Should I be upset that I didn't get asked to be a bridesmaid?

Question

Should I be upset that my brothers fiance didn't ask me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding but she asked my sister? Neither my sister or I is close to her but she calls my sister her favorite..she asked my sister to be a bridesmaid and my brother is the bestman so I am the only one not in the wedding.....I feel kind of bad...

Answer 1

Wow that's bitc h material right there...

My fiancee has 2 sisters, that's like me picking one and leaving the other out of my wedding. Even if she doesn't ''like'' you, that's not right..

So confront her, or your brother and  tell them you just feel left out, and ask why she picked your brother n sister but you got left out?

If you don't  get an answer you'll just feel even worse.

Answer 2

Thank your lucky stars that you aren't a bridesmaid.  You get to just enjoy the wedding without dealing with bridezilla.  In the long run, you'll probably be happier not to deal with someone who is such an ***. It is bad enough to be related to them by marriage later on.

Answer 3

It's okay to feel bad, you can't help how you feel. But I would move on, it's not something to get stressed out about, is it?

Answer 4

Don't assume it was an easy decision for her. Theres lots of girls I want to be in my wedding party, but you have to cut it off somewhere!

Answer 5

When is the wedding?  You have by your avatar that you are 22 weeks pregnant.  SO is she afraid that you will be too big for the bridesmaid dress ??

Additional:  Ask your brother and sister-in-law that you want to be apart of the wedding and ask how can you help.  Or ask your mom to see why they didn't include you.  I know you are hurt but just put a smile on and try to enjoy.  Sorry :(

Answer 6

That is hurtful but I would not hold a grudge over it. Is your sister close to her age? That may have something to do with it. It is normal to have your feelings hurt over this.

Answer 7

Maybe she wants you taking care of your baby during the ceremony instead. Who knows

Answer 8

Well you shouldn't feel too bad. The bride gets to decide her side and the groom his. Ask your brother if he can find a special spot for you in his wedding, such as a guest book attendant or something. If not, relax and enjoy just being a guest. It's a lot of work to be in the wedding party.  

Answer 9

Well better to be not asked then 11/2 months before asked to back out of your sisters wedding by your father. who wants you to say you cant do it anyway instead of her having to tell me that she don't want anymore Just because I'm sick right know and have to have neck surgery 5 days after the wedding (they all think that I'm pretty much faking and that Ill take to much meds or something and s***w everything up....) They said that I wasn't supportive enough.. bull! I luv my little sis and I only want whats best for her.  I cried for 2 days now I don't even know if I'm gonna go to the wedding at all.  Ya it sux and people can be so selfish I know its hard and it hurts way to personally. Unfortunately We are not the last ever feel this way.