Should I be mad that my son's father took my son from the baby sitter today and did not tell me in advance?

Question

I mean he is flaky to begin with and he sees him at his own convieniece anyway...It wouldnt have been a big deal if he would've told me in advance so I would've gotten the necessities....I'm over reacting, right?

He says he's gonna bring him back by 5pm tomorrow . My son is 11 mos..I was planning on taking my son out to a dinner. I had a very busy weekend working so I have not spent and real time with my son since thurs and Idk ...I guess I was just looking forward to doing that today

Answer 1

My initial impression is that your priority is you, his priority is him, and I feel sorry for junior...Thursday was five days ago.  Who HAS been spending quality time with him the last five days??

Answer 2

Absolutely. My parents had a heart attack when my aunt brought us on a play date and didn't tell my parents we were leaving and I was like 8. I'd have a heart-attack if my baby daddy took my little one without me knowing. You should have the right to know where your baby is at all times. I'd suggest explaining why you're upset CALMLY and working out a way to let each other know if you're going to take the baby at a time other than previously agreed on.

Answer 3

i would be mad too!your son's father should of you!

Answer 4

No, you are not over reacting.  Even though he's the father, he needs to understand that this is unacceptable.  You said he's flaky - is he trying to play "keep away" with you? This kind of behavior is really immature.  Also, your child needs stabiliy in his life so it's not fair to him if his father sees him at his convenience.  

Answer 5

Well that does seem a little inappropriate. Its good the father is in his life though. Try to talk to him about it casually don't make to much of a fuss just say I had plans and it would be best for both me and the child if you plan ahead next time and let me know you picked him/her up so that I don't worry.

Answer 6

You "had a very busy weekend working"

Your husband(?) might be thoughtful of you, allowing you some free time to relax and all.

You were planning to take your son out to a dinner. Fancy restaurant? How great would that be? I doubt he would have been interested in the fancy foods anyway. And most kids that age, wouldn't they just make a fuss there?

Sure, it would be nice for you and your son to spend some "quality time" together.

Answer 7

Definitely be mad, it could be construed as kidnapping even.

Answer 8

of course you should be upset you were put in a position to worry for your child when it was not nesesary! even though he is the father he should have told you his plans so that you pulling your hair out could have been avoided!

Answer 9

Tell him how you feel, and next tie let you know.

Answer 10

I'd be raging personally. That is irresponsible and he needs to grow up.