Should I be worried if my wife asks me to...?

Question

Start going to the sunbeds to build up a tan, grow my hair out and start wearing different clothes from my usual? I don't know what it is but just recently she's been talking a lot about how "hot" I can look when I really put the effort into it. She said that I've not been looking my best (hardly surprising when you're working 16 hours a day in the city sometimes) she said that I would look good with a nice tan instead of my pale and tired complexion of recently. Does it mean she only wants what's best for me by taking so much of an interest in how I look? She's even been dressing me up in dress jumpers and shirts with dark jeans whereas I'm used to a t-shirt and jeans.

What do you think?

Thanks for your help.

Answer 1

Dude, dress up for your girl outside the bedroom so she will undress for you inside the bedroom. easy huh?

Answer 2

She wants you to look good.Period. Maybe she wants you to look like that man she fell in love with! Don't let it bother you, if you like yourself, then she should too!

Answer 3

Hey Wrighty, just go with the flow, we all need a boot up the backside sometimes, we are all creatures of habit, sometimes we need to change!  

Answer 4

she may just want you to look good for her... after all, if she started looking bad or unattractive, you would want her to spruce herself up too, rite?  

Answer 5

You've let yourself go basically!

Answer 6

don't worry man. she loves you, beside that she wants you look good for her.

Bring her shopping!!

Answer 7

i think it sounds nice, she's got an eye for how to make you look hot and she wants you to take her advice. it;s not like she;s asking you to get plastic surgery or something, sh's just telling you little details that she likes, like what if you told her you like it when she wears her hair down and when she puts on a dress she looks especially beautiful. same dif. if it makes you feel bad, kind of turn it around in your mind, she's sprucin you up. like if your house needed a paint job and you painted it---it wouldn;t mean you didn;t love your house, quite the opposite!

Answer 8

You should make an effort to please your wife even after marriage. A tanning bed is not good for you but maybe she thinks you look rough. If she prefers you to look a certain way then what's the harm? Take care of her.

Answer 9

Be that it is your wife, she just wants you to look your best. She would not ask if she did not care. 16 hour a day job. Give yourself a break sometime and dance with your wife.

Answer 10

If you have been married awhile, this may be her attempt to spice things up a little. She probably wants to see you looking like you did when you first started dating. Marriage, kids, work, etc. changes us alot and she may want to get back to the way it used to be.

Answer 11

Don`t go on the sunbed babe.. they really are dangerous ..my friend died of skin cancer and my soldier neighbour survived a tour of Iraq only to die of skin cancer when he got home ...

It IS great to take an interest in our partners ..with a little constructive criticism .. so be sure to point out her failings, get her a gym membership, point out a hairstyle  and clothes that you`d prefer on her... and tell her to get a job so you don`t have to work such long hours ...

Answer 12

I think there may possibly be a trust issue in this relationship. she wants a perfect guy, yet you can't give her that if you are working for so long. perhaps you should just talk to her about why she feels  the way she does about changing, get to the heart of the problem. and all the other issues as well perhaps? or maybe she misses you and the s*x because you are working so long and therefore wants to reassure herself you were the right one for her by possesing and making you look fitter and healthier again, not being personal lol. anyway good luck dude!

Answer 13

What's a dress jumper?  Ask her, 'What's going on?'  Doesn't sound like she's belittling you, so it's OK to comply if your wife wants you to look 'hot' and wear nicer clothes.  It's OK to worry and make sure you're keeping things hot and exciting with your wife.  You don't say how long you're married or if she makes the effort to look hot for you... but since you didn't complain, I'll assume yes. If not, then this is your chance to ask her to do what makes her 'hot' in your view. Have fun.

Answer 14

I'm thinking one of two things; and only YOU can answer which of the two is correct.  But I'll GUARANTEE you it's ONE of the two:

1.  She is REALLY still interested in you and wants to improve your sartorial appearance to IMPROVE her attraction to you!

2.  You're already HOT looking, and she's trying to dress you DOWN to make you LESS attractive to other women.

EITHER WAY, she still loves you, obviously, because she's showing interest in YOU!  WAY TO GO!

Answer 15

Tell her that she might look better with a different hair color. Say that her grays are showing. Tell her she might look a little better if she was just a breast size bigger. Tell her that she should be wearing red skirts, not the color pants she's wearing now because that color doesn't suit her eyes.

If she looks confused or hurt, explain that she's making you feel like c**p by constantly harping on YOUR looks. See if that doesn't get through to her.  

Answer 16

I don't think what she's doing is necessarily a bad thing, she just wants you to look good.  But tanning beds?  I dunno, those aren't that safe and I personally would opt for some other option other than those.  But doing your hair different or changing your style of dress is fine.  As long as you are comfortable with all this, of course.  You still have to be happy with you, but some effort is never a bad thing...  

Answer 17

You admit that you don't look, and probably don't feel, your best.  That hurts the woman who loves you.  

Being the social creatures that we are  we don't want others questioning why our man looks worn, tired, possibly sloppy, because it makes us feel that we aren't doing our job which is take care of our man.  Before the feminists start screaming, I believe men should take care of their women too.

I like jeans and ts myself.  But my Husband has to wear a suit to work.  I make sure he has what he needs but am sometimes frustrated that he can dress himself just fine.

Personally if I were your wife I'd be having a fit over the hours you are spending at work.  Its not healthy for you, your relationship or your mental stability.  If you want to continue to be an asset to your company and your wife find a way to end the 16 hour days.

If I thought my having an outside job would ease my hubby's hours I'd get another one.

Get the heck outside in the sun.  Skip the tanning beds and take your wife to the beach.  (buy new trunks before she does)  Show her that you too are interested in more than work.  

By the way your wife thinks your 'hot' how can you turn that down?

Answer 18

she should be happy with how you look whenever she is your wife afterall

it sounds to me as if, shes trying to change you to fit into how she thinks

if you like what she wants you to wear then wear it

but make sure you comfortable

and dont become a pushover

Answer 19

I would say that she is just looking after you - she must love you or she wouldn't care what you wore out!!