

Answer 5

do whichever makes you happy. you dont want to stuck with your mom and not happy forever,

Answer 6

It is your wedding! You choose what you want, because they will be your memories. Besides, traditionally, the father always gives the bride away.