Should I avoid ever getting in a relationship

Question

I never could get emotionally close to anyone. I have friends and all that, but I am a narcissist and could never really fell deep emotions such as love. I hate people putting their hands on me. Also, one of my balls is bigger than the other because I have a hydrocele, which is a fluid filled area around the balls. I think that it may make me infertile, even though the doctor said it shouldn't. I am self-conscious about that. I have never even asked a girl out before because I am too nervous to.

If I had kids, I would be using them to further my own political goals, not for any other reason.

Answer 1

You don't have to attempt to have a girl friend. But your wrong about thinking you will never get a girl friend. That part you can't be sure of. In the case of hydrocele you may be self concious now but your in good conditions because this is not a life problem. These are some suggestions about that: What are the treatments for hydrocele?

Leave alone. If the hydrocele causes no symptoms one option is simply to leave it alone. If it becomes larger or troublesome, you can always change your mind.

Drainage. The fluid can be drained easily with a needle and syringe. However, it is common for the sac of the hydrocele to refill with fluid within a few months. Draining every now and then may be an option if you are an older person and not fit for surgery, or if you do not want an operation.Surgery. Hydroceles can usually be cured with a relatively simple surgical operation.

So their you go the problem can be cure, just have faith. If the doctor say's you wont be infertile by this, believe him he know's more about this condition. You wouldn't scare me if I was to date you. NO! is not that serious. and with the girl part, we can't control feelings remember that. They just happen. So when your time comes you will be in love. When your in love you will feel that, that special someone means alot to you. you will feel that your life is not completed with out her and when kids come you will love just as much. If their is a career your interested in their is no need to stop it for that, it will be unique to have someone by your side that see's you with so much admiration. and yeah the hating on girls touching will and can go away, as I explained to you above, about the condition. Is not a bad thing to care about yourself alot. But it can hurt you if you dont open up to people. Experience and learn from other's, you will be shock to notice how many people can relate to you. and more important when something and if something happens to you is a great idea to share it with someone kkeping it to yourself wont do any good. I mean thinking only about yourself will affect your career, no one will feel comfortable with no one that only cares about themselves. so try an meet some people and open up slowly it doesn't need to happen over night, make plans to go out, say what ever is on your mind and have fun, you will have so much good experiences. Think about this what will be of this world if everyone only care about themselves, with all that has happen to this world we might off not being here. You don't have to get agirl friend if you don't want to but try. Understand others. and trust me the embarrestment will go away if you try an  get to know each other and have a good communication. This is how trust is build and it is all we need. read this quote: "what we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal"    

Answer 2

s*x is life.

Love its a necessity just like water food and shelter.

Don't be nervous.

Answer 3

I agree with you, you should not breed.  We already have our quota of arrogant snobs.

Answer 4

First of all i think that being in a relationship will help better the person that you are and experiencing love is something you don't want to go through life without. step out of your comfort zone, quit being soo picky, i think you'll find that you'll like dateing.... plus you dont' have to hace s*x unless you love someone or are married, sooooo.. if that day ever comes most likely the girl will love you and it won't matter about your "problem", plus alot of guys have that problem where one ball is bigger than they other.. its common so don't let it stop you from doing normal things

Answer 5

u know u make urself come out as a real arrogant jerk in ur question. maybe u should reword it or sumthing. as far as answering ur question...u dont have to have s*x in a relationship. there are celebate ppl in relationships and there are ppl who are abstinent, so if u wait to get married, by then u should be comfortable enuff with that person.and as for having babies, if u really feel that way and u can be so heartless, save the girl the drama and headache.  

Answer 6

You probably just feel this way now. You'll probably get over it.