Should I be preppy or be myself??

Question

Last year i was at a hee-uge public school and the whole hip hop image was like, THE image to be. if you weren't hip hop, you were totally lame. I got really caught up and obsessed with being like everyone else, so i started to listen to 100% rap, and i got bad grades, and i dressed hip hop. Now this year i'm gonna go to private school for the first time and i'm a lot more girly and sane nowadays, but whenever i see even just one girl that looks like the old me, i get really jealous and wish i could go back to that whole image i had. I'm REALLY upset right now b/c school starts in 2 days and i keep wishing i could have stayed at public school but now there's no going back since my parents already paid tuition. What should i do? Try to like my new private school and be more girly and preppy like the girls at the new school? I really don't like a preppy image, i like the hip hop image, but my parents are the strict-type and they don't want their "little girl" to behave like that. I'm completely lost and confused and sorry this is so long, but i can't live under this pressure to be a "good girl"...i feel like dying sometimes b/c i can't act how i want, and if i don't improve this year, i have to be home-schooled, which i don't want. i just don't understand why being "preppy and girly" is the only "right way" to live. i know my parents mean well, but i honestly just wish i could have one more chance at public school. i promised to my parents i would get good grades there, but they won't budge. please answer this, any advice will help♥

Answer 1

be yourself. You might be surprised at all you entail.

Answer 2

too long didn't read but its always best to be yourself

Answer 3

Well....no offense, but why would you want a hip hop image? W/E, to each her own...but I much prefer the preppy look. I suggest switching over to preppy, but with your own twist on it. Wear preppy clothes, with one gangster or urban touch---barely noticeable. I would not aim to fail if I were you. Get good grades, be good, and have fun. Trust me, in your new school, you will be better liked for these things anyways. By the way, if you want it , a quick lesson on preps. If you are like many kids today, you might think preps are hollister loving cheerleaders that say "OMG" all the time. Maybe some public school preps...but real preps, often ones attending private school, are very different. Real preps are classy, smart, and play sports like tennis, field hocke, and lacrosse. They wear ralph lauren, lilly pulitzer, lacoste, etc. Look preppy up on urban dictionary. Good luck!

Answer 4

well defiantly be yourself, dont let anyone force you to be someone else, and dont be jealous about anything because it is not going to get you anywhere.  Be yourself and you will find that life is a lot happier and easier  

Answer 5

Just be yourself!!!

Answer 6

be yourself. if you're smart be smart. if you're girly, be girly. if you're hip-hop-y be hip-hop-y. if you're a mixture be a mixture.

get it?

Answer 7

first of all, you were not hip hop at all, you were a copy. Not a bad thing, if you can still think for yourself and you obviously set a bad impression with the parents. You could have kept up the grades and been in with the hip hop, instead you showed your parents you were a follower, whether it ruined you or not. It really had little to do with being hip hop, but "you" gave them that impression.

    And like the "strictness" or not, your very wrong about your parents being so. They are only giving you a true example and view of real life.

    Life, society and the law are not fair, nor do they give second chances. That my dear, is like the pretty fairly tales we tell little kids, to give them a sense of security, hope and beauty.

    Speaking of preppy or hip hop, both these did not start as a fashion, they were a copy of  some very "confident, original and unique persons", who had the courage to dress and think like a true individual.  Once that is taken from them, they no longer wish to be looked at as part of the impersonation, that fashion designer and money grubbing corporations sell to the mindless masses.

     But go ahead, join in any simple minded fool can do it and does. Why not be an original, "yourself", doesn't mean you can't take those same clothes and be unique or original about it, throw something else in, wear it a little different. Not one fashion you've seen in your life is original. They die out for 10-20yrs and designers bring them back, call them new and try to take all the credit for themselves. Just look back at history old catalogs, films, books, even the net.

     As for acting the way you want, you could get away with it, if you prove you know what priorities are, grades and studies come first, if you can do that, i guarentee you will see a change in them, you'll also be showing good judgement, some maturity, a lot of respect for their emotions, position, hard work and they will trust you more, which will "totally" pay off in a couple of more yrs when your really gonna want more freedom.

       Show them you can do as i mentioned, it will take a yr or so, but they will be so pleased in the change, you'll get a lot more of what you want, it really just a trade off.  Give them what they want and you'll get what you want, because that is the way life works.  And be sure, when you turn down going out or something, that they hear you tell whoever, that you have to turn them down to study or finish some school work up, even if you don't or thats not the reason your not going. Prove it first and you just may get back to a regular school.

Answer 8

I kan just read the title and nothin else. U shud always be urself. Dont change for others because then u wud be livin for them and not urself. As long as u love urself thats all that matters

Answer 9

be yurself damit!!! you will just end u confusing yourself and losing who you realy are and thats never good

Answer 10

i think it's best if you be yourself

i sort of had the exact same problem as you and i didnt like it

and you can also be yourself if you were home schooled

Answer 11

be ur self

Answer 12

Um, I didnt read all of what you wrote...I stopped at "Listen to 100% rap and I got bad grades"

First of all, dont blame Rap for your bad grades.  

Second, be yourself.  

Third, if you become anything esle, everyone will know you are a fake.   There is nothing more pathetic than someone becoming something they are not.  

Anyone who will like you will like for who you are.  I cant imagine how terrible it would be for you to constantly put on an act just to make friends.   True friends accept you for WHO you are, not for the music you listen to or the clothes you wear.  

My final suggestion, whatever you wear,make sure it is appropriate, if you are going to a private school chances are you will have to wear uniforms, so that takes the guess work out of what you will have to wear.  When you are out of school, where things that compliment your body figure, and things that YOU think are pretty.   In a few years from now when you become an adult, none of this will matter.  

Answer 13

OH MY GOSH BE YOURSELF!!!! IMMITATION IS SUICIDE!!! i hate people who are preppy just cuz other people are!!! SERISOULY ITS MORE FUN BEING YOURSELF ANYWAY!!!!

Answer 14

just be youself... there are way too many preppy clones out there.. dont bother trying to be one of them..