Should I be excited...GUYS: how serious is it when....?

Question

Maybe I should post this in Singles/ Dating but some of the folks there seem too young...I am 29...my BF is 28

How big a deal is it when you look at engagement rings...on your own, without being asked to or pushed to? How close are you to popping the question?

What would you spend if you were financially secure? Hypothetically. I am NOT a gold digger, just curious from inside a man's mind.

Yes, I asked this earlier but it is driving me crazy so keep the answers coming.

Answer 1

I would say very close,But does the cost really matter to you? I would be happy with anything as long as he chose the ring because he knew I would absolutely love it,Actually were having pennies melted down and made into rings One with his birth date, One with my birth date, and one with the date of our wedding

I didn't want a engagement ring I wanted that money to go towards our wedding reception

OK? I was just asking I didn't mean to upset you I just hate it when people put so much importance to the cost of things I didn't mean to offend you,like the size of the diamond or how much it costs has any baring on how much someone actually loves you You know what I mean?

Answer 2

My guess would be that he is really close.  Maybe he took you shopping to try to figure out what your response will be.  Even though you've probably been dating quite a while and you think he knows you will say yes, he's probably nervous about it.  I know I was nervous and shaking and my wife thought I was silly.  She says it was obvious she would say yes, but I didn't see it.

I think the diamond industry says you should spend 2-3 months salary, take that with a grain of salt.  You don't want to impoverish the guy you're marrying.  By the way, I didn't take my wife shopping, I just bought it and gave it to her.

Answer 3

First off that 3 month "rule" was made up by people who sell jewelry to try to sell more expensive jewelry.

I spent about half of one months salary on our engagement and wedding set.  But my wife looked around with me and we did it together.  We found a set that we liked.  It had character, looked classy and was unique.

Don't get sucked in to the hype about how much to spend, look for something that looks classy, something that just looks like it "fits" for your relationship.  And white gold is nice I have it in my wedding ring.

Answer 4

White gold is very nice and so is platinum if I was buying one for my wife I would consider in the 1000-3000 dollar mark anything more then that in my wage category would be just dumb my wife is not that materialistic and c**p I could by her a nice used car for not much more then this.  Go with something you like but do not go nuts enough that your going to be in debt for awhile.  If  a guy is looking he could be considering within the next 6 months to a year.  Alot of guys go on the rule that the ring should cost about as much as three months worth of pay.

Answer 5

If he is looking at rings, then he's thinking about it.  Could happen tomorrow could happen a couple years from now.  Don't get your hopes up and start thinking that it will be next week, you do that then your liable to get disappointed and start pushing and hinting about it.  If you do, it will make the very idea of asking you to marry him be the last thing he wants, just sit quietly wait patiently and be happy with the relationship that you have with him now.

Traditionally, the ring should cost 2 months of his salary.  However, most guys don't go with tradition and spend whatever they feel like on it.  Personally, i asked my wife in passing what type of ring she wanted, she told me and i still didn't get what she was talking about so i asked her to show me a picture.  She sent me a link, i looked at it, went to that exact store and bought that exact ring.  Bout 3 months later i asked her to marry me.

Answer 6

It is not the quantity of money you spend on it.  Although, I wouldn't be cheap about it.

I definitely think you should get something you both are comfortable with in terms of price and ensuring everyone is happy.  I love the platinum look and it is a stronger metal than gold.  

Just remember, I would not go into debt on a diamond ring.  Not worth it.  Get something that is nice and sentimental.  

Good luck and have fun.