Should I be mad at my boyfriend for wanting me to send him picures?

Question

Ok i'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. The other day he asked if i would ever send him a topless picture of myself. I got mad and hung up on him. Last year 5 girls at our school did that and the pictures got all over school and they got kicked off cheerleading and now everyone thinks they're s****s. I have a really good reputation and I would never risk it by doing that. So it made me kinda mad that he'd want me to risk that happening to me.

Anyway, he said he was sorry and that he was just kidding. But now he keeps bringing it up, talking about all these guys whose girlfriends send them pics, and how it's not that bad, that everyone in high school does it. I know he really loves me and he'd never try to force me to do something I didn't want to, but it's starting to get irritating. If he brings it up again, what should I do? Should I get really mad at him? Or should I just be like "whatever, that's great for them but I'm not doing it"?

Answer 1

Eww.

Where I live, that would get every guy who told their girl friend to do that, and every girl who did it would likely get the worst Rep. EVER.

If my BF asked me to do that I would dump him right then and there.

At 14, we shouldn't be invovled in this kind of c**p!

Really, if he mentions it ever again, call him a Perv. And tell him that if he brings it up one more time that you are gonna dump him.

Me and My BF have been together for almost 2 years too.

And, I trust him not to even think of that kinda of c**p!

Answer 2

No, you haven't already done it for a reason. Plus why would you want to ruin yoru reputation so that you'ld be a s***k. Plus, the pictures could accidently get to another person or be seen by another person. Or he might tell his friends. I would be mad at a guy for that, because relationships are more than the physical stuff.

Answer 3

send him a pic of you top-less but make him swear not to show it to anybody

Answer 4

Any boyfriend in his right mind would never ask a girlfriend to do something that makes her feel unsure or afraid.  It's apparent that he wants to be able to brag or trade with his friends and therefore I think and it's simply my point of few as a father that you should dumb the dirt bag.  He isn't likely to change and I can't see you continuing to be dumped on about this, he is a CAD.

Answer 5

yeah deffinatly dont send him any pictures of yourself...if he asks again just say hes making you uncomfortable

Answer 6

Yes it would be another thing if he dropped it but he is obviously not respecting you and you cant have a relationship without respect. I know you probaly like him alot but remember he is a teenage boy and i dont think you should stay with him. We had a few girls do that at my school and one even had a good reputation but its ruined now. A reputation carries with you forever but a highschool boy wont.

Answer 7

of course u shud be mad at him. just ignore n tell him 2 stop bringing it up

Answer 8

He's asking you to risk your reputation and to bare yourself to him in a way that reflects a pornographic interest in you but you say you "know he really loves you"?!@?!?!?!

WTF?!?!?

He's addicted to p**n and wants you to pretend you're his p**n star. Bail. Fast.

Answer 9

I understand where your coming from and would never send pics like that out. So tell him in a joking way, "I'm not doing it, so dont pressure me." If he continues then change your tone serious and say, "No seriously I'm not doing it because thats not a part of who I am, and if it's a problem to you oh well," Because to a certain extent that gets anooying because doing something like that could be carried on throughout your life so don't risk it okay?

Answer 10

you should be

if hes you boyfriend he shuld never take away your pride like that ,  

Answer 11

Ah to be a teenager again. His hormones are raging, it's normal for his age. In the meantime, you should probably end the relationship.  He wants to photo share with his buddies.

Answer 12

Um, you said "I know he really loves me and he'd never try to force me to do something I didn't want to do." Well, what in the world do you think he's doing? He's trying to talk you into doing something you don't want to do! If he brings it up again tell him that you really mean no and to not ask again. If he does, kick him to the curb. He's being a jerk.

Answer 13

Tell him you're not going to do it (which is a wise decision on your part), and not to ask you again. Make sure he understands that you mean it, that you've had enough of the requests, and that your No is final.

If he asks you again after that, THEN let him have it.

Answer 14

girl thats wrong dont do that bc he will show his friends in a heart beat ... dont ever do it pleas :)

Answer 15

Just tell him how you feel about it, don't get mad or something. Maybe he just doesn't know why you won't do it? So just tell him the reasons.

Answer 16

Don't send him a pic. Show him in person if you want to. Then it would be no way it will be all over the school. You dont have to do anything you dont want to?

Answer 17

do whats confrtibal, you need to draw a line and not cross it,

Answer 18

Hey girl don't do it stand ur ground u guys are way too young to be thinking about nude pics at this time esp since there are lot of mean teenagers ur age that would do anything to manipulate those pics if they ever get it just avoid it wit all cause and pay more attention to ur school work and getting into college work hard school first always ok believe me it will pay off in the longer run >> hope i helped ...Best of luck ok :)  

Answer 19

Whichever I think. Just ignore him when he's doing it, or ask if he'd not rather be with one of them then. That'll make him think!

Answer 20

you should be

Answer 21

I like your answer "whatever, that's great for them but I'm not doing it."

I was thinking more along the lines of "I am not doing that.  I don't want to hear another word about it ever again.  I'm not doing that and so stop asking."  (I tend to be a little on the rude side sometimes)

Answer 22

To be completely honest, it's your choice and considering you didn't send him the pictures tells me your very mature and have your own values.  In my opinion, those girls at your school seem desperate and should be flat out embarrassed for doing that.  You shouldn't risk your reputation for something your boyfriend wants.  You shouldn't get mad, though. He's a guy going through puberty, for goodness sake. lol

Answer 23

i think you should tell him that he needs to stop bringing it up. ask him if hes "implying" something since hes always asking. you don't have to be mad at him, i mean teenage boys are really... you know what i mean... lol but you have to let him know that its bothering you that hes mentioning something that you dont like way too much.

and im just saying, dont ever send the picture, not to anybody! cuz you might never know what and whos on the other end of the phone!

hope this helps you? = )

Answer 24

Yes, NEVER ever sent anyone your pic. It can get him in trouble and it could cost you your dignity. Meaning he can post it anywhere he wants and if you break up then it could be used for any purpose, like his friends and coworkers and maybe even your family. Bottom line dont give in cause he is pressuring you, have some respect for yourself and tell him simply "NO" !! Its ok to say no!

Answer 25

DO WAT U WANT GRL

Answer 26

Personally, don't do it, it will ruin your reputation.  

Answer 27

Don't do it, because chances are when you break up, he'll use it against you. He's just a horny little boy and probably not worth your time.

Answer 28

i dont think you should HAVE to send him any pictures of your body. i sent pictures and they did get out all over the school. it wasnt good but we got through it. tell him youre not comfortable with it and if he doesnt respect that then s***w him.

Answer 29

you should be.

Answer 30

Well, you have a right to be mad at him, but he just wants what every other teenage guy wants, so you can't blame him.

Just tell him your reasons for not wanting to send him a picture like that, because I think your reasons are very good. Ask him how he would like everyone thinking his girlfriend was a complete s***k.

Hope I helped :)

Answer 31

my sister did that and let me tell you what happened to her. People found out and the police got called. Not only did her boyfriend get in trouble but she did to. He got charged with explioting a minor and she got in trouble for supplying a minor with pornography. Im not saying your gonna tell police or that he will but if an adult finds out they are required by law to tell police. Or they could get charged with neglect of a child. Just a thought. Maybe you want to bring it up to him.