Should I be with the girl that's having my baby? Do I forget the problems?

Question

Well I recently found out my ex-girlfriends is having my baby. We weren't together when it happened. We just met up one night and it happened. We got to the point that we wanted nothing to do with each other so we stopped talking at all. A month later she calls me with the news. Now i have been dating someone else who i like very much but we don't see each other very often. I don't want to hurt anyone. I've had so many problems with my ex-girlfriend. Her family hates me and we really don't get along. She wants me to be inside all the time but i'm a college boy and i'm always out. I'm torn in two at the moment. Should i nd it with the girl i date now and go back for the sake of the child or keep goin on with my life and just provide for the child without being with the mother. I still have feeling for my ex but its hard to go back to all the problems. what should i do?

Answer 1

MY SISTER ACTUALLY WENT THREW THIS AND WELL I THINK THAT U SHOULD BE FRIENDS WITH UR EX AND STAY WITH THE GIRL THAT U R WITH I MEAN A BABY NEED TO PEOPLE TO GROW AT LEAST AND  I THINIK U SHOULD B THEIR DONT LET THE BABY INTO THE WORLD THINKING THAT U DONT WANT IT OR THAT U LEFT IT BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL FOR UR FUTURE SON/Daughter

Answer 2

I'm very selfish at heart so I would say you support her threw with the baby as much as you can, but I don't always believe in being with someone just because of an unexpected pregnancy, Being tied to someone purely because of a sense of duty in the long term is very harm full, you end up disliking them, yourself and an innocent child. But most definitely take responsibility for the baby its not their fault their in this position

Answer 3

Being that yall already tried the relationship thing and it didnt work out, yall just try to at least get along for the sake of the child.

Answer 4

dont have to LIVE with her..just make sure ur there to provide for the baby and to just be there when ur needed most. since u dont see her often, that has to change when the baby comes.. responsiblility has to come in.. u cant be going out all the time anymore.. just think about it. u know whats right =]

good luck!!

Answer 5

run away. faaaar away.

Answer 6

If you and the ex don't get along, you shouldn't be with her just because she is pregnant. You will begin to hate each other, end up fighting all the time and that isn't good for the child. Pay her child support and stay with the new girlfriend. Be there when she has the baby if she wants you to be.

Answer 7

i think you should be with your ex and be there for the baby. even if you aren't in a "relationship", you need to be there for her. and stay with her. you need to talk to her.

Answer 8

Talk to ur girlfriend and see what she thinkms of you having your ex- girlfriends baby. you should be there for your child. try both and see how it works out, but at least be there for the kid. my other advice is , condoms.

Answer 9

if you're having a child, take responsibility for your actions. you want to have s*x, use protection. because there is always the risk. tell your current gf whats happening, and talk to your ex about options. in the end, you make your decision, good or bad.

Answer 10

you can provide for the child but you dont have to live with your ex!! thats your choice!! if you love your girlfriend now its better to stay with her cause then you wouldnt want to hurt her too!! just provide for the child like sending money going to see it!! unless the feelings you have for your ex are really really strong then just go to her!! her family doesnt matter if you luv her!! you dont have to go back to the problems!! mostly its the way you look at it and the way you feel!!

Answer 11

wow, this is hard and is your choice only.. but, it is never good to back for the sake of a child. but to be there for the child as a respectful dad is good. all this would do is end up in a divorce and hurt your child worse later on. be part of your child's life. help he rout and be there. hope your new girl understands and helps you out. the worst thing in the world is to have a child and the kids never get to see the other parent.. don't let the family keep you out of this  baby's life. good luck